Hi everyone, I just signed up on this site. I am posting right now because I really need some advice. So, I have been at my club for about 2 years now. I've gotten to know the management and they support my creative endeavors outside the club (I work in the fashion/beauty industry) and always have made it sound as if they supported me and had my back.
Well, about a month ago I met a guy in the club, who is only a few years older than me. He has been in almost every night to see me and spends $400-$700 every night on drinks, dances, ect. He has helped me tremendously with my new makeup line business by designing logos and my packaging and donating on kickstarter, ect, and always gives me gifts. He has done more for me this past month than EVERY guy I've dated, total.
Well just last saturday one of the girls I work with who started last year (who I thought was cool but I guess not), came up to me and said, "Hey, don't hate me but I have been hanging out with your regular outside of the club recently and I have a mad crush on him". I may have been tipsy and I'm a hella emotional and sensitive person and I started having a panic attack and got angry and then she apparently threatened to beat my ass in the dressing room after work that night (I didn't hear that part but I have witnesses who heard it while she was walking inside and apparently the house mom was there too) and when I was told about that part, I started to get up and walk off and the house mom yelled at me for the first time ever which she has never done. I have literally never been in trouble there. I don't understand...
I'm really disappointed. And really, REALLY upset. I'm sorry, but I would never do that to a girl I'm cool with at the club. I respect the other dancers who are cool with me and wouldn't go behind their back and hang out with their regulars outside of the club.
Do I have a right to be upset? Because the management isn't on my side on this. They keep trying to justify her actions, probably because the other dancer has gotten close with the management (management meaning the hiring manager/bouncer and house mom). "He can still come in to see you" HE ISN'T GOING TO ANYMORE OBVIOUSLY!? And the club rules state that if you're (meaning the other dancer) dating a customer then he can no longer come in when you are working, and her and I work almost the same shifts (we are only open 5 days a week) soooo yeahhhh.... double standards and favoritism, much? Now I feel as if she is manipulating everyone against me.
My mind is just racing with a bunch of thoughts right now. I don't know what to do anymore. I feel betrayed... I am supposed to work tomorrow but I just want to pack all my shit up and leave at this point but that place felt like a second home to me. It's now a very bittersweet feeling.
I don't know what to do anymore, which is why I am reaching out. So.... please give me some insight...
Thank you everyone.. xoxo
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