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    I'm not really interested in seeking out clients online or doing this full-time, but occasionally I've gotten requests by people I meet in bars, through dating sites, etc. who seem interesting and trustworthy. Does anyone else do this as more of a side job opportunity? What have your experiences been? How do you work this around your other job(s) and what are some precautions you would take?

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    Quote Originally Posted by zoezoebelle View Post
    I'm not really interested in seeking out clients online or doing this full-time, but occasionally I've gotten requests by people I meet in bars, through dating sites, etc. who seem interesting and trustworthy. Does anyone else do this as more of a side job opportunity? What have your experiences been? How do you work this around your other job(s) and what are some precautions you would take?
    Nope. Too dangerous to do all the time. You need provider referrals to make sure you are in safe hands and that he has seen someone else. I, myself, have tested out new people in times of no clients and desperation unfortunately, but it's safer with at least 1 lady saying the guy is safe. Any serial killer can have a legit job.

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    Quote Originally Posted by zoezoebelle View Post
    I'm not really interested in seeking out clients online or doing this full-time, but occasionally I've gotten requests by people I meet in bars, through dating sites, etc. who seem interesting and trustworthy. Does anyone else do this as more of a side job opportunity? What have your experiences been? How do you work this around your other job(s) and what are some precautions you would take?
    Nope. Too dangerous to do all the time. You need provider referrals to make sure you are in safe hands and that he has seen someone else. I, myself, have tested out new people in times of no clients and desperation unfortunately, but it's safer with at least 1 lady saying the guy is safe. Any serial killer can have a legit job.

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    Quote Originally Posted by indiegirl View Post
    Nope. Too dangerous to do all the time. You need provider referrals to make sure you are in safe hands and that he has seen someone else. I, myself, have tested out new people in times of no clients and desperation unfortunately, but it's safer with at least 1 lady saying the guy is safe. Any serial killer can have a legit job.
    So you think it's safer to screen people online than in person?

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    Quote Originally Posted by indiegirl View Post
    Nope. Too dangerous to do all the time. You need provider referrals to make sure you are in safe hands and that he has seen someone else. I, myself, have tested out new people in times of no clients and desperation unfortunately, but it's safer with at least 1 lady saying the guy is safe. Any serial killer can have a legit job.
    I was a bit surprised to see this response. Maybe I'm just missing something?

    It seems like, as long as she screens normally and goes with her gut, this should be a fairly safe way to go about it. As long as the OP isn't desperate (desperation leads to danger), I can't really think of any major risks. Of course, all precautions should be taken (she'd let someone know where she's going, when she'll be back, etc.)...but I'm not seeing what's dangerous about her approach (or what makes it more dangerous than any other situation in which you're meeting strangers, which most of us risk all of the time).

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    The best place to meet potential clients is working at a strip club. That's what I do, I see my best regulars outside the club on the side. I have them give me their number which I do a reverse search on and when I have their full name I run a background search on them. I do this just to be extra safe, and all of my regs have passed my screening. If a guy has an untraceable number or I find out he lied about himself, I would not see him. Also check him out on National Blacklist, an escort safety blotter. Do not meet guys on dating sites, they are too sketchy. I also would NOT trust men at bars. Strip clubs and reputable escort sites (like Eros) are the best ways to meet them. Avoid backpage and craigslist.

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    And yes, definitely get references from him as other posters have said! After he passes screening, ask him to provide you with a recent reference or 2. Better to be safe than sorry! Also, if you're only going to do this as a side thing, try to make your appointments longer so you earn more money but don't have to do it as frequently.

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    There's a lot of girls who aren't newbie friendly for many reasons. It's much much safer to see a man with more references IMO. I feel like I'm playing with fire with some men, mostly the out of country gentlemen who have 0 info online. It's safer to stick in the crowd, but I certainly don't know from experience. I hear it happens in Vegas more than not.

    I guess I am more worried with Law Enforcement, not money if you were to meet people in person.....that's all I have to say about it mostly..

    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    I was a bit surprised to see this response. Maybe I'm just missing something?

    It seems like, as long as she screens normally and goes with her gut, this should be a fairly safe way to go about it. As long as the OP isn't desperate (desperation leads to danger), I can't really think of any major risks. Of course, all precautions should be taken (she'd let someone know where she's going, when she'll be back, etc.)...but I'm not seeing what's dangerous about her approach (or what makes it more dangerous than any other situation in which you're meeting strangers, which most of us risk all of the time).

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    Quote Originally Posted by EastCoastDancer01 View Post
    The best place to meet potential clients is working at a strip club. That's what I do, I see my best regulars outside the club on the side. I have them give me their number which I do a reverse search on and when I have their full name I run a background search on them. I do this just to be extra safe, and all of my regs have passed my screening. If a guy has an untraceable number or I find out he lied about himself, I would not see him. Also check him out on National Blacklist, an escort safety blotter. Do not meet guys on dating sites, they are too sketchy. I also would NOT trust men at bars. Strip clubs and reputable escort sites (like Eros) are the best ways to meet them. Avoid backpage and craigslist.
    This was super helpful! I searched his phone number and found his full name, Facebook, wife, profile on a company website, etc. It all checks out.

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    Great! I'm glad it worked well for you. Just be consistent with screening and references and you will be fine.

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    Speaking from hard earned personal experience, it's important to make clients "jump through the hoops" of screening to weed out the potentially dangerous. NOTHING is worth exposing yourself to a psycho who might rape or kill you.

    IMO if you choose to meet clients through "freelance" type tactics, get his name & info, run his info through Google + other background search tools...and don't see him right away.

