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    I've been camming for a week now. I'm determined to make this work... but I'm am admittedly pretty bad at shows. I'm just trying to push through the awkwardness. I'm not good at talking dirty, I draw a blank when someone wants SPH or JOI etc despite my HOURS of research, and I look like I'm having a stroke when I play with myself. Getting privates is fine, but once I'm there it is not coming naturally to me at all. I'm wondering how long it took you all to start feeling confident/comfortable in the quality of your shows? I'm finding that I am constantly stressed that the money they just spent may not have been worth it to them. I'm probably over thinking this but I would love any insight. For those of you who weren't "naturals" how long until you felt like your private shows weren't crappy?
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    Default Re: How long til I stop feeling like a bumbling idiot?

    I still feel like a bumbling idiot! I do offer SPH and JOI as well, and as dumb as I may think I sound, those are usually my longest shows. Generally I follow a set pattern of what I say, and oftentimes repeat the same things. "Stroke harder - now slower bb - of that's soooo sexy." Honestly, if a guy takes you private it's because he found you attractive, and as long as you don't sit there like a log and put effort in, he's probably going to stay until he comes.

    I guess the only advice I have is just push through it! Fake it til you make it, do what feels right. I'm only 1.5 years into camming so it is still very awkward to dirty talk, humiliate, etc but I put in the effort and it pays off!

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    Default Re: How long til I stop feeling like a bumbling idiot?

    I don't mean to sound like a dick, but I think that if you believe you look like you're having a stroke while playing with yourself, if you're that uncomfortable with showing off your masturbation, then camming may not be for you.

    I'm a wonderful dirty-talker, and often do humiliation shows, but I suck at SPH. You don't have to do everything! I do think that it's always important to know how to masturbate (unless you're one of those dommes who is not masturbating on cam but then you'd likely be good at SPH) because that's what the majority of guys want. Just be yourself; I'm sure no guys think you look that ridiculous while masturbating.
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    I have to say I'm horrible at dirty talk, SPH and JOI so I just type. No audio. My shows are horribly boring. I probably wouldn't be making money if I weren't a built in fetish. I was confident right from the very beginning because these guys took you private for a reason. I think you're overthinking it because you're new. Go easy on yourself. You'll be confident in no time. Keep telling yourself 'I am so worth it' until it sinks in
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    Default Re: How long til I stop feeling like a bumbling idiot?

    you are probably not used to masturbating and watching yourself, practice in the mirror, or practice using your cam software without broadcastng, learn your flattering angles and those to avoid. I felt stupdly self conscious dirty talking my first week but i realised i dont hear my own voice that much! i now narrate things all day long and im getting much more used to it. Its hard to instantly get in the frame of mind that actually yes, you are worth their time and money!





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    Default Re: How long til I stop feeling like a bumbling idiot?

    Quote Originally Posted by TJ__Merlot View Post
    I look like I'm having a stroke when I play with myself.
    HAHAHAHAHAHAAH omg so funny !! But I seriously doubt that...

    When I 1st started I just did the same show over and over until I had it memorized. It was just generic dirty talk & certain camera angles, same toy every time too ( if any. ) Over time I did the same thing with more and more fetishes until I found the ones that I liked to do. I have a few shows for JOI memorized, but I don't particularly like doing that so it's not something I offer. Practice practice practice! I only cam part time so my first 3 months were pretty awkward, the more you work the more you'll become accustomed to it

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    Default Re: How long til I stop feeling like a bumbling idiot?

    God, I know how you feel. I just looked at a couple of my very first videos and holy shit, let's just say it was like the very first time you learned how to ski downhill. A total fucking mayhem of falling down awkwardly, slipping around and running into trees with bad, cheap equipment. Then I compared to my vids now and dayum I am one hot ass sexy cumtastic fuckbunny. Like everything else in life, it takes practice to craft and hone your skills. Be brave and confident. Watch yourself with kind eyes and you'll find your best expressions, dirty talk and angles. Good thing is, guys are so much appreciative of our bodies then we are to ourselves.

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    Default Re: How long til I stop feeling like a bumbling idiot?

    Quote Originally Posted by TJ__Merlot View Post
    I've been camming for a week now. I'm determined to make this work... but I'm am admittedly pretty bad at shows. I'm just trying to push through the awkwardness. I'm not good at talking dirty, I draw a blank when someone wants SPH or JOI etc despite my HOURS of research, and I look like I'm having a stroke when I play with myself. Getting privates is fine, but once I'm there it is not coming naturally to me at all. I'm wondering how long it took you all to start feeling confident/comfortable in the quality of your shows? I'm finding that I am constantly stressed that the money they just spent may not have been worth it to them. I'm probably over thinking this but I would love any insight. For those of you who weren't "naturals" how long until you felt like your private shows weren't crappy?
    Here is a little secret for you, I still felt like my private shows were crap even when I made it to the first row of Streamate. It is okay to not feel confident/comfortable in the quality of your shows. Eventually you'll get to this point where you think to yourself, "If they are still here in private with me paying money then I must be doing something right no mater how awkward I look/feel."

