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    Default House moms. Why?

    I understand younger girls and people who are just starting and don't understand what they're doing yet might benefit from a house mom, but the first time I started dancing was in a foreign country all by myself. The only thing I had to go on was me. So I come back to the United States and they have all these house moms. They do absolutely nothing for me! You want me to pay you for nothing? And I have to answer to you? Ridiculous!
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    Ahaha. I can't STAND house moms. I know a lot of girls love them, but I cringe at them. House moms and bathroom attendants are in that vein of "expecting a tip for nothing", IMO. Some of them do scheduling and whatnot, but we don't have schedules here, so that's irrelevant to me.

    Every club I've worked that had one, they didn't do shit except bring stuff for you to use, sometimes food, and in one of the Christies, they would act as the 'gown police' and not let you work if they didn't like your dress. They're usually the center for gossip too, just what we need.
    But yeah, pretty sure I'm a big girl that brought her own hairspray and her own snacks, and if I forget something, I go without. My club only has one on Fridays, and I just use the other dressing room she doesn't go in. I hated feeling obligated to tip her, and asking her to move her rack of shit just so I could get to my locker.
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    Default Re: House moms. Why?

    Fortunately I have never worked in a club with a house mom and thank god. They sound greedy, lazy, useless and bitchy.
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    Default Re: House moms. Why?

    Can you just ignore them?

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    Default Re: House moms. Why?

    Quote Originally Posted by NightGoddess View Post
    Can you just ignore them?
    Nope, not usually..I've only come across 1 so far, but it was a requirement to tip her, whether or not you used her 'amenities' which I never did. Also, sometime they push to sell outfits, which's fine if you want/need/like something..but hearing about someone buying a custom outfit, it not fitting/being correctly made, AND upfront pay for it, non-negotionable? Nope.
    Unless it's made from a sample, you're supposed to put so much down usually 1/3 to 1/2, then it's checked for fitting, THEN you pay the rest, if it's correctly done & fits. I've done custom it takes me forever cause of my hand, but I let that be known & I also let them know the above terms.
    Anyway, to the OP, it seems kinda they're hired to make schedules & 'babysit'.


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    Most "house moms" are useless parasites but one club I worked at had a "house dad" who was worth his weight in gold. I miss him. Depends on the club.
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    Quote Originally Posted by NightGoddess View Post
    Can you just ignore them?
    They're usually a mandatory tipout in my experience. So you can ignore them, but you still gotta pay them. Parasites.
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    Default Re: House moms. Why?

    I like house moms in theory. In practice is a very different story.

    The first club I worked in with a house mom, she was just a lazy bitch who never actually contributed anything except shit talking, negativity, and gossip. Honestly, I think the club just kept her around because she was an ex dancer that management knew for years. I knew her on a personal level and she was a decent person until I lost patience with her recently, but having her as a house mom was a joke.

    The second actually hired a decent lady during my time there. She actually did a lot for the place! She kept the DR spotless, fixed up the lockers, didn't rip us off with an unreasonable mark up on the snacks/tampons/travel bottles of stuff she sold girls who forgot stuff, and generally kept us on our toes with a positive attitude. My opinion might be a little skewed because tip out for her wasn't mandatory, though.
    Exotic dancing is like any other job.
    If you work in an office, you wear dress shoes and a suit.
    If you work in a restaraunt, you wear skid resistant shoes and a uniform.
    If you work in a strip club, you wear 7" stilettos and lycra g-strings.

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    Housemom at the club I work - there's 2 of them - and they are both wasting space and my money im forced to give them every shift and most times they don't do jack shit but sit on their duffs playing candy crush saga...

    These hoes have notes saying not only do we pay them for just being there but we also have to tip for using their amenities - which are sub par anyways. Ugh! I wouldn't mind tipping out to them if they were actually useful and their products were good. But it's all cheap sh*t that looks like it came from the basement in 1972.
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    Last good house mom I had was when I started dancing 12 years ago. She kept tons of things for us and every time I saw her she was up doing something. Plus she used to dance at the club when it first opened, so she helped a lot of new dancers. But even the veteran dancers liked her because she was a genuine help.
    One place had a house mom who was a gay guy and it would have been nice except he was a total bitch-queen. I hated having to tip his fat lazy ass out. He was just like the ones mentioned above who pass gossip and start shit.

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    Default Re: House moms. Why?

    Most of the house mom(/dad) experiences I've had were in Nevada, and they were all extremely helpful. In one club I work at in Virginia, there's an honorary house mom that not only doesn't do squat, but gets ridiculously drunk whenever she's in the building and spreads misinformation about rules. Their presence is generally inconsequential for me.

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    Useless

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    Default Re: House moms. Why?

    Basically, they exist so that competent strippers can subsidize incompetent ones.

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    Quote Originally Posted by azaleanola View Post
    Basically, they exist so that competent strippers can subsidize incompetent ones.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Selina M View Post
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    Across the board we're subsidizing what should be the club's payroll. The entire system is grotesque and abused. It's rare to deal with staff that's actually supportive. I'm actually amazed and pleasantly surprised when I come across it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Optimist View Post
    Across the board we're subsidizing what should be the club's payroll. The entire system is grotesque and abused. It's rare to deal with staff that's actually supportive. I'm actually amazed and pleasantly surprised when I come across it.
    Yes. The staff is surprisingly supportive at mine, but the doormen bitch and moan every single night about tips. They complain that the dancers are mean and greedy unless they tip every doorman on their shift at least $20...like that's going to happen! They'd all wind up making out like strippers if that were the case while we'd be shorted a ton of money every shift.