    Due to the social phenomenon of Pick Up Artists (plus other disturbing things) it's too likely that someone you meet right away will try to take advantage of you, or follow you around. (Sadly when dealing with the cops .....cops tend to belittle women if the woman is being stalked by a man she approached initially. Cops in general are victim blamers and have sexist views of women...)

    You can PM me to talk about this more b/c I don't feel like getting into a huge flamewar about male behavior. I *DO* know from personal experience that the risks of cutting corners are very real.

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    I escorted before I started dancing. I was completely naive and idiotic about it, I used Craigslist (yes, really, ugh) and never even knew that screening was a thing. I made great money and nothing bad ever happened to me, but I realize now that I'm incredibly lucky on that front.

    There are a lot of good threads here that you can study. I seriously wish I had had access to SW when I escorted -- I would've stayed out of so many unnecessarily risky situations and made a ton more money, too. Please do your research and take advantage of all the awesome safety procedures that other escorts have shared!

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    Personal opinion - I dont feel there is any additional risk involved in seeing a guy who checks out with real name - job - no criminal history etc.. - Providers references are no guarantee of continued good behavior - I have seen to many clients that have references turn bad - not saying it happens all of the time but it does happen - I love guys who have no history of seeing providers - I can mold them into what I like

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nikki_Fox View Post
    Personal opinion - I dont feel there is any additional risk involved in seeing a guy who checks out with real name - job - no criminal history etc.. - Providers references are no guarantee of continued good behavior - I have seen to many clients that have references turn bad - not saying it happens all of the time but it does happen - I love guys who have no history of seeing providers - I can mold them into what I like
    Agreed

    The most dangerous man I ever met in this business had a thorough history on P411 and TER and two glowing references. Screw that, I'd rather have new guys.

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    I feel like it's important for the guy to KNOW you know his info. I wasn't sure if you let them know you're screening them.

    I screened this really wealthy dude off a sugar daddy site once and found everything I could about him. I found out he was a philanthropist, sponsored a couple of artists (I looked them up too), owned some company, etc etc. I met him for drinks twice; the third time I trusted him enough to go to his place and had an awful experience. He thought I was a naive college girl who didn't know anything about him. It made me be really cautious.

    If you've already known them for a while it might be a different experience, but always be careful.

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    Quote Originally Posted by pranceprance View Post
    I feel like it's important for the guy to KNOW you know his info. I wasn't sure if you let them know you're screening them.

    I screened this really wealthy dude off a sugar daddy site once and found everything I could about him. I found out he was a philanthropist, sponsored a couple of artists (I looked them up too), owned some company, etc etc. I met him for drinks twice; the third time I trusted him enough to go to his place and had an awful experience. He thought I was a naive college girl who didn't know anything about him. It made me be really cautious.

    If you've already known them for a while it might be a different experience, but always be careful.
    Thanks! I'm kind of nervous to tell him that I searched his phone number and such. I don't want him to feel like I'm threatening him... I know he cares very much about his family. I'll have to find a casual approach to this, like, "I looked you up on the internet" rather than "I stalked you and have all of your personal info in a file." xD

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    Let him know that it was just for your personal safety that you screened him, and you just wanted to find out his basic, publically listed information just to know that he was who he said he was. I'm sure he will understand. You can even be like "I felt like you were an honest person, and screening you just confirmed that".

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    Quote Originally Posted by zoezoebelle View Post
    Thanks! I'm kind of nervous to tell him that I searched his phone number and such. I don't want him to feel like I'm threatening him... I know he cares very much about his family. I'll have to find a casual approach to this, like, "I looked you up on the internet" rather than "I stalked you and have all of your personal info in a file." xD
    I actually think it's something that'll help you make it more clear to your clients that this is a professional transaction (albeit a GFE one). You're a professional, so you researched your client before committing to that kind of relationship. Every business researches their clients, and so do you. I also think any sane man would understand that a woman needs to keep herself safe in this day and age - find a one liner like "you know, there are a lot of crazy people out there, I just had to make sure I was safe with you!" to dismiss his concerns, if he has any.

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    ^^^Completely agree with Charlie

    Quote Originally Posted by kaninchen View Post
    I escorted before I started dancing. I was completely naive and idiotic about it, I used Craigslist (yes, really, ugh) and never even knew that screening was a thing. I made great money and nothing bad ever happened to me, but I realize now that I'm incredibly lucky on that front.

    There are a lot of good threads here that you can study. I seriously wish I had had access to SW when I escorted -- I would've stayed out of so many unnecessarily risky situations and made a ton more money, too. Please do your research and take advantage of all the awesome safety procedures that other escorts have shared!
    Starting escorting when I turned 18 and looking back, I did some incredibly stupid things. Now, it's safety first, then money. Also, I learned to trust my gut feelings. If you have a good sense with this guy your probably OK about seeing him. Make sure your have someone to check in with before the appointment then after. There is always a risk escorting even when screening, but it can be minimized. Just be safe.
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    Quote Originally Posted by EastCoastDancer01 View Post
    Let him know that it was just for your personal safety that you screened him, and you just wanted to find out his basic, publically listed information just to know that he was who he said he was. I'm sure he will understand. You can even be like "I felt like you were an honest person, and screening you just confirmed that".
    If he has nothing to hide, he won't mind that you checked him out. Sidenote: Women have one night stands ALL the time. Not saying its safe, but it happens. To me, "freelance escorting" isn't any different. And its a simple as "Whats your Facebook/Twitter/LinkedIn" account. And taking a pic of him, right there at the bar and sharing it with a friend in front of him. Not saying that will prevent a potential psycho from doing something bad, I just think its a good start.

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