I was at work the other day and needed to talk to a co-worker. She is a very attractive woman and could easily have been a dancer or model - I'll explain later why this is relevant - and I spoke to her exactly twice during the day. The first was in the morning when I saw her in the hallway and said, "Katie, I need to talk to you when you get a minute." The second was later in the afternoon when I stopped at her desk and said, "Do you have a minute, I need to talk to you." She sighed in annoyed disgust and frustration, rolling her eyes, "I have a boyfriend." I hadn't encountered such pure narcissism in my life. Now, you can choose to believe me or not, but I honestly had had no intention of asking her out. Yes, she was physically attractive, and I had considered doing so at one time until I got to know her. We had absolutely nothing in common, and more importantly, she didn't stimulate me intellectually so that was an automatic deal breaker. Luckily I had the perfect reply: "Congratulations. Let me know when you have those numbers ready for me, you were supposed to have them yesterday."
Now, one could reasonably argue that she was simply having a bad day. That's understandable. However, I talked to both male and female co-workers and some of the men said they had had similar experiences and the women said they had overheard her several times complaining about having to work in a place where everybody wanted her. This experience reminded me of a theory I had when I was in high school: the more physically attractive a woman is, the more her personality tends to reflect a sense of narcissism and entitlement. An idea that life is there simply to serve them. I've shared this idea with people and have been accused of simply being jaded at having been rejected by such women, but I have also spoken with many more people who agree with this theory.
Before I go any further, this is not to imply that all physically attractive women have such attitudes. Personally I graduated with a girl who to this day I swear was the inspiration for the song, "She Don't Know She's Beautiful." She looked like a cross between Marilyn Monroe and Faith Hill and she had absolutely no idea how pretty she was. She was nice to everyone, always the first one to help, the epitome of a true lady. Conversely, I have also met women that would fail to meet what society would deem to be attractive who also think every man is hitting on them. I remember one instance when I told a woman I was dating, "You know, you're not cute enough to be this snotty." Believe me, her behavior was completely unacceptable and she was of the mind that her looks entitled her to such behavior.
The women on this site are very attractive. They have to be or they wouldn't be in this industry, so I felt this would be the perfect place to research my theory. If you are reading this, I would appreciate your answering the following questions as well as any additional feedback you would be willing to give. Thank you for your help.
On a scale of 1 to 10, with one being the lowest, ten being the highest, what score would you give yourself in terms of physical appearance?
Have you ever used your physical appearance for personal gain, i.e. flirted with a police officer to get out of a speeding ticket?
Have you ever been in a situation similar to the one described above, when you thought someone was hitting on/flirting with you and they weren't?
How often, if at all, do you believe you have the "entitled attitude" described above?
Thank you again for all your help.







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