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    Within a couple of minutes having gotten to the club two dancers approached me. I have gotten dances from both of them before. This is the first time I have seen them in the club at the same time. I tell both of them I will get dances from them. As the evening progresses I get dances from dancer A. I come back in from having a cigarette, dancer B comes up to me. She had been looking for me and had asked dancer A if she had seen me. The response was that I had left and that I only come to the club to see dancer A anyway. I chalk it up to SS and dismiss it. I get some dances from dancer B. Afterwards as I am leaving the bouncer tells me dancer A is pissed at me. I presume she was just being territorial. Now I suspect this will have all blown over by the next time go to the club. My thought is to just ignore it when go back My question is: If she brings it up what is the best thing to say to her? Not wanting to come across as insulting, nor wanting to start a flame war between them. While it may seem like a naïve question, it is strip club and things are little bit different than the real world.

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    Well, if it were me, I'd get a dance from dancer C next time. If I wanted to deal with shit tests and drama, I'd be in a relationship.
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    I would tell her how it is. You like getting dances from both of them. If she wants to act like a child, tell her thank you for the dances, and go to dancer B. Or find dancer C





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    Seriously, tell her. You come to a SC to get dances from whatever woman strikes your fancy. Dancer A does not own you. She doesn't have rights to your entire wallet. If she wants to have a piss poor attitude that makes her lose money, well, she'll figure it out one day when she loses her regulars.
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    You did nothing wrong and getting a customer "poached" is just part of the job and she shouldn't take it personally. I agree with other posters, just tell her that you enjoy spending time with dancer B as well.
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    Laugh in her face and say "you don't own me."

    That kind of attitude from her is such a fucking turn-off. What, are you supposed to babysit the dancers emotions now? Give me a break. She needs to woman up.
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    You are and should be in control of your own choices in the club. If you like the dancers getting all territorial over you, then you're in luck because that's what it appears you have. If you want to be able to choose whatever dancer you want whenever you want, you are in control of that too and should feel free to do so next time you are in the club.

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    Do you really still want to buy dances from Dancer A in the future? If so, I guess I still don't understand men.

    If not, you really don't owe her an explanation. She was the one out of line. It's probably easier to avoid her than to try to make amends with her. Honestly, from your brief description, she sounds like she might be the type to escalate to physical violence, in which case you'd want to avoid the whole club. Let's hope she's just a bitch and not insane.

    If you really feel the need to say something to her, maybe try something like "I didn't like the way things ended last time," then wait to see if she offers an apology. Good luck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by salzsieder67 View Post
    Afterwards as I am leaving the bouncer tells me dancer A is pissed at me. I presume she was just being territorial. Now I suspect this will have all blown over by the next time go to the club. My thought is to just ignore it when go back My question is: If she brings it up what is the best thing to say to her? Not wanting to come across as insulting, nor wanting to start a flame war between them. While it may seem like a naïve question, it is strip club and things are little bit different than the real world.

    Aside from the words of that bouncer, what other evidence you have against dancer A? Did she come to you and told you "I don't like you seeing you spending on other dancers", or did she simply seemed upset? If it's the latter, I'd give her the benefit of the doubt and assumed she was upset about something else not related to you.

    At times, club staff likes to create drama like this just for the lols.





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    I find it interesting how dancers are territorial cunts but if a customer acted this way towards the dancer, he'd be labeled creep/stalker and would of gotten shit for it.

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    Default Re: How to deal with an upset dancer?

    Thanks to all who responded. I had originally dismissed it, until the bouncer also said something. I personally did not see her again after I got dances from the other girl. I am not inclined to get any more dances from her, nor am I going to seek her out to press the issue with her. If she does approach me on my next visit I will take the direct approach as many have suggested and tell her my wallet is mine. If she doesn't approach me, I will just get dances from another girl and not worry about it. I just asked because I did not want to inflame things by being that direct, as sometimes the first instinct is not the correct one in a club.

    I don't think she is a psycho, just being bitchy. If it does turn out to be created drama, that is easily enough dealt with and dismissed. Either way I'm not losing any sleep over it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jay12 View Post
    Aside from the words of that bouncer, what other evidence you have against dancer A? Did she come to you and told you "I don't like you seeing you spending on other dancers", or did she simply seemed upset? If it's the latter, I'd give her the benefit of the doubt and assumed she was upset about something else not related to you.

    At times, club staff likes to create drama like this just for the lols.
    This and the fact that some bouncers favor one dancer over others because that dancer may tip out higher than the other dancers so the bouncers try to keep them in business. Strip clubs tend to be catty in that way between ALL staff, not just the female dancers.

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    ^Right. That was the red flag for me. Why is the bouncer saying anything to this man? Either the OP has tipped staff well and he is sending a friendly warning to watch out, or Dancer A tips him to keep a blind eye and he's . . . . not sure what he's doing. . . but seems to be on the payroll of a mean stripper.

