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    I fall in love to quickly. I'm so needy. Here I'm thinking; Valentine's Day date with a guy I know from work. He's not my type, he not exactly tall, not exactly athletic, actually slightly younger that me, but he's good looking, yes, smart, yes, funny, yes. It's only been a month and half since our first date and it's gone from; Ok I'll throw this guy a bone to I love this guy. I haven't actually told him yet.

    I told him I thought we were moving too fast and he calmly said Ok, I'll give you some space. So what do I do? I freak out because he's giving me space and I reel him back in. He probably thinks I'm a complete psycho.

    Now, he wants me to meet his family on Easter Sunday. I'm very nervous. What do I do if they don't like me? My family is meeting the bf for the first time also. Are we moving too fast?

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    If it's working, it's working. As long as you two are on the same page (that's a big one) and aren't making any enormous decisions yet (let's have a baby together / move in together / buy a house together / combine our finances!), I see no problems.

    It's a bit concerning that you're feeling self-conscious about how quickly you're moving, though. Could there be something driving your need to fall in love with someone so quickly? Don't get me wrong, quick love happens, and sometimes it sticks. But it's your concern about it that's...concerning. I'm thinking along the lines of abandonment / commitment issues. Are you overcompensating for a commitment issue by committing to him before it's time? Are you worried he's going to lose interest and leave, so you're trying to solidify your relationship before it's solid? Those sorts of things. Meditate on it a bit.

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    Default Re: I fall in love to quickly

    Why not?

    What, you don't deserve to be happy?

    Look,most relationships don't work out for one reason or another, doesn't mean people didn't love each other, relax, go with it

    Worry less, have fun, be kind, what more can you do?

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    Don't worry about. Just enjoy your time your having with him. Don't fret about the family. Just be ready to play 20 questions





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    Default Re: I fall in love to quickly

    Stop over analyzing it. There are people out there who get paid lots of money to try and figure out emotions and emotional responses, and half the time their answers end with "maybe". As long as he making you happy, go with it.

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    Default Re: I fall in love to quickly

    Quote Originally Posted by Elektra Luxx View Post
    I fall in love to quickly. I'm so needy. Here I'm thinking; Valentine's Day date with a guy I know from work. He's not my type, he not exactly tall, not exactly athletic, actually slightly younger that me, but he's good looking, yes, smart, yes, funny, yes. It's only been a month and half since our first date and it's gone from; Ok I'll throw this guy a bone to I love this guy. I haven't actually told him yet.

    I told him I thought we were moving too fast and he calmly said Ok, I'll give you some space. So what do I do? I freak out because he's giving me space and I reel him back in. He probably thinks I'm a complete psycho.

    Now, he wants me to meet his family on Easter Sunday. I'm very nervous. What do I do if they don't like me? My family is meeting the bf for the first time also. Are we moving too fast?
    You love him like LOVE him or love him like deeply care for him? So he is now your boyfriend? I'd say take your time. If its real then he will be there and no need to rush things along. From Valentines day to march does seem a bit soon to declare love in my opinion but hey to each his own. I do think you should get to know him better before applying labels and strong emotions because the first couple months dating are like the honeymoon phase and you won't see their true colors until after at least 4-5 months.
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    I think you should just relax..things will turn out for the best one way or another.

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    If it's working, it's working. As long as you two are on the same page (that's a big one) and aren't making any enormous decisions yet (let's have a baby together / move in together / buy a house together / combine our finances!), I see no problems.

    It's a bit concerning that you're feeling self-conscious about how quickly you're moving, though. Could there be something driving your need to fall in love with someone so quickly? Don't get me wrong, quick love happens, and sometimes it sticks. But it's your concern about it that's...concerning. I'm thinking along the lines of abandonment / commitment issues. Are you overcompensating for a commitment issue by committing to him before it's time? Are you worried he's going to lose interest and leave, so you're trying to solidify your relationship before it's solid? Those sorts of things. Meditate on it a bit.
    I think you called it, I have major commitment and abandonment issues. This may sound crazy, but I did not see this happening. I'm not a very good judge of character when it comes to relationships. I was prepared to be single and I was OK with it, but then I allow myself to feel something for this guy. I going to do something that's difficult for me to do, trust my judgement and let things happen on its own. Wish me luck.

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    Good luck! You are obviously intelligent and also very gorgeous.

    You seem to be like a lot of folks around here ( including me ), in that you seem to be one of your own harshest critics.

    Do your best, go with the flow, and accept the result.

    Good luck again.

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