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    I see many guys, especially online and often in real life who say that they don't see the point of strippers because they can "get it for free" or "that's what girlfriends are for" or they "don't see the point of having to pay for human interaction". I just don't know what to say to them besides well obviously we are the ones profiting because ya'll keep paying for it, lol! How do you tell them that we are providing an entertainment service that has immense value?

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    Here are some reasons their girlfriends/whatever free human interactions they're referring to are not equivalent to a dancer's time:
    Dancers are hot and sexy, physically and psychologically; not all girlfriends are.
    Girlfriends might not be into your fantasy, but that's exactly what a dancer is interested in.
    Your money makes a dancer smile and fulfill your desires, but sometimes nothing in the world can make your girlfriend do that.
    You can pick from a variety of dancers any night and keep picking new ones, but girlfriends don't work like that.
    With a dancer, (mostly) there is no baggage, and you can take pleasure in the experience without thinking about what it means or your relationship.

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    Default Re: What do you say to guys who argue that there is no point to strippers and sex wor

    I often outright call bullshit on the 'I can get it for free' tack. If a person is making such a point to crow abt how they can get it for free, or they have soooooooo much $$$$$, or whatever other bragging point they are fixated on, they're usually overcompensating.

    One could easily make the argument that there's no point to the existence of midrange to top-class restaurants, or really any restaurants above the calibre of McDonalds, Subway, etc ... anything other than fast food ... since any literate wanker can buy a cookbook & prepare all of their meals at home. Yet the full spectrum of restaurants continues to make a solid profit, bc ppl don't just go for the food. They go for the exp of the ambiance, the variety of entertainment styles, of being taken care of, of receiving great service.

    These are all the same things we offer in the sex industry. Thai vs Peruvian? Twerk-centric vs Olympic-class pole tricks vs that pinup-styled, smouldering-eyed vixen who moves like molasses & makes you melt w/ every sultry glance. Applebees vs Olive Garden vs la Trattoria? The local dive bar vs the upper-end chain clubs & everywhere in between. Shitty waiters & bratty ROB-type dancers thrown in w/ those waiters & entertainers who are good at their jobs & know how to provide an experience worth coming back for.

    All the same, I think it's generally a losing battle. These sound like the kind of ppl who just go to the SC to freeload & sit pretty on their moral/financial/egocentric high horses.

    ETA: I still stand by my answer, but I see most of the responses following mine seem to be geared toward dealing w/ this question ITC -- I initially read it as coming from guys you're interacting w/ apart from work.
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    Default Re: What do you say to guys who argue that there is no point to strippers and sex wor

    Hahaha, I love you ladies. <3

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    Default Re: What do you say to guys who argue that there is no point to strippers and sex wor

    I would save my breath and move onto a more worth while customer.
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    Default Re: What do you say to guys who argue that there is no point to strippers and sex wor

    Quote Originally Posted by lynn2009 View Post
    I would save my breath and move onto a more worth while customer.
    I agree. Even if you got a person like that to buy, would probably cheap and whiney. Forget him and move on.


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    Default Re: What do you say to guys who argue that there is no point to strippers and sex wor

    I say "maybe, but she aint gonna look like me" LOL.

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    Quote Originally Posted by NightGoddess View Post
    Hahaha, I love you ladies. <3
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    GTFO, suffices nicely.


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    Some men are clueless....any man who says he can get a woman for free is a [email protected] lie. Nothing in life is free. Dates cost money. Men will pay the cost to impress a woman, most likely so they can sleep with her. So in essence they do the same thing and spend money on women just like men who pay strippers or escorts.

    If a guy sees no value in paying for time with a stripper than so be it. Trying to convince those asshats otherwise is a waste of breath, energy, and time - and since time is money they waste that too. This sounds like a broke dude who shouldn't even be in the club.

    I like the men who are already sold on the value and ready to spend!
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    any man who says he can get a woman for free is a [email protected] lie. Nothing in life is free

    actor Charlie Sheen summed up this point very concisely ...

    " I don't pay girls to have sex with me. I pay them to LEAVE afterwards "

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    "Then why are you here?"

    No, but seriously. There are hundreds of bars in the area my work is at. A guy who says this could have gone to ANY of those bars and picked up a girl "for free." But no, he just so happened to end up at the one with naked chicks? Lol.

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    I tell them if there were no point to strippers, my income would NOT be nearly as high as it is!

    As far as guys claiming they can get it for free, that's a laugh... at another board I frequent, like half the guys on there are extremely extras oriented (and they hate on me because they know they have no chance) and during a debate a couple of them tried to say they could "easily" go to a regular bar and pick up girls to fuck who are just as hot as the extras girls they're going to strip clubs to pay to fuck. I'm thinking yeah right, I sure a lot of women in regular bars will be wanting to fuck your old grey ass FOR FREE. And if that were the case, why DON'T they go to regular bars and try their luck scoring with girl for free? If it would be so easy, why do they always turn to the Detroit strip clubs (brothels basically) to fuck in a 4x4 booth? Lol they know damn well they would have no luck at a regular bar, unless a cheap escort happened to be there (most of their pockets cannot afford more than $150 or so fo sex). LOL. Men lie to themselves sometimes...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Nina_ View Post
    I tell them if there were no point to strippers, my income would NOT be nearly as high as it is!

