Before I start, I want to quickly clarify the kind of customer I am before people start assuming anything else.
I'm 31 years old Asian-American, 155 lb 5'10" slender build. I grew up with 2 older sisters and my mom for the first half of my life. My dad was overseas. So I have a lot of respect for women. Also, I always shower and brush my teeth when I go. I've never been to a strip club (God honest truth) until my first time a month ago and I wanted to try it out before my bachelor party. I've got an excellent career in engineering, bought my own home, live with my fiance of 6 years, and have some extra money to spend. I'm not looking for anything serious. I just enjoy the company and the conversation yet, I love the ability that there is no strings attached and it's really truly like an "escape".
So fast forward, I started going to a place in City of Industry, CA (lots of strip clubs here) because I saw billboards driving on the 60 freeway in southern california. After reading reviews, I went to Deja Vu which is now my most favorite place. It was now my 4th time there. A lot of dancers asks me to dance and when we go for a topless/nude dance for $20/40 I just sit there in the private booth and keep my hands to myself. After 30 seconds, a lot of girls say I'm too shy, or they'll say "Are you bored?". I even had one girl told me "Wait, are you a virgin???".. I was like "what? no!" One girl also told me I looked 19 !!
Also, I went into VIP twice only in total. The first time, I spent the entire 30 minutes talking with this girl about the industry in general. She was real nice and gave me all the low down. The second time in VIP was just last week. A hot Irish/Hispanic girl took me in there. We just had a cheap lap dance and then I suggested maybe we go in the VIP later.
While in the VIP, her name, we'll just say Irene, starts dancing. This time we're in a much bigger couch. She then starts twirling on me on my lap, and then I'm just sitting there, keeping my hands to myself, and just zoning out. She turns around, and then says "Are you bored?" ... "Do you just wanna talk?". I said, "no why? I'm enjoying this..." then she keeps going but I guess I"m not sure what she wanted me to do. I asked her "What do you want me to do?". She shrugged. We had ok conversation in the previous lap dance but I'm not sure what she was insinuating. Then 10 minutes in, she said "oh you 're so boring...o r maybe its me... i think i need to pee" so she goes out to pee for 5 minutes and the "counter machine" is counting down and I see my money just draining ...lol. I'm not mad.
Anyhow, she comes back again and then apologizes and of course has her entire bottom up in my face exposed. I asked her "are you trying to tease me?" she said "maybe.." . At that point, I didn't want to anything physical. But please, can someone explain to me... is the expectation that when a man asks a girl to go into VIP with him, that the dancer is going to think that the man wants "extras" or perhaps wants to get even more physical? like a rub? I asked her like "I'm scared a bit because I don't know the boundaries..." and I truly am because I seriously don't want to get slapped by any of you dancers. Then she told me "You can go farther (touch farther) if you tip $20" (in teh VIP). I wasn't really interested. She was a bit upset and then she told me she owed the house $160.00 because she failed to show up on schedule and said this dance is basically free. i was like thinking to myself, you're making me feel bad now, because I don't want you to work so hard for it now.
This club seems to be quite hands-on. Even for $20/40 lap dances. I've already had 3-4 girls on three separate occasions and they also told me "oh its okay, you can touch them (boobs)" and then I would put my hands on it, but not even squeeze it , then they ask me "is this my first time?" .. then I would say "it's my 2nd or 3rd time in here" but I'm not super touchy touchy. Then they told me to "relax" but I said... I am, i'm sitting here.. plopped on the booth, what else do I do??
I feel like I don't know how to "play" if that makes any sense or I'm not entertaining these girls back. Albeit, there are occasionally a few girls who don't say anything, just simply gives me a dance, asks me if I want another, and then leaves. Then there are others, which put in a good effort, and I would get hurt because they're heavier(thicker) and their weight crushes my thighs as they do some cool manuevers. Then they'll say "Oh sorry".
I guess what I really, envy the most is when I see like 3-4 girls sitting next to ONE guy at a table and it's 4PM in the afternoon, the club is dead. But the 3-4 girls aren't even talking to the guy. Maybe just 1 girl next to him. What gives? How come I can't get those girls to come sit next to me out on the floor? I'll gladly pay them for their time. What do I say to them or get them to sit next to me? I see that the guy is of middle age (50s) Caucasion and is certainly a regular. But the hell, I didn't even see him taking dances. He just sits there, drinks his soda or whatever. The club is only serving non-alcohol. Oh, the club doesn't really have any "floor dances" like what i hear in Spermint Rhino in las vegas. At the worst, is just a girl will sit on a guy's lap, go up and down a little, and strike a conservation, but there is never any mini-dance on the floor.
Thank you ladies. Sorry, I'm a shy asian n00b and is just starting to learn the ropes. When I first went, it felt so wierd and I felt so creepy, even for the guys at the front sitting on "pervert row" as you call it. But now I realize that, you girls depend on those tips and those tips on the floor enable the dances. I like going in the afternoon because there's less guys and more girls but I also feel so bad for you girls because I see guys sitting closest to the stage and no one's tipping. But I usually like to sit in the back of the room cuz i'm really shy.
I also want to say, I felt so bad because there was two times when I was rejected in a strip club by 2 different girls when I asked 'em for a dance. One of them was standing there and we locked eyes multiple times. She knew I was looking but she didn't approach. I finally approached and she told me "oh i'm waiting for my manager and it's the end of my shift already". That's fine. The second time was another girl, every single freaking time, she would finish her dance on stage, then immedately sit down at the booth behind her. Playing with her cell phone. It was particlarly more people that night, so I grew some balls to ask her for a dance. She non-chalantantly told me something like "oh I can't, I'm need to...something something". I didn't even remember or care to listen after that. Since then, the 3 times I was there, I realized that she never would approach me, even when the club was dead! And it was only 10-12 guys and like 8 girls that afternoon . So what's up with that? Then on the 4th day, I see her approach other guys sitting down but never me. Afterwards, I told myself I guess she doesn't like Asians.![]()



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