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    My ex found out that I'm a stripper (some friends of his came in and saw me) and is now threatening to come in and take pictures of me to post online. Is a club able to ban certain people? I need something done fast. I'm also going to look into a restrainer order tomorrow. The only problem is I work tonight and I will not feel safe at that club again until he is banned.

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    Yep, tell a manager and show the doormen his picture. If you're on good terms with them, they likely won't let him in.
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    You could probably get his friends banned too if they are coming in for shits and giggles and revenge porn pics vs spending real money
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    I don't believe you can get a restraining order over his threat, but you should definitely go to your management/security to keep him out. KL is right on the money that most clubs aren't cool with people taking photos in the first place, so I'm sure they'd put a stop to it if he actually did -- and FWIW it's totally possible that it's just a threat to intimidate you.

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    has he left a voicemail or texted you with this? if so, please take a screen shot or record the voicemail. if he contacts you enough times, you can get him in trouble for harrassment. do NOT under any circumstances reply to his voicemails or texts.

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    if he does come in somehow, i would speak with staff and have a plan in place. i had a stalker leaving VERY creepy letters on my car at my apartment complex years ago. i was afraid he would come in. i notified management, bouncer and housemom and showed them the letters. if i saw him, just beeline to the dressing room (even if i was on stage), and they would deal with it. fortunately, he lost interest, but i was pretty shaken the day i got them.

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    Besides doing what all the other members suggested above, don't be afraid to use force (and your high heels, especially your heels) against him (and his photography equipment, and possibly his friends) if necessary.

    Also, most clubs don't allow external cameras anyways.

    I hope your club has metal detectors, so they can try to detect any possible hidden cameras your ex bf (or friends) might carry.





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    What a piece of shit.

    I had kinda similar issue - I just gave his full name and showed pic to manager and security. Although he has never showed up.

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    Yes, they can ban him and taking photos in the club is against the rules. Just alert management and get him kicked out if he steps foot inside the place. Also, is it possible for you to wear a wig while this blows over? He's a vindictive idiot, hopefully these are just empty threats.
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    Why is he doing this to you? Was he a controlling misogynist fuck when you were with him? As far as what the other girls have said about having him banned yes its all true. As far as the order of protection, no you can't get one because he is threatening to come to your job with the sole intent of humiliating you but you can get one at any time that you feel threatened or feel for your personal safety; so all you really have to say is he threatened you. You're not lying and they won't deny the order.

    Also, make sure to text him back in writing that he does not have your permission or consent to take or distribute any images of you or your likeness in the event he somehow does get photos of you you have grounds to sue him. I would write it in a letter as well with the date and mail it certified but that is me and that may feed into whatever control over you he thinks he has so make your own call on that part.

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    Definitely tell the manager and bouncer right away. Show them a picture of him and ask them not to let him in. Its unlikely they would let him in anyway, most clubs have zero tolerance for trouble makers, especially ones that have no intention of spending money. If they say no, you should quit and try working at a different club. If they dont recognize him and let him in by mistake, quickly make a signal to the bouncer and have him kicked out. The best way to deal with this is to avoid it happening at all. You should definitely show his threats to the police, and have the police warn him that if he tries to come into your work, he will be arrested and given a restraining order. His threats alone warrant a police report.

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    Default Re: Ex Boyfriend Found Out

    Do you have dirt on him? Threaten to tell his mom about some horrible things he has done in the past. You have to be willing to follow through, though. Also, what he is threatening is illegal in most states. Find out what the law is in your state, and then email him the statutes. What you are doing is legal.

    Check out this quick link for laws in your area.


    Ultimately, it is up to you to decide what you should do. Can you change clubs? Is he the kind of guy who will follow through with his threat, or is he just being an asshole? You have to weigh the situation and make a decision based on what is most likely to happen.

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