i want to just hurt anybody who comes in contact with me
how can i help with this




i want to just hurt anybody who comes in contact with me
how can i help with this
personally, I take a step back and assess what and why Im actually mad. and im not talking about what at the moment triggered it that second, usually the reason " that thing" that set me off was fed by something else , which in turn was something else, and further back until I find the core of it which more times than not is a reflection of myself and " why" those things set me off.. I find once i broke something down to its root- its easy to understand, and in turn let it fall to the side.
but I also subscribe to the " you will never be punished for your anger, but punished by it " and " Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned." lines of thought so I just learned over time to let most things,more so things already done and over with fall to the side and focus more on the now. - also noticed that it helps cut down on stress in general ( and not with just anger but alot of other conditions of mind )
Hatred does not cease by hatred but only by love; this is the eternal rule.
" What is Reality? An icicle forming in fire."
-Dogen Zenji




Diaphragmatic breathing, a cup of chamomile tea, some soothing music (I like the Classical Relaxation channel on Pandora).
Some form of vigorous exercise; I use an elliptical machine.
Writing/journalling is good.
Do you have a pet? They're great listeners.





I usually end up punching a wall or crying hysterically. And breaking out in hives.
I try to remember that my anger hurts me more than it hurts whatever the hell I'm pissed about, but that makes me sound a lot more introspective and collected than I actually am.
Sometimes loud music and a car ride will calm me down. Sometimes a glass of red wine and a nap.
Can I ask what your anger is directed at? People, situations, life in general?




I usually workout or write about it than tear it up or call a friend and vent or vent here.
Kickboxing is great for rage!





Go on GTA and kill people.
"Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
Tempest





Masturbate furiously.
If that doesn't work, scream like a banshee while performing black majick.
Or watch a war movie while listening to Cannibal Corpse. Maybe that one is too extreme, lol.
"Dancing tables, making deals with devils like a drunk beauty queen"



I get into this aggressive psycho cleaning frenzy mode and stomp around my house while I blast some intense music. That's always been my thing. When Im mad, I clean.
I also think physical activity of some sort might help you. Running, kickboxing, even walking helps blow off some steam.



Crying is really good for you! My school counselor helped me figure out that just crying (instead of hurting myself/ others) solved some of my anger management issues/ adrenalin addiction phases. It's a healthy way to release energy without being harmful.
Eat a large 3 musketeers bar or drink a huge chocolate shake.
I shut off my phone and log out of facebook so I'm unreachable to anyone. Then I'll generally pour a drink (or several) and write about it - either privately or sometimes post a shortened rant here if I feel like I need some level of support, though sometimes I realize I should've just stayed off the internet entirely because I shouldn't use even SW when I can't control my emotional outbursts.Then I'll turn on something funny on Netflix and probably end up bursting into tears in the middle of it which actually releases a lot of tension even if it's only for a couple minutes.
I generally have to keep up this isolation until the next day. Everything always seems calmer after I've gotten some sleep.
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Don't try to win over the haters. You are not the Jerk Whisperer.
Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.




Speaking of the Hulk... HULK HANDS!
I scored an original set (from like 2004) at a Value Village a while back. These are wonderful stress relievers, basically over-sized boxing gloves that make crashing noises and shout "Hulk SMASH!" whenever you hit something with them. I think they were deemed a safety hazard and taken off the market, what a shame. I suppose regular boxing gloves could work...





Generally I try to engage myself with something to take my mind off it and calm down a bit. Cooking, cleaning, watching a good TV show, whatever.
Otherwise it depends what you're angry about. If it's about another person, then I talk it over with a neutral third party before returning to them to see if I can resolve the issue. But that's only after the cooking/cleaning has let the smoke subside a bit.
Beating up people in video games usually does the trick.
"Well done. Here are the test results: You are a horrible person. I'm serious, that's what it says: 'A horrible person.' We weren't even testing for that."







I isolate myself as much as possible. I have a very long fuse... attached to a 300 megaton bomb. I calm down enough to deal with it pretty quickly but I have been known to beat the living fuck out of anyone who tries to fuck with me after I've tried to remove myself from the situation. Seriously, I need to be left alone to sort things out.





“Give a girl the right shoes and she can conquer the world” -Marilyn Monroe
"True sexiness has many facets-confidence, strength, intelligence, and humor. It isn’t just about trying to look sexy; it’s an art and one becomes skillful in it when she realizes that there are all these conflicting elements that all come together to make something magical"-Dita Von Teese




Honestly I don't even remember making this thread
I was drunk and customers were pissing me off





I take all that anger and squeeze it down into a tiny controllable ball of rage that I keep buried deep inside, awaiting the day when I'm violently attacked and I get to unleash 30-years of pain, rage, and hurt onto the person stupid enough to be the straw that broke the camel's back.
Basically I do the least healthy thing imaginable. I'd suggest taking literally any approach but mine.
I've read that we experience anger when we feel that a boundary is being crossed wrongfully. Find the boundary that you feel is being crossed to bring awareness to your emotions. Then work to rectify the situation.
When I feel that way, which I do, a lot...I leave the situation and take a long walk...if I'm really mad, I'll run. If I'm in the car, I'll scream and yell.





I hug my husband. Seriously, all the anger melts out of me.
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