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    How do you deal with annoying or catty coworkers?
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    Simply ignore them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xStacey View Post
    Simply ignore them.
    I do this a lot, w/many ppl.


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    I remind myself that what catty people want most of all is to affect me and to see me thrown off my game. As a vengeful bitch, what I want most is to disappoint them. It makes me happy to think about how angry they'll be to see me cheerful and successful and completely unmoved by them or their existence. I channel that happiness to make it come true, and am extra confident and happy all night. I avoid the catty person and have a great night just to spite them.

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    Ignore them, and remember that time they're spending causing drama is time they're not making money, so they are failing to see the whole point of this stripping thing... which is to stack paper.

    I moved to the empty "haunted" dressing room in my club to avoid this crap. The negativity and bad attitudes are literally tangible in the main DR.
    "People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."

    "You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave."

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    ^ The housemum at my club (Ive left) is such a negative person and she is making the DR worse. Rewards the girls who do the wrong thing or spiteful (used pads/chewing gum/harrasment against other girls and their belongings) because they suck up.


    Listen to motivational or relaxing stuff on your headset when you're in the DR. I googled and found this link which I think is useful in terms of helping you to cultivate the mindset to ignore them http://lifehacker.com/5854053/how-to...with-your-life
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    This is super mean but it worked for me- mentally say to yourself WHY a girl is being a bitch to you. (For example "That girl is talking shit because she's a butterface on meth.") However don't say this out loud. Basically acknowledge the truth about gossips and bullies without pointing out that you noticed.

    I just dealt with a ridiculous level of harassment at my day job b/c one of the cokehead bartenders knew I used to strip in this city and TOLD everyone. Too bad for most of the shit talkers but I know most of their dirt too. At the end of the day when I am doing better than them, the talk of small town losers can only annoy me for so long. DO BETTER than people who make time to be petty and small-minded and mean. People like that are craving a response from you so don't give it to them.

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    Wow you guys are amazing, so glad I joined this site! Thanks for the great advice

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    Definitely ignore them. It puts me in a bad mood to try to deal with them and there's never a situation where it got better because I engaged in their bullshit. I wear headphones in the dressing room if it's really bad.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lilylilylily View Post
    What about when they try to mess with you and a customer? Last week this chick who is always super nice to me, greets me with a hug all the time, well I'm chatting up a custie and she cuts in. Starts chatting with him like he's her best friend, so I excuse myself, later does it again with someone else. I am seething now cuz I regret not saying anything cuz I generally keep to myself and stay away from trouble at work. How would you guys have dealt with this? I know I gotta learn to stand up for myself.
    "Excuse me sweetie, but we're talking right now."
    I don't generally advise using condescension, but sounds like she's trying to run you off, so letting her know you're not afraid of her should help.
    "People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."

    "You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave."

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    Girls only talk shit and are catty when they're got nothing better to do and want to make themselves feel bigger and better because they ain't shit. I've never heard a girl talk shit that wasn't insecure as fuck.

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    Avoid them as much as possible. Ignore them, dont look at them or say anything to them, and lock your shit up. I've worked at clubs where bitchy girls have actually destroyed people's things. If they try to start shit, tell them to fuck off or laugh in their face then continue to ignore them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EastCoastDancer01 View Post
    Avoid them as much as possible. Ignore them, dont look at them or say anything to them, and lock your shit up. If they try to start shit, continue to ignore them.
    Yes. Love it.^ Again, I do this w/most ppl.


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    As soon as you get into the DR, wear headphones. Don't go back in there all night if possible. Do your makeup at home and go to work without spending a lot of time in the DR.

    One of the reasons I dislike small clubs is that there are less hiding spots from customers and the other girls when I need downtime.

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    or become the queen bee in the club your working in and change the culture to a more positive one- been there too.
    Tiny tweaks----->BIG CHANGES

    Quote Originally Posted by Kirakonstantin View Post
    More fear-mongering? Really? Yes, this is not the 1990's anymore. Yes, things are changing. Either dance or don't. Freaking out and sowing fear isn't going to help anyone.




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    She actually came up and apologized about doing that. Her excuse was she was really drunk. Anyway I still won't be overly friendly with her anymore. Strictly hi and bye. If that. It seems like every time I am friendly with a girl something like that happens. They think they can cross the line with me.

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