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    Angry Do you miss work because of depression?

    Do you miss going into work because of depression? I need to work and wake up wanting to go in but I end up staying home.

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    Default Re: Do you miss work because of depression?

    Yes.

    I haven't been to work (at the club) since January. My attendance was spotty dec-jan, then I just quit going.

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    Absolutely....lately ive been feeling very depressed and iguess bummed out.

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    Default Re: Do you miss work because of depression?

    My previous retirement was exactly because of depression. I just stopped going in. It took me a couple of years to come out of that one.

    I haven't been working much lately, but I don't think it is depression. I think it's because I'm just really bored with the club.

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    Sometimes I can't tell the difference between depression and burnout. Though I'm sure they're entertwined - depression is gonna contribute to burnout and vice versa. Sometimes sex work is both a blessing and a curse. On the one hand, it's nice to be able to work around your issues, but OTOH, I know that if I had a job where I had to be there, I would make myself go and it would probably be better to get out and do something, anything, even shitty work, than sit around wallowing in the depressive thoughts.

    But yeah, I've certainly blown off work due to depression. Especially during the winter. This time of year is usually pretty good to me with the excitement of finally seeing the sun.
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    Sometimes I can't tell the difference between depression and burnout. Though I'm sure they're entertwined - depression is gonna contribute to burnout and vice versa. Sometimes sex work is both a blessing and a curse. On the one hand, it's nice to be able to work around your issues, but OTOH, I know that if I had a job where I had to be there, I would make myself go and it would probably be better to get out and do something, anything, even shitty work, than sit around wallowing in the depressive thoughts.

    But yeah, I've certainly blown off work due to depression. Especially during the winter. This time of year is usually pretty good to me with the excitement of finally seeing the sun.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tsepmet1 View Post
    Yes.

    I haven't been to work (at the club) since January. My attendance was spotty dec-jan, then I just quit going.
    Same here. Every weekend I think, "I really should go back to work..." But I can't quite seem to get there.

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    Its a catch 22. Im depressed when im broke, but I cant make it in when im too depressed. I have tried so many natural things for depression and nothing helps. The stuff ive tried for depression makes have feel like I have apathy and much worse, so I stopped every supplement Ive tried. 5htp makes feel dead inside. I dont have any desire to take antidepressants. Ive had so many friends and coworkers that take antidepressants and there was something about their personality in every one of them, I couldnt stand. More of a apathy feeling I noticed in them that I didnt like.

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    I also had no desire to take my meds, and I've been getting on and off of them for years.

    But here's the thing, sometimes the good outweighs the bad. I'm hurting. My relationships are suffering. Mental illness has put me in financial ruin. All of that makes the side effects and the cost/hassle of treatment worth it.

    Get well soon.

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    Thats good it works for you tsepmet1. Years ago I tried st johns wort after a friend recommended it.
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    I'm diagnosed bipolar 1 so my meds keep me alive. I attempted suicide multiple times before I got diagnosed 14 years ago. I hate relying on medication because it numbs me but I don't really have a choice. Dancing has helped me work around episodes but my earnings can vary wildly, especially in winter. Thank god I live in Florida and have a good man who supports me and can let me know even before I do that an episode is coming on. After my dad died last year I didn't work for several months. I just couldn't.

    I just try to be gentle and kind to myself because it's not my fault and it's not yours either. I got a day job to make sure rent is paid so I don't have to rely only on stripping. It takes the pressure off. It also keeps me grounded and forces me out of the house. I also work with great people who bring my mood up. I found out last week that I'm getting promoted so now I also have an exit strategy for getting out of stripping which helps me feel like I don't suck and am getting somewhere in life. When I was just dancing I felt like a hamster on a wheel, trapped and going nowhere.

    Things get better. Have faith in yourselves, guys.

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    Thank you for your post rareaspasia. This is thread is helping me feel better to know, its not just me missing work because of depression.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rareaspasia View Post
    I'm diagnosed bipolar 1 so my meds keep me alive. I attempted suicide multiple times before I got diagnosed 14 years ago. I hate relying on medication because it numbs me but I don't really have a choice. Dancing has helped me work around episodes but my earnings can vary wildly, especially in winter. Thank god I live in Florida and have a good man who supports me and can let me know even before I do that an episode is coming on. After my dad died last year I didn't work for several months. I just couldn't.

    I just try to be gentle and kind to myself because it's not my fault and it's not yours either. I got a day job to make sure rent is paid so I don't have to rely only on stripping. It takes the pressure off. It also keeps me grounded and forces me out of the house. I also work with great people who bring my mood up. I found out last week that I'm getting promoted so now I also have an exit strategy for getting out of stripping which helps me feel like I don't suck and am getting somewhere in life. When I was just dancing I felt like a hamster on a wheel, trapped and going nowhere.

    Things get better. Have faith in yourselves, guys.
    Aww! Thanks so much for your post^, also, EVERYBODY'S!
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    Quote Originally Posted by whirlerz View Post
    Aww! Thanks so much for your post^, also, EVERYBODY'S!
    Mine is depression, but mixed in thephysical ailments, does that make sense lol? Unfortunately, there's a lot of herbs I'm not really supposed to take, I know St. John's wort is one of them
    Totally makes sense. It's hard NOT to be depressed when you feel like crap. I was such a miserable bitch before I found out I was gluten intolerant!

