I moved in with a girl I've worked with for almost 2 years 6 weeks ago. I always knew she could get crazy with drinking sometimes...but I didn't realise that is was a daily occurance. She's been going through a tough time, but this is getting ridiculous. She lost her job at the bar I met her at, and she's been sent home a few times from the other bar we both work at. She's always ranging from buzzed-super drunk. Like losing her stuff drunk. Last night I looked at my phone at the end of my shift and there were a bunch of messages from her about how she lost her wallet and it had so much of "our" rent in it. Thank god she found it. I stayed 20 minutes after close to look for it but you know...whatever no biggie...I also think she might be sleeping with customers. So far I've seen 2 that she's brought home :s Which I am not pleased about because I made it pretty clear before we moved in together what my boundaries were, customers in my house are a big fucking nono. She's always staying at "friends" houses...and I;m starting to think that means customers too. This is such a mess. She's a really sweet girl but this train is about to go off a cliff and I have enough on my plate already. I want to help her but I don't know what to do. I drink a decent amount too but I've never been fired from a club because of it, took home customers, been sent home, etc. I feel like if I bring up the issue it will be really easy for her to say something along the lines of "you're not better than me". But it's like...I can handle my liquor and pace myself and clearly you can't. Also I have to keep my booze in my room or she will help herself to it and if we come home after work together she's always asking me for booze, cigarettes, like girl, we're friends, but this is MY shit. Buy your own or don't indulge. I'm stuck with her for the next 4 months so it's not like I can just do nothing or move to avoid dealing with the situation. If anyone's ever dealt with this I'd really appreciate the advice. Ironically my last friend I lived with that also danced had similar issues, and I'm kicking myself for getting into this situation AGAIN. I did not handle it well last time though, and blew my fuse in the end and want to handle it better this time around. Why is it so fucking hard to find a nice, fun, at least semi-responsible roomate rrrrrr!



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