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    Default what do you do when you're REALLY angry

    i want to just hurt anybody who comes in contact with me
    how can i help with this

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    Default Re: what do you do when you're REALLY angry

    personally, I take a step back and assess what and why Im actually mad. and im not talking about what at the moment triggered it that second, usually the reason " that thing" that set me off was fed by something else , which in turn was something else, and further back until I find the core of it which more times than not is a reflection of myself and " why" those things set me off.. I find once i broke something down to its root- its easy to understand, and in turn let it fall to the side.

    but I also subscribe to the " you will never be punished for your anger, but punished by it " and " Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned." lines of thought so I just learned over time to let most things,more so things already done and over with fall to the side and focus more on the now. - also noticed that it helps cut down on stress in general ( and not with just anger but alot of other conditions of mind )
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    Default Re: what do you do when you're REALLY angry

    Diaphragmatic breathing, a cup of chamomile tea, some soothing music (I like the Classical Relaxation channel on Pandora).

    Some form of vigorous exercise; I use an elliptical machine.

    Writing/journalling is good.

    Do you have a pet? They're great listeners.

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    Default Re: what do you do when you're REALLY angry

    I usually end up punching a wall or crying hysterically. And breaking out in hives.

    I try to remember that my anger hurts me more than it hurts whatever the hell I'm pissed about, but that makes me sound a lot more introspective and collected than I actually am.

    Sometimes loud music and a car ride will calm me down. Sometimes a glass of red wine and a nap.

    Can I ask what your anger is directed at? People, situations, life in general?



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    I usually workout or write about it than tear it up or call a friend and vent or vent here.

    Kickboxing is great for rage!

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    Go on GTA and kill people.
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    Masturbate furiously.

    If that doesn't work, scream like a banshee while performing black majick.

    Or watch a war movie while listening to Cannibal Corpse. Maybe that one is too extreme, lol.
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    I get into this aggressive psycho cleaning frenzy mode and stomp around my house while I blast some intense music. That's always been my thing. When Im mad, I clean.
    I also think physical activity of some sort might help you. Running, kickboxing, even walking helps blow off some steam.

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    Crying is really good for you! My school counselor helped me figure out that just crying (instead of hurting myself/ others) solved some of my anger management issues/ adrenalin addiction phases. It's a healthy way to release energy without being harmful.

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    Eat a large 3 musketeers bar or drink a huge chocolate shake.

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    I shut off my phone and log out of facebook so I'm unreachable to anyone. Then I'll generally pour a drink (or several) and write about it - either privately or sometimes post a shortened rant here if I feel like I need some level of support, though sometimes I realize I should've just stayed off the internet entirely because I shouldn't use even SW when I can't control my emotional outbursts. Then I'll turn on something funny on Netflix and probably end up bursting into tears in the middle of it which actually releases a lot of tension even if it's only for a couple minutes.

    I generally have to keep up this isolation until the next day. Everything always seems calmer after I've gotten some sleep.
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    Quote Originally Posted by KaraLynn View Post
    I'm like the Hulk, when I get angry I get REALLY angry so I normally have to isolate myself from humans until I calm down lol
    Speaking of the Hulk... HULK HANDS!



    I scored an original set (from like 2004) at a Value Village a while back. These are wonderful stress relievers, basically over-sized boxing gloves that make crashing noises and shout "Hulk SMASH!" whenever you hit something with them. I think they were deemed a safety hazard and taken off the market, what a shame. I suppose regular boxing gloves could work...

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    Default Re: what do you do when you're REALLY angry

    Generally I try to engage myself with something to take my mind off it and calm down a bit. Cooking, cleaning, watching a good TV show, whatever.

    Otherwise it depends what you're angry about. If it's about another person, then I talk it over with a neutral third party before returning to them to see if I can resolve the issue. But that's only after the cooking/cleaning has let the smoke subside a bit.

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    Beating up people in video games usually does the trick.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ~*SwanPrincess*~ View Post
    I get into this aggressive psycho cleaning frenzy mode and stomp around my house while I blast some intense music. That's always been my thing. When Im mad, I clean.
    I also think physical activity of some sort might help you. Running, kickboxing, even walking helps blow off some steam.
    I love to clean when Im heated too! I feel like Im washing away the negativity and feel sooo much better afterwards. My husband thinks im looney lol glad to know im not the only one.

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    I isolate myself as much as possible. I have a very long fuse... attached to a 300 megaton bomb. I calm down enough to deal with it pretty quickly but I have been known to beat the living fuck out of anyone who tries to fuck with me after I've tried to remove myself from the situation. Seriously, I need to be left alone to sort things out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kirakonstantin View Post
    I have a very long fuse... attached to a 300 megaton bomb.
    ^This made me lol .

    I can't remember the last time I was truly angry, it's really hard to genuinely tick me off. But, when I am mad or upset I usually go for a run to clear my head.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ~*SwanPrincess*~ View Post
    I get into this aggressive psycho cleaning frenzy mode and stomp around my house while I blast some intense music. That's always been my thing. When Im mad, I clean.
    I also think physical activity of some sort might help you. Running, kickboxing, even walking helps blow off some steam.
    I find that cleaning is very therapeutic when I'm angry. It helps me burn off extra energy and distracts me with something to do. Plus I listen to calming music or audiobooks.

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    Honestly I don't even remember making this thread
    I was drunk and customers were pissing me off

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    I take all that anger and squeeze it down into a tiny controllable ball of rage that I keep buried deep inside, awaiting the day when I'm violently attacked and I get to unleash 30-years of pain, rage, and hurt onto the person stupid enough to be the straw that broke the camel's back.

    Basically I do the least healthy thing imaginable. I'd suggest taking literally any approach but mine.
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    Quote Originally Posted by newb2 View Post
    Honestly I don't even remember making this thread
    I was drunk and customers were pissing me off
    Too cute! Been there too. Feeling better now?



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    I've read that we experience anger when we feel that a boundary is being crossed wrongfully. Find the boundary that you feel is being crossed to bring awareness to your emotions. Then work to rectify the situation.

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    When I feel that way, which I do, a lot...I leave the situation and take a long walk...if I'm really mad, I'll run. If I'm in the car, I'll scream and yell.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OliveJardin View Post
    ^This made me lol .

    I can't remember the last time I was truly angry, it's really hard to genuinely tick me off. But, when I am mad or upset I usually go for a run to clear my head.
    It sounds funny but... My goodness, it's ugly in actuality. There have been a couple of moments where it took multiple big guys to pull me off someone. I can count those moments on one hand but... Fuck. I'm really not proud of it.

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    I hug my husband. Seriously, all the anger melts out of me.

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