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    I really didn't think about it and just went on with life but I came across a certain song by a specific artist about im guessing a miscarriage the biggest problem is it resonates with some things I didn't want to think about. Kind of a bit of me doesn't want to deal with it. If I do I just think about suicide because I really don't feel like I'm worth the air I breath. It's just like I wonder sometimes wanting to be other myself is just a result of the hell im always living in some way and it's completely my fault. But really this whole song describes my situation considering stuff un general.

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    aw hun, i cant relate to having a miscarriage but i imagine its very traumatic. But dont let it get you down too much, thousands of women have had miscarriages. Talk to a therapist if you can and a support group of women who've also went through it, youre not alone and are definitely worth the air you breathe. Listen to happy tunes, dink some tea and cuddle w someone, watch silly movies to take your mind off of it. Get better and you can pm me if you want! :*

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    Default Re: Depression the song playboy mommy set it off....

    The song triggered you. I'm sorry, babe. Some songs set me off like that too. The song "Roxanne" by the Police automatically sets me off/ puts me in a bad mood, etc. because of the lyrics.

    Anyway, I wanted to say that what you are feeling is temporary. This too shall pass. I've had an abortion years ago, and I went on about my life afterwards for a long time thinking nothing of it, then one day out of the blue it hit me, and I just lost it. But the guilt and everything you're feeling, it will pass. You just have to let it go after you've grieved. Your body wants to grieve it, so let that happen. But afterwards you can come to grips with yourself again and move on with your life stronger than ever.

    I know you're going through alot right now. It's normal to have little breaks like this happen. Allow yourself to feel things and process & purge repressed emotions. Don't blame yourself for it. You didn't do anything wrong. Sometimes these things happen. And I agree with the above post, you are definitely worth the air you breathe! You are an amazing human being and you are here on this planet for a reason.
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    Quote Originally Posted by alibby View Post
    aw hun, i cant relate to having a miscarriage but i imagine its very traumatic. But dont let it get you down too much, thousands of women have had miscarriages. Talk to a therapist if you can and a support group of women who've also went through it, youre not alone and are definitely worth the air you breathe. Listen to happy tunes, dink some tea and cuddle w someone, watch silly movies to take your mind off of it. Get better and you can pm me if you want! :*
    I really need therapy for a lot of things im kind of scared due to past experiences I should just try to find the right therapist for myself so when things like this happen I don't automatically want to do something suicidal. You're right.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ScarletKitten View Post
    The song triggered you. I'm sorry, babe. Some songs set me off like that too. The song "Roxanne" by the Police automatically sets me off/ puts me in a bad mood, etc. because of the lyrics.

    Anyway, I wanted to say that what you are feeling is temporary. This too shall pass. I've had an abortion years ago, and I went on about my life afterwards for a long time thinking nothing of it, then one day out of the blue it hit me, and I just lost it. But the guilt and everything you're feeling, it will pass. You just have to let it go after you've grieved. Your body wants to grieve it, so let that happen. But afterwards you can come to grips with yourself again and move on with your life stronger than ever.

    I know you're going through alot right now. It's normal to have little breaks like this happen. Allow yourself to feel things and process & purge repressed emotions. Don't blame yourself for it. You didn't do anything wrong. Sometimes these things happen. And I agree with the above post, you are definitely worth the air you breathe! You are an amazing human being and you are here on this planet for a reason.

    I didn't have an abortion. I contemplated it and was never sure of my decision to keep him or her. But it's just I feel a bit like an undesirable parent and like I don't deserve to be a parent and that just makes me feel as a person worth not much. I don't feel guilty though. I just feel like pretty low in general.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Newtothis21 View Post
    I didn't have an abortion. I contemplated it and was never sure of my decision to keep him or her. But it's just I feel a bit like an undesirable parent and like I don't deserve to be a parent and that just makes me feel as a person worth not much. I don't feel guilty though. I just feel like pretty low in general.
    parents - heck no one - is perfect and make decisions that are less than desirable at times but you do the best with what knowledge and resources you have at the moment.

    I decided against a planned abortion at the last minute and for a long time was consumed by fear, guilt, what-ifs. But the more focus I gave to those feelings the less I could focus on the positive feelings and turning an obstacle in my life into something positive. Your best bet would be learn coping strategies to shake those feelings of guilt and un-deservingness because what kids need most is a happy mom that can help make their lives happier. You deserve to be happy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    parents - heck no one - is perfect and make decisions that are less than desirable at times but you do the best with what knowledge and resources you have at the moment.

    I decided against a planned abortion at the last minute and for a long time was consumed by fear, guilt, what-ifs. But the more focus I gave to those feelings the less I could focus on the positive feelings and turning an obstacle in my life into something positive. Your best bet would be learn coping strategies to shake those feelings of guilt and un-deservingness because what kids need most is a happy mom that can help make their lives happier. You deserve to be happy.
    I just feel bad about miscarrying him or her. That's all. Not my decision to keep her or anything. Which is what triggered me.

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    Default Re: Depression the song playboy mommy set it off....

    Sadly, even in this day and age, miscarriages are extremely common. There are so many things that go into the development of a fetus, so much of which that we still don't remotely understand, that complications arise all the time. This is especially true in the first trimester, which is why many women wait until they enter the second trimester and have another ultrasound before even announcing to family and friends.

    So I really hope you understand this: It is not your fault, it doesn't make you a bad person and it doesn't necessarily mean that you can't have a healthy baby in the future.

    This might seem like cold comfort now, but you will pull through this. You may also be going through postpartum issues, since some of the same chemical changes that occur when you give birth are also present during miscarriages. Depression is not uncommon after miscarriages. If you keep feeling like this, you really should seek some help. Also understand that it will get better.

    As I've said before, I'm the father of 3 children, but we went through 5 pregnancies to get there. We had two miscarriages along the way, both of which were heart-breaking and very hard on my wife. This was despite my wife doing everything right - taking prenatal vitamins, eating right, avoiding any strenuous activities, etc. Meanwhile, there are crackheads and others who do everything wrong, but who give birth to live babies all the time. Truth be told, nobody knows why miscarriages happen. You cannot blame yourself for something that was an uncontrollable act of nature.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Newtothis21 View Post
    I just feel bad about miscarrying him or her. That's all. Not my decision to keep her or anything. Which is what triggered me.
    My bad. So sorry I misunderstood your post.

    Praying for you *hugs* and those hormones gets the best of our emotions sometimes too.
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