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    Where I work, its $20.00 dances on the floor. I do not like men touching me for $20.00 dances. In the vip room, it doesnt bother me or make me feel degraded. I worry about vice if they are touching me in front of everyone. Basically everyone else is letting them touch everywhere and the customers see it, as im dancing for them and moving their hands. Moving their hands and telling them to stop touching me, does not work. The bouncers wont get my money if they dont want to pay because the other girls and letting them touch everywhere. If you can relate to this, what do you do? It angers me when they do not stop touching me when I tell them to, reminds me of rapists and child molesters.

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    Default Re: How do I get them to stop touching me?

    I always joked I learned karate from stripping. Just stop their hands. Redirect them to the floor. If they wont stop, then air dance and then theyll have their arms up in the air looking like a fckng idiot. LOL they will look pissed but then stop.

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    Default Re: How do I get them to stop touching me?

    I felt the same way. I just stopped selling the $20 floor dances. When the customers asked me why, I said because the floor dances are exactly the same as the stage show, and they would be welcome to tip me their $20's on stage if they like the performance that much. My club did enforce the "no touching" rule during floor dances, but it sounds like your club is not quite so strict about it. The other option would be to sell the dance as an air dance before you start. Use that as part of your pitch to get them back into VIP.

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    Default Re: How do I get them to stop touching me?

    Glitter, slick, sticky body oil and the reflexes of a ninja. Also, put your foot right between their legs, when they touch you, kick 'em in the nuts harder each time.

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    This is a very important skill to learn but it took me a little while too. You have to realise that you are in control of the situation, not them. The instant you forget that (whether it's because you're drunk, low self esteem, scared, etc.) you become a victim. Learn how to control them with your eyes. Feel confident in grabbing their hands and redirecting them, or simply moving away from them if they don't get the picture. Be completely persistent and stay calm. When you first start doing this, it will feel like a big struggle, like an uphill battle. I felt like I was babysitting again, with all the correcting statements and hand grabbing in every dance. Eventually as you become more confident it will be much easier, and you won't even have to tell them sometimes.

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    I give them 3 warnings and then an air dance. If we're in VIP, they get 3 warnings and then I hold their hands to the couch. They usually end the dance string at that point, but whatever.
    "People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."

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    I give them one warning and tell them it's double the price of one for touching. I upsell my dances from $25 to $40 light touching included and if they break my rules it's $50 and the dance ends.

    Please don't wear glitter or baby oil unless you want to be murdered my one of the dancers.

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    Default Re: How do I get them to stop touching me?

    Quote Originally Posted by hyori View Post
    Glitter, slick, sticky body oil and the reflexes of a ninja. Also, put your foot right between their legs, when they touch you, kick 'em in the nuts harder each time.
    I know you mean well but that's a good way to get fired.


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    I give them one warning and tell them it's double the price of one for touching. I upsell my dances from $25 to $40 light touching included and if they break my rules it's $50 and the dance ends.

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    Default Re: How do I get them to stop touching me?

    Men are grabby AF in the sc, yes, you have to train them. I also despise having my hair touched, & won't allow that eithr


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    Default Re: How do I get them to stop touching me?

    My personal tactic for dealing with this is to never ever get mad/act like it's a big deal, because usually when that happens, the customer gets all whiny, butthurt, and offended. Reacting like they're just a mischievous dumb boy has been far more effective for me. I think it helps maintain the fantasy. Stay calm, keep entertaining them, but make it clear that they are out of line.

    So what I usually do is, the first time they grab me, I act scandalized like they told me a hilarious dirty joke. Then I tell them flirtatiously, "OMG, stop it! You are so bad!" A lot of guys will stop here, but if they continue, I'll just act like we're little kids playing tag. I'll wag my finger at them and say, "If you're gonna be a bad boy, I'm gonna have to punish you!" And at that point I will actually hit them (sweetly) and jab my sharp nails into their palms (while smiling angelically). That always comes across loud and clear.

    And please please please leave the glitter to Ship Your Enemies Glitter. And no baby oil.

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    Default Re: How do I get them to stop touching me?

    I was joking about the glitter, oil and nut cracking. I'm not a stripper.

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    ^Then why are you here? Just to make jokes about getting strippers injured and fired?

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    Default Re: How do I get them to stop touching me?

    "That's against the rules here!" And then give them a flirty/naughty look. Or, if it's allowed and you're okay with it, tell them they can touch you more upstairs (although that normally leads to a bunch of questions about the customer asking WHERE they can touch you.) I used to do this and then only let the customers touch my sides if they wanted.

    Alternately, get the money upfront and if they touch you threaten to call security if they do again.

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    Default Re: How do I get them to stop touching me?

    -Pretend you're correcting babies / children rather than grown men.

    -Remember that the majority of guys don't have rape-y intentions when they're touching you. They're caught up in the moment, drinking, thinking that you're having just as great of a time as they are. Touch is very instinctual (especially when you're looking at something beautiful), so when you add the club environment and alcohol onto that natural inclination...

