I needed to get this off my chest and I'm sure there are instances like these for other girls as well. Tonight was one of my worst nights ever. Of my entire career. And it wasn't even THAT terrible money wise. I was sitting with this customer chatting and drinking for about a half hour tonight before my stage show tonight, and before I was up I had asked him if he would like to go for dances when my show was done. He replied yes. With the most creepy and fucked up remark that I have ever heard in my life. He said that "Of course I'd love to go for a dance with you, you're the type of girl I'd like to rape every day of my life."
I was floored and like WTF for about 20 seconds. And my song came on and I pointed my finger at him and just said "No. No. That is not an ok thing for you to say to someone under any context."
To which he replied "I mean with consent, obviously."
"Well, rape is the definition of a lack of consent you fucking moron! What the hell is wrong with you?"
And I just walked away and did my stage show. This ruuuuiiiiined my mood for the entire night. I was already having one of those days where I didn't feel like working (the indian food had the night before was not really agreeing with my tummy) and this fucker just completely depleted my quota for customer bullshit for the night. I knew I should have left right after this happened and I mentioned it to manager and they didn't throw him out. I'm so pissed still. I should have decked him in the head with my wine glass, fuck my job, this shit is NOT ok to get away with. I have another club I sometimes work at on the weekends because it has more of a party crowd (my regular bar is mostly business types and good during the week), and I took all my stuff and I kind of just feel like taking a break from this club. I feel very strongly about consent being a huge part of what makes up a happy and healthy dancer and rape jokes/comments are the antithesis to that and I think they should be unacceptable even in this environment. It just made me feel so violated that someone would think it is even ok to say that to me. Complete lack of respect for me as a human being. I'm sure I'm not the only one that has experiences assholes like this though. Fucking men, eh?



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