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    Default Guys that are too big- there.

    How do you ladies handle guys that are larger ... down there? I am naturally tight and find these particular clients put me out of work for several days. Which is not good for the budget.

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    Default Re: Guys that are too big- there.

    I've been with a few big down there guys and the way I handled it was by always being on top and only going in half way. and I would do it really slowly.

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    Default Re: Guys that are too big- there.

    I once was with a guy who was super long (and fat) down there (like, over a foot long); It was bothersome and not very enjoyable. I rather stick in the 6-8 inches neighborhood.





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    Quote Originally Posted by EastCoastDancer01 View Post
    I've been with a few big down there guys and the way I handled it was by always being on top and only going in half way. and I would do it really slowly.
    I try that and it still is very painful. then if they want to be rough at all... adds to the pain. I guess there is not nice way of saying "show me" ahead of time...

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    Default Re: Guys that are too big- there.

    Thats why I dont like guys who are super huge! ugh, its not what its cracked up to be. It sucks for us females that theres really no way of knowing before hand. Seriously, I would just stick to giving them BJs and HJs. some things just arent worth the pain lol. Unless he's dropping thousands and thousands on you, its just not worth it.

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    You know, I met up w/a guy for..fun. I was looking forward to it, & we got going &..damn. Plus yea, he was kinda hurrying & a bit rough. We tried, but I had to stop. He ended up jerking off on my leg.
    I didn't @ the time, but lube wouldn't help?


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    I like 'em short and fat for this very reason.

    Is there any way you can increase the amount of time spent on foreplay? That tends to help a lot. Other than that, my best suggestions are to use lube, start out on top, and do whatever you need to to get as "into it" mentally as you can. Maybe try closing your eyes and fantasizing about riding someone you're extremely attracted to? Don't let yourself get anxious or hung up on the size because that makes matters worse.
    Exotic dancing is like any other job.
    If you work in an office, you wear dress shoes and a suit.
    If you work in a restaraunt, you wear skid resistant shoes and a uniform.
    If you work in a strip club, you wear 7" stilettos and lycra g-strings.

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    Default Re: Guys that are too big- there.

    all good advice.. thank you. I do always tell them I am naturally tight and have to go slow. But some just don't get it. I had a conversation with a photographer about how all guys want big, fat cocks.. and a lot of ladies do not enjoy that. lol I used to put on my website that additional donation required if generously sized there. I may have to go back to that idea.

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    My advice would be to invest in good lube - Platinum Wet is fantastic - and frankly if you have to miss work because of these guys, you should get yourself through oral, feign surprise and shock, and let the client know you can't do full service due to his size, ask if that's okay? meekly, and if your oral skills are good enough, he will be just fine with that.

    This is of course assuming you have screened well so your clients are all such gentlemen they would only be flattered and feel lucky to be with you in the first place.

    So if you want to be with me
    With these things there’s no telling
    We just have to wait and see
    But I’d rather be working for a paycheck
    Than waiting to win the lottery
    Besides maybe this time is different
    I mean I really think you like me

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    i know this sounds hilarious but it works for me every time (i have a regular who was very thick and it put me out of work for the next day or two)....an ice pack! seriously, as soon as he leaves fill a baggy with ice cubes and put a washcloth over it. hold on on your pussy for about 20 min. it helps a lot with the swelling and soreness! Also, lots of lube. tons.

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    Default Re: Guys that are too big- there.

    SophieL,

    I have some advice for you. You should have plenty of lube and ride him slowly. Usually, it takes some time to adjust to a certain size. However, you should start off with a nice bj first.In addition, make sure he does not rush you. The sex will become painful if he starts getting rough or rushing you. I hope this helps.

    Quote Originally Posted by SophieL View Post
    How do you ladies handle guys that are larger ... down there? I am naturally tight and find these particular clients put me out of work for several days. Which is not good for the budget.

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    Default Re: Guys that are too big- there.

    Try baby oil.

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    Quote Originally Posted by arielbriel View Post
    Try baby oil.
    it's actually petroleum based..a natural oil w/be better, coconut, or avacado.


