If there is one thing I've learned over the years, it is that the key to maximizing my club experiences is not to worry about what every dancer thinks of me. It is far more important to be well regarded by the girls who I
want to spend time and money with. Being seen as direct or dismissive by those who I have no interest in anyway is a good thing as they usually don't re-approach me during the same visit or during subsequent visits, which saves me time and hassles.
When responding to a dance offer from a girl I don't want, I usually say, "No, but thank you" with a smile and a direct look. About 60% of the time, that is enough. If they press, I'll usually tell them that I don't know what I'm looking for right now, but that I'll figure it out. If the rejected girl then offers to find another girl for me, I thank her but let her know that I prefer to handle it myself. With the aggressive ones, I sometimes have to say "no thank you" a few times and, perhaps once or twice a year, I have to get truly "rude" with a girl who just won't take no for an answer.
As far as tipping girls to go away, which has been suggested by a few on here, I don't do it and I wouldn't recommend it. All this does is to encourage bad behavior as some girls will hound you every time they see you from then on. IMHO a customer's only responsibility is to enjoy himself and to pay the people who help make that happen. IMHO it is better to spend your budgeted entertainment cash on girls who truly deserve it rather than on those who you feel pressured to pay off just to get rid of them.
Now sometimes girls will sit for a while without making the pitch, no doubt hoping to build a connection before trying to sell the dances. My feelings on this are more mixed. If she asked to sit and I agreed, then I feel some obligation to make sure that she gets something for it. How much she gets depends on how long she spends with me and how much I was entertained. If she sat uninvited, then I don't feel like I owe her anything, though I will often let a girl know fairly quickly if I have no interest in buying something from her. It is both unkind to her and a waste of your time to let a girl burn a lot of time with you if you have no interest in buying anything from her.
Anyway, just my long winded

fwiw.
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