    Also if you really stop to think about it.....the majority of guys come to us after watching porn and I think we can all agree that guys aren't watching porn for the great and believable acting.

    So don't stress yourself out that the money they just spent may not have been worth it to them.....it you are on a big box site then the guys have the option to leave any time and stop paying when they feel like it and I assure you they don't have any shame or fear over exercising that right. ❤

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    Default Re: How long til I stop feeling like a bumbling idiot?

    I used to have post it notes of joi, SPH, or other dirty talk lines. Sooner or later it will become routine. You'll get used to it.

    I kinda convulse when I cum (I don't fake my orgasms since I'm incredibly sensitive and can make myself cum within 2 minutes max. Dudes fucking love my intense orgasms, even when I have a really intense one that makes me look like I'm a fish out of water. So it's become my niche I guess.





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    Default Re: How long til I stop feeling like a bumbling idiot?

    I suck at JOI/SPH/Roleplay so I just don't do it. If they ask in free chat, I just kindly let them know that I don't offer those perticular shows, and let them know what I do offer instead. Sure, I lose out on money but I feel like an idiot if I attempt them, and end up logging off for the night. I have very low self esteem, but I make sure it doesn't show in my shows. I mainly do milk shows, which are really easy for me so try to find something you're good at. And while masturbating, I just pretend I'm the sexiest bitch in the world and that usually gets me more comfortable and makes it seem more natural. Just the fact that the guy is paying to watch me also improves my self confidence.
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    The feeling might never go away entirely. I've been doing this for two years and I still feel like an idiot with JOI. However! One of my niche things is kink and role-play, I've just learned to have no shame. The men are mostly there to have some fun. They don't care if I look a little silly, I'm a naked woman they are just happy to see me.

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    xD never, anytime I take time off and come back I feel like a bumbling idiot, or if my room has 20+ ppl and no one really talking i feel dumb trying to talk to them if they dont reply back
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    It really all just takes practice. I used to hate dirty talk and now I spew filth like a dirty whore. Same with humilation and sph, I never knew what to say and now those are my favorite shows to do. Try different things, even if you don't think you can do them. You might surprise yourself. But a lot of it will come with the repetition of doing the job for a bit. Good luck and have some fun!

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    Your determination will take you a long way! Keep trying, keep acting like a "bumbling idiot". You'll eventually bumble yourself into the perfect hustle! Besides, the cute, clumsy, and quirky thing worked for Carrie Bradshaw... make it work for you if nothing else!

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    Quote Originally Posted by hyori View Post
    I just looked at a couple of my very first videos and holy shit, let's just say it was like the very first time you learned how to ski downhill.
    OH! I completely forget this. If you can't have someone read your video scripts or anything, try recording your show or making videos of your show so you can analyse yourself. We often don't realize how we repeat certain words and it can be annoying, or if you speak too fast it can be difficult to understand what youre saying. Speak slowly and exude SEX cause thats what will get them to BUY!

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    Default Re: How long til I stop feeling like a bumbling idiot?

    Practice! Watch yourself and see what your are doing right and what you are doing wrong. Your facial expressions, angles, flatterimg poses, how you speak etc. You are a performer, you don't actually have to do what you do in your private time, just what sells to a customer. Watch some girls or videos and get ideas and inspiration. It takes time but you will learn what works and what to keep doing.

    I remember my first day of camming. It was yeeears ago in a physical studio. The walls were 8' high and the ceilings had a 3' gap. There was no doors to the rooms, only a shower curtain. You could hear the other girls working, ugh it was awkward. I was so nervous when I went online for the first time, a guy took me private and asked me if I was on drugs. Yes, I was that sketchy and nervous! I explained to him how it was my first day and he talked with me for a good 20 minutes or so just to calm me down. Eventually I got more comfortable and wasn't putting much thought into my shows. I realized later when I watched my recordings and videos I just how jumpy and jittery I was, like maybe too comfortable type thing. Making solo videos and watching myself really helped guide me how to put on a good show. For me personally now cam shows are more of an act to look realistic then actually being realistic. Hope that makes sense.

    In time + practice you wil get the hang of things.

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