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    I can't because I travel but have held off trips because of it. I had to wait a week longer to go on a trip because my anxiety was so bad and I've been struggling this trip due to being on a new antidepressant right before I left. And I can't switch or get off in the middle of a trip. It's been really hard.

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    I can't afford to skip work when I'm depressed, because I miss so much work from being sick in the first place. So when I'm physically well and depressed I have to say, "No, you're going to work. You have bills to pay and the rest of your life to plan for." I think that having so few options makes this job a lot easier. I never would have gotten into it or stayed if I had the luxury of doing something else. But I'm kind of glad that I did stay because I feel like it's making me a stronger person.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aurora_Sunset View Post
    Sometimes sex work is both a blessing and a curse. On the one hand, it's nice to be able to work around your issues, but OTOH, I know that if I had a job where I had to be there, I would make myself go and it would probably be better to get out and do something, anything, even shitty work, than sit around wallowing in the depressive thoughts.
    Absolutely. If I'm working in a club that doesn't have a schedule, I'm all like, this is fantastic - I can go in whenever I want!!!11!!...and then I never go in. I'm happy that my current club has a written schedule - I need that.

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    Yes! Our job requires us to be emotionally stable, so if we are not, we cannot work well. Staying home is the best thing for me when I am feeling down. If I'm in one of those moods, being at the club is probably the worst place for me to be, or for anyone who is depressed. Girls who try to come in for work when they are depressed usually end up drinking or using drugs all night.

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    Yes, many times but I have learned to just fake it. I have to. I have to because I'm on my own with nobody to depend on so I have to feed myself healthy food, be able to afford Dr's visits, meds, gym, a roof over my head: all the things I need in order to function and be healthy and not kill myself. Some days it's HARD to get out of bed. It's literally like someone has sucked all the energy out of me so I play a game: If I get up now, I will make a yummy sandwich to eat and get coffee. That leads to a long hot lavender shower. Which leads to taking my time with doing my hair and make up.....so on and so on until I'm dressed for work. Then I just go.

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    I've missed more time than I would ever want to admit bc of depression. During my last long stretch of dancing full time, I had periods where I would go wks w/o working bc I just wasn't functional -- one evening my neighbour even came over to check on me bc he knew I was having a tough time, & just looking at him was enough to make me burst into tears. When you're that far down the rabbit hole, the club is the worst place to be. Even if you can plaster on a fake smile, there's no hiding that lvl of emotional imbalance & the only ppl you're going to attract are the ones who will make you feel even worse.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aniela View Post
    I've missed more time than I would ever want to admit bc of depression. During my last long stretch of dancing full time, I had periods where I would go wks w/o working bc I just wasn't functional -- one evening my neighbour even came over to check on me bc he knew I was having a tough time, & just looking at him was enough to make me burst into tears. When you're that far down the rabbit hole, the club is the worst place to be. Even if you can plaster on a fake smile, there's no hiding that lvl of emotional imbalance & the only ppl you're going to attract are the ones who will make you feel even worse.
    That's sometimes very true, I've had nights where things at the club made me feel even more depressed. I'm lucky to have a few really amazing regulars that I text with and invite to the club and they generally cheer me up a bit and make it worthwhile for me to come in. I actually have a reg who also suffers from depression and we, in a wierd way, support each other. I'm also grateful that I only work a few days a week, I can't do more than that.

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    I'm also grateful that I only work a few days a week, I can't do more than that.
    Agree -- if I could find the right club, I think I could be quite happy just dancing as a side gig. I've done it too long, too many times w/ nothing else to do it full time by itself anymore, & that's just dealing w/ the mental/emotional side of it.

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    I identify with everything written is this thread. Dancing used to nourish me and my creative self, it feels like groundhog day in the clubs now. I actually find this thread really helpful- I mean, I always knew that I wasn't the only one who went through this but I feel less alone hearing others who have experienced the dame feelings, acted out similar behviours and patterns.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Flickdreams View Post
    I identify with everything written is this thread. Dancing used to nourish me and my creative self, it feels like groundhog day in the clubs now. I actually find this thread really helpful- I mean, I always knew that I wasn't the only one who went through this but I feel less alone hearing others who have experienced the dame feelings, acted out similar behviours and patterns.
    I think there are a lot of girls going through all kinds of things in their personal lives. That's why it's silly to judge other girls on how often they work, what you think they make, etc. Some people go to school, start businesses, care for relatives, even bring their whole family overseas! Every woman has their own story and just because they don't spend their money flossing, doesn't mean they are losers/less than. People on here will crow about how much they make, what they own, what they do. But taking care of your health is a worthy use of time and money. Investing in invisible parts of your life that don't show as a fancy car, house, etc. is a very worthy use of time! I applaud you/us all for putting health and caring for the inside before caring for appearances.
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    Quote Originally Posted by rareaspasia View Post
    Totally makes sense. It's hard NOT to be depressed when you feel like crap. I was such a miserable bitch before I found out I was gluten intolerant!
    Sorry for the aside OP, I dropped gluten this year and have seen my inflammation go down ALOT! I don't think it affected my mood but it certainly affected my body.
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