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    Quote Originally Posted by salzsieder67 View Post
    Within a couple of minutes having gotten to the club two dancers approached me. I have gotten dances from both of them before. This is the first time I have seen them in the club at the same time. I tell both of them I will get dances from them. As the evening progresses I get dances from dancer A. I come back in from having a cigarette, dancer B comes up to me. She had been looking for me and had asked dancer A if she had seen me. The response was that I had left and that I only come to the club to see dancer A anyway. I chalk it up to SS and dismiss it. I get some dances from dancer B. Afterwards as I am leaving the bouncer tells me dancer A is pissed at me. I presume she was just being territorial. Now I suspect this will have all blown over by the next time go to the club. My thought is to just ignore it when go back My question is: If she brings it up what is the best thing to say to her? Not wanting to come across as insulting, nor wanting to start a flame war between them. While it may seem like a naïve question, it is strip club and things are little bit different than the real world.
    Yeah dancer A is pissed you had to cut her share in half with dancer B simply because they happened to be there at the same time. Dancer A lied and told Dancer B you left hoping she wouldn't see you and she could someone get you to spend that other half on her later. A lot of the broads have a hard time with the concept of 'team work' or 'there is enough to go around' - this especially if it is a slow night with hardly any customers.

    And the bouncer was being messy. Him telling you Dancer A was mad at you was totally unnecessary and pointless.
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    Why the bouncer opened his mouth I can only imagine, but I would likely have just smiled it off. Unless I need to pay one to go deaf and blind during a trip to the back, I don't really pay much attention to what they think about anything.

    As far as Dancer A goes, I wouldn't "deal with her" at all if she gave me attitude. I go to clubs for entertainment, not drama. I don't reward bad behavior and, IMHO, neither should you. It never ceases to amaze me how many guys tolerate this and I suspect that some even enjoy it, since it makes them feel wanted, but not me. When a girl starts behaving like my club wife and treats me accordingly, she'll usually get a warning, but only one. If it doesn't change then a club divorce quickly follows.

    One aspect I have never found a good answer for is behind-the-scenes drama. I've had some favorite situations where no other dancers would approach me. In some cases, I'm sure club etiquette was in play, but in others I learned, after-the-fact, that other girls were afraid of the potential consequences. There may never be a good answer to this, since we cannot control how girls treat each other in the DR or what rules they decide to play by, but I keep searching for the magic bullet.

    Anyway, just my

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    And don't ever tell them you dance exclusively with them if you really want to try dances with other dancers. The dancers can get territorial over their 'regulars' especially on slow shifts or big spenders.
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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    And don't ever tell them you dance exclusively with them if you really want to try dances with other dancers. The dancers can get territorial over their 'regulars' especially on slow shifts or big spenders.
    This. There's enough natural drama in a SC, no need to add to it. But I've learned that the girls forget about the drama just as quickly. My guess is that when you go back Dancer A won't even remember that it happened. She will have had 10 other problems in the club and her personal life worse than one client getting dances with another girl.

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    I feel like we aren't getting the whole story here.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tourdefranzia View Post
    I feel like we aren't getting the whole story here.
    It is certainly possible. Sadly though, I find his story all too believable, even if there isn't much more to it. Now maybe there is more to the story and perhaps Sal can elaborate on whether he might have said some things in the heat of the moment, or started discussing OTC with her, or if something else happened that made her feel territorial. But IME, especially lately, it can take no more than a small number of visits and a decent bit of spending on a girl before she tries to slap an ownership stamp on a guy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rickdugan View Post
    It is certainly possible. Sadly though, I find his story all too believable, even if there isn't much more to it. Now maybe there is more to the story and perhaps Sal can elaborate on whether he might have said some things in the heat of the moment, or started discussing OTC with her, or if something else happened that made her feel territorial. But IME, especially lately, it can take no more than a small number of visits and a decent bit of spending on a girl before she tries to slap an ownership stamp on a guy.
    I have the same experience. After a few visits with the same girl I'm marked and the other girls either 1) stay away completely or 2) visit which seems to bring my "owner" around to cause drama. I avoid repeating with the same girl to avoid this. Is there a thread here that talks about managing this?

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    It's sweet to me that you even care enough to ask.

    It's your money. Buy dances from who you want, when you want. You owe an explanation to no one. These girls are being ridiculous. They know how this job works.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Tourdefranzia View Post
    I feel like we aren't getting the whole story here.
    You haven't seen it from a customer perspective. Some dancers are more jealous and possessive than most girls I've dated. If spend well on a dancer a few times, if you decide to pick another dancer on a different night, you'd be surprised at the drama.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tourdefranzia View Post
    I feel like we aren't getting the whole story here.
    It's actually pretty common....have had met many "dancer a" types over the years in clubs. I will stop spending money with a dancer at the first sign of the jealous behavior....get enough of that in my life already!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tourdefranzia View Post
    I feel like we aren't getting the whole story here.
    That was the whole evening in a nutshell.

    Quote Originally Posted by rickdugan View Post
    It is certainly possible. Sadly though, I find his story all too believable, even if there isn't much more to it. Now maybe there is more to the story and perhaps Sal can elaborate on whether he might have said some things in the heat of the moment, or started discussing OTC with her, or if something else happened that made her feel territorial. But IME, especially lately, it can take no more than a small number of visits and a decent bit of spending on a girl before she tries to slap an ownership stamp on a guy.
    I don't discuss OTC or anything else like that, the club is the club. It's my time to relax and enjoy the company of scantily clad women and a few drinks. It would ruin it for me if brought it into the real world. Now there have been couple of times where I have just gone in for drinks, and have tipped her if comes over to chit-chat without get any dances. However I have tipped other girls for that as well, especially if I have only gone in for drink or two before going home.

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    I agree with JDD, it's best to cut both of them off. We can get jealousy and drama outside of the club...for free. It's interesting how the guys here all have the same experiences but the women are skeptical.

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