    As far as guys claiming they can get it for free, that's a laugh... at another board I frequent, like half the guys on there are extremely extras oriented (and they hate on me because they know they have no chance) and during a debate a couple of them tried to say they could "easily" go to a regular bar and pick up girls to fuck who are just as hot as the extras girls they're going to strip clubs to pay to fuck. I'm thinking yeah right, I sure a lot of women in regular bars will be wanting to fuck your old grey ass FOR FREE. And if that were the case, why DON'T they go to regular bars and try their luck scoring with girl for free? If it would be so easy, why do they always turn to the Detroit strip clubs (brothels basically) to fuck in a 4x4 booth? Lol they know damn well they would have no luck at a regular bar, unless a cheap escort happened to be there (most of their pockets cannot afford more than $150 or so fo sex). LOL.
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    Default Re: What do you say to guys who argue that there is no point to strippers and sex wor

    It's asshole losers with NO money who say stuff like this to make their sorry assess feel good. I would just walk away and not bother.

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    I'm rolling my eyes so hard right now I can't even post an eye rolling .gif. Men! Ugh!

    I think some men are personally offended by the actual necessity of sex work and project those feelings onto the industry. They're like, "Well, I would never need to pay for a hot sexy lady to pay attention to me, therefore no one would, therefore the whole idea is dumb!" You know?

    But that's stupid logic. It's like saying restaurants are useless because you love to cook. No one wants to have to do the dishes every night, and sometimes you want a yummy dish that your culinary skills can't hack.

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    Guys who don't have money for it say that. I say nothing. I would never get any money if I was out trying to educate every imbecile I come across. When people make it clear they aren't gonna give me money I don't even say anything or wait for them to finish with their explanation as to why or how they feel about it I just walk away.

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    I would say go see girls for free then and stop wasting my time. and then walk away. If he says one thing, and does something else that totally contradicts what he says, he's a loser. Guys who are truly above the sex industry do not partake in it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lokikola View Post
    Guys who don't have money for it say that. I say nothing. I would never get any money if I was out trying to educate every imbecile I come across. When people make it clear they aren't gonna give me money I don't even say anything or wait for them to finish with their explanation as to why or how they feel about it I just walk away.


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    Oh, I don't care about the ones in the club, I'm talking about the ones in real life who try to debate me about my job.

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    If I felt nice, it'd be "Some people don't want the complication of a relationship. We keep things much more simple. It's ok if you don't understand it, maybe strip clubs just aren't your thing. But trust me, a lot of people have tons of fun at them!"

    If not:

    "Well, clearly not everyone is as incredibly studly and mind-blowingly handsome as you are" --with extreme sarcasm.
    "And what's the point of YOUR job again?" So many jobs in this economy of ours are pointless, and most are subject to the same kind of arguments. "I can make my own big mac at home, I don't need to pay someone for a burger, how lame." "Oh, you push papers in an office all day, you're changing the world one step at a time aren't you?"

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    A stripper is the equivalent of a Little Debbie snack cake- convenient, appealing, is tasty, and is cheap..... In comparison to risking the GonnaHerpeSypillaids potential of the local town/city bar sluts (who give out free affection and pussy for attention and hopefully a chance to get paternity checks out of a guy.)

    Strippers are EXCITING!!!!!! That cute girl at Starbucks will never talk to you, bro. But a stripper will laugh at your jokes, pop her booty at you and make you look cool.

    An ex told me that strippers "finish" the fanatasies of men who come to watch them. Men are intensely visual. Sometimes all he needs is a dose of his "thing" to get him to sleep at night. At the end of it all, that's what it is. Whatever gets you through the night.
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    Men in real life who say that, my response would be that most men seem to think otherwise and my bank account proves it. Thank god for those other men

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    Quote Originally Posted by NightGoddess View Post
    Oh, I don't care about the ones in the club, I'm talking about the ones in real life who try to debate me about my job.
    People who say that kinda shit aint my type anyway. So i still just walk away mid sentence. If thats your outlook on me and what I do #byeFelipe

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    Quote Originally Posted by NightGoddess View Post
    Oh, I don't care about the ones in the club, I'm talking about the ones in real life who try to debate me about my job.
    Although I don't usually engage in this kind of debate, some replies you might try are:
    1. Married men in sexless marriages see strippers/cam girls/ escorts as a sexual outlet while preserving the marriage for their own reasons.
    2. Some men don't want a girlfriend/wife, but still want the attention of a sexy girl.
    3. Lonely men who are unsuccessful at finding a girlfriend or wife will spend their discretionary income on strippers/ cam girls/ escorts.
    4. Men in happy relationships enjoy sexually charged entertainment with or without their S.O.
    5. Lesbians/ bisexual women like to party with hot and sexy girls sometimes.
    6. Bachelor(ette) parties and divorce parties like having sexy girls for entertainment.
    7. Businessmen like to show off to their employees/clients at the strip club.
    8. Straight women will visit strip clubs because they have a fantasy of being a stripper.
    9. Exstrippers like the environment of the club and will re-live their glory days.
    10. Tourists seeking adventure they can't get at home. (this one is huge in Portland as we are known for our strip clubs)
    11. A fight with the S.O. will send some men into the strip club with a "fuck her" attitude. They feel better after spending money that the wife will never see again.
    12. "White Knights" giving the dancers money as do-gooders. Sometimes the cash comes with a religious pamphlet or offer of help to get out of the business. These guys are generally religious, but not always.
    13. Men with disabilities want to have a naked girl in their lap. It is hard to date hot women when a man is disabled, especially if his disability is on the autism spectrum.

    I hope this helps. The guys who don't understand why we get paid to do what we do, obviously are very self centered and can't imagine a man who can't find a girlfriend.

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