    -If you don't mind being touched in one place, let them know that you 'like' being touched there. Even if it's a very small area, like the middle of your back or your hair, sometimes it helps to let them win a battle so that you win the war. You can say something when you start dancing like "I'd love for you to touch my legs / back while I dance for you." If they ask if they could touch you elsewhere, say "I'd prefer you touch me where I like to be touched - on my legs and back." Obviously this wouldn't work if you really want to stick to the zero-touching-on-the-floor thing.

    -If they ask why they can't touch you, say "I save touching for gentlemen who spend time with me in private," or "I don't like it when everyone is watching us" or "I like saving something for my special customers...do you want to become one of my special customers?" or "I'd love for you to touch me...let's upgrade to a private room." You get the idea.

    -Let them know that you'll have to stop the dance if they won't play by your rules. "Silly...I told you that you can't touch me out here...one more and I'll have to stop!" Sanity tip: pretend you're talking to a five-year old.

    -Always get the money upfront so that if you have to stop the dance, you have your money. If they get angry when you stop the dance, tell them that they shouldn't have broken your rule. "I'd love to continue dancing for you - do you think you can be a good boy for me?" You can vary the verbiage depending on how serious the infraction was (brushing up against you vs. grabbing your butt).

    One of the difficult parts about this is that you can get away with having different contact rules than the rest of the girls if you're providing a different level of quality than the other dancers. If you're the prettiest girl in the club or are highly entertaining compared to the others, then you can offer this as a reason for why you hold yourself to a different standard. But if you're a 7 in a room full of 7s (for example), then it becomes much harder to have a different set of rules. This is even tougher if you're working in a club with lots of regulars. You may have to settle for slightly less business and simply be more clear about your boundaries. "I have to let you know, I don't allow touching out here on the floor. I'll stop dancing if you touch me. I'd love for you to touch me, but I reserve that for private dances. Would you like to stay out here on the floor, or would you like to upgrade right now?"


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    Default Re: How do I get them to stop touching me?

    This thread has its ups and downs (and it took me forever to get people to understand the core of what I was asking), but I think it ended up being an interesting discussion, if I remember correctly...

    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...ch-the-dancers

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    I give them a warning that touching isn't allowed and that security enforces it. And implore them to stop, so the bouncers won't spoil our good time. If they don't knock it off, I let security deal with it. The no touch rule is very much enforced. Sometimes quite forcefully...

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    If they don't ask beforehand then Tell them after you've collected their money but before you start to dance.
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    Default Re: How do I get them to stop touching me?

    If im dancing next to dancers who are letting them touch everywhere and in view, they can see its not against the rules. I speak my mind directly when I have the money. I am a clean dancer working in a dirty club. Its geting worse everyday. Im also working sober so the roaming hands bother me, for very little money. I wont respond to them in a ditzy way, that aint me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    If they don't ask beforehand then Tell them after you've collected their money but before you start to dance.
    Oh yes, this totally reminded me of the thread with customers whining about dancers who wanted the money before the dance. This is why!!!!

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    Default Re: How do I get them to stop touching me?

    From the OP >Quote>" I do not like men touching me for $20.00 dances. In the vip room, it doesnt bother me "
    If the floor dances were $50 would it be ok? < or is this a semi public touching, vs more privacy?
    I got over this long ago. Some of the super perfect looking girls can get away with the 2-3 foot rule or the 1 way touch rule, but as for the floor, I just try to keep the touching quick, its more of a tease and gets you more ( dances, VIP, lap dances, etc) .
    This work its hard to claim much a moral high ground with your clothes off, a hard line to walk actually....

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    Default Re: How do I get them to stop touching me?

    I gently move their hands while still moving my body. If they do it a second time I firmly say "no touching". If they do it a third time I walk way because I got my money upfront. The only time I don't take money upfront is if it's a regular.

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    Default Re: How do I get them to stop touching me?

    Collect your money up front. When someone keeps doing stuff they're not supposed to my final warning goes: You can enjoy an air dance from here on out and shut up or I can walk away and not finish. you choose"

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    I would also like to know how to get the female customers to stop touching me. They start talking shit, when I tell them to stop. At least they hear me tho, where the men act like they are deaf. I am constantly moving their hands away and I do it nicely. Maybe I need to move them harder but I get a lot of attitute when I do. I want to get paid without the guy being lame. Its not normal where I work, to collect the money upfront.

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    You need to say NO! Who cares if they give you attitude, you need to make your point and if the react badly that's their problem. If they are touching to an extreme, get a bouncer. If your club is pressuring or encouraging you to do things that make you uncomfortable, leave! You shouldn't be frowned upon for having boundaries. Are there any other clubs in your area you could try out? Do you feel uncomfortable being the authoritarian? How is not normal to collect money upfront at your club? This is so weird to me...

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    Nothing to add since a lot of good advice has already been said...just wanted to say.....I love wearing glitter! I like glitter eyeshadow on my lids, I have hairspray with glitter in it and I dust glittery body powder on my chest!! Ahhhhhhaha sorry not sorry!

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