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    Default Re: Guys that are too big- there.

    baby oil will cause a serious imbalance down there - it is not water soluble - when I first started 5000 years ago I used baby oil and it was not good - stick to water soluble

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    Quote Originally Posted by DonaDiabla View Post
    SophieL,

    I have some advice for you. You should have plenty of lube and ride him slowly. Usually, it takes some time to adjust to a certain size. However, you should start off with a nice bj first.In addition, make sure he does not rush you. The sex will become painful if he starts getting rough or rushing you. I hope this helps.
    I have had several that are so thick. As with my porn partners, I tell them I am naturally tight and have to go slow but yowza..... I feel like I would be a wuss if I just did bj or hand but this last one has me out of work a week later.

    I get Borax capsules from gyn specialist that help keep things in order and I use those after a hard session for several day. I use lots of lube but there are some guys I think I just can't do. Did not know if others had that problem or not. So glad to hear I am not the only one. They usually take my sounds of "pain" for pleasure it seems.

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    Default Re: Guys that are too big- there.

    If he's on the larger side, chances are he already know that. I'm also very tight, and have had fun with it.
    When his pants came off, I'd say "Wow! I bet You hear this a lot~ Ouch!" They laugh every time!
    It kind of breaks the ice, and I just do a bj, the make sure I'm on top, and work it the way I want. If he is a jerk, and wants it rough, game over. He can stop, or I'm out.

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    Thank you Glamourmilf. That will give me more courage next time to just say No... 2 weeks later and I am still sore from that last one. It cost me at least 3 appts that week.

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    I've heard that many kinds of oil will break down condoms, so check which kind before you use those with clients!

    Personally I love larger dicks but not with clients :/ The sex I have in my personal life is way different than the kind I have with clients.

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    I hate to be "that girl," but that's REALLY not normal if you stayed sore from one partner for two weeks. You may want to get checked out. Is there a chance you could have picked up an STI, whether from pro or personal sex? Some are asymptomatic and rough sex can trigger pelvic pain as your first symptom.

    Totally don't mean to worry you or be one of those doomsday folks, but just to cover the bases, ya know?
    Exotic dancing is like any other job.
    If you work in an office, you wear dress shoes and a suit.
    If you work in a restaraunt, you wear skid resistant shoes and a uniform.
    If you work in a strip club, you wear 7" stilettos and lycra g-strings.

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    Default Re: Guys that are too big- there.

    *A brand of lube called "wet stuff" is amazing, seriously changed the working lives of many girls I know
    *communication is key-Most guys who are really large already know that. Opening up communication in a light hearted and respectful way will often mean that he keeps his focus on going SLOW.
    *foreplay works wonders-trying to get yourself at least a little turned on down there will help things alot. Try playing with a toy before your workday starts, get some bloodflow down there and take it slow.

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    I don't escort *yet* but I actually had this problem with a guy I just met. Messed around and tried to have sex but just wasn't comfortable enough. I def dont want to give up so plan on giving it a 2nd try.

    But this seems like great info!
    Last edited by AlysonRose; 05-22-2015 at 04:49 PM. Reason: more inf

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    Quote Originally Posted by Naida View Post
    I hate to be "that girl," but that's REALLY not normal if you stayed sore from one partner for two weeks. You may want to get checked out. Is there a chance you could have picked up an STI, whether from pro or personal sex? Some are asymptomatic and rough sex can trigger pelvic pain as your first symptom.

    Totally don't mean to worry you or be one of those doomsday folks, but just to cover the bases, ya know?
    I have vulvodynia. A chronic condition of unknown orgin that causes intense pain in the vaginal area. I do self-exercises to help and have had physical therapy for it in the past. So I know this does not help. And when I see a large one, mentally, I start thinking "pain".. which does not help either. This one would not allow for longer foreplay and wanted deep and rough .

    Plus his "energy" level was really high. C-list celebrity lol and I think he was really into his own power.

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    Ouch. Sorry to hear that.
    Exotic dancing is like any other job.
    If you work in an office, you wear dress shoes and a suit.
    If you work in a restaraunt, you wear skid resistant shoes and a uniform.
    If you work in a strip club, you wear 7" stilettos and lycra g-strings.

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