    We don't have a house mom, but we do have a VIP hostess. I've never seen her do anything except piss off my highest paying regular (800-1000 each visit) to the point he's never coming back. I complained to management, and they said the plan on firing her once they have a replacement because my guy also usually bought 3-4 bottles of alcohol each visit with his friends, too. Can't wait until she's gone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SexedUpCat2 View Post
    Yes. The staff is surprisingly supportive at mine, but the doormen bitch and moan every single night about tips.
    Once when I was having a really good night the house mom pulled me aside and said she got a text from the dance room bouncer than I wasn't tipping enough. Then the front door girl shorted me money at the end of the night.
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    Default Re: House moms. Why?

    useless, snooty, have some fucked up "better than thou" mentality & lest not forget the "I brought food" BS which usually turns out to be some gross unhealthy Hamburger helper crap that they wanna charge $5 a head to eat it.... No thanks.
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    The house mom at the place I worked was okay.. I guess.. I didn't tip her - nobody gave me shit about that.. It was a rock n' roll titty bar - I paid my house fee - they were quick to fine you for EVERYTHING though.. She did make me change up some of the shit I was wearing more than once telling me "I don't like that" ..... The one thing she did that made me pretty happy was diffuse a situation that happened when I put my dancer case in the corner of the table of the DR - where nobody had their stuff - and being new I didn't know that spot "belonged" to anyone.. So this bitchy girl came in on her night off and for some reason went back into the DR and saw where I had my stuff and made a HUGE fucking deal about it.. I didn't know what to say.. One of the other girls said something to the house mom about it and she shut that down quick. She told me that I can put my stuff wherever I want - and that that girl wasn't even working that night. So I guess I was glad she was around that night... Wasn't real fond of her criticizing my get-ups... lol... :-P

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    This thread is hilarious to me because I was thinking about trying to be a house mom. Either that or go back to tending bar in a strippy. The two clubs I worked at the house mom's were the shit. The kept things in order until one of the clubs went down hill. There was no saving that place. This was 8 years ago and Im in a different state now. I have no idea how to go about becoming a house Mom but I think I could be a good one. But I don't know now after reading these post. I would hate to walk into a situation where the girls disliked me on site.

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    ^I'm sure plenty of girls will be grateful to have someone help them dress themselves/groom themselves/feed themselves. But keep in mind that at least an equal number will resent you for taking up space, taking our money, and making it easier for the tragic stereotypes to compete with us.

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    Quote Originally Posted by azaleanola View Post
    ^I'm sure plenty of girls will be grateful to have someone help them dress themselves/groom themselves/feed themselves. But keep in mind that at least an equal number will resent you for taking up space, taking our money, and making it easier for the tragic stereotypes to compete with us.
    LMAO I suppose I had a different view on what a House Mom really is? At the two clubs I worked at those ladies were like managers. I guess they were the exception? After reading these post I think I'll just stick to tending bar.

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    I seem to be an honorary house mom in most clubs I work in because I'm old enough to have a 20 year old child, I'm always sober and I consistently bank. New dancers come to me with everything from asking me to fix their shoes to asking me for advice about relationships, parents, etc to helping them with their stage routine. I don't mind helping a little if I'm not busy but... I would never, ever want to do it full time or try to make money off it. Or take on the responsibility.

    I'm damn careful about who I help these days. If you mentor a dancer who goes rogue in some way, it has a nasty way of coming back. If she starts doing extras or ripping off customers, the first thing management will think is that she was taught that from the dancers who helped her. Yeah, not fun or a good working environment.

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    A vending machine can do a housemoms job. I've worked with 2 housemoms out of 20+ clubs that were worth tipping. The rest are lazy and gossipy. Cheap lotions and sprays I don't use, but am still expected to give them money because the club wants them there but doesn't want to pay them themselves. "But what if you need a tampon or a q-tip someday?" I say this, "I don't valet, but should I tip him every night in case I want him to park my car someday?" If the club wants a babysitter for the DR, then let the club pay for one. I'm a grown ass woman I don't need that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PhatGirlDynomite!!! View Post
    LMAO I suppose I had a different view on what a House Mom really is? At the two clubs I worked at those ladies were like managers. I guess they were the exception? After reading these post I think I'll just stick to tending bar.
    A "House Mom" is supposed to ( Takes a deeeeep breath)
    Be the managers eyes and ears to the Strippers, while keeping Drama to a slow crawl.
    This can be done by being the girls "friend", but that usually ends up offending some folks because the house Mom "friends" some stupid chicks, while trying to do this.
    Better approach is to take on a female assit dancer manager role where same goals are made but being a little above the fray, in communication with All and able to shut down drama instantly.
    BUt many I have seen work with the outfit sellers, and must get kickbacks, to help their income and keep some outfits on hand. Others are told they WILL get tipped and they bring food etc, to try the "friend" route again.
    The "house moms" that keep the big drama girls in line and Fine them and send me leads are Good in my book. But it many places they are powerless and just try to pacify the managers and give them something to tell the police, they have a "fall guy".
    I find some bouncers make good house moms! Ill tip but help me out....I actually tipped a door man last week for sending a group my way...
    The real Purpose of a house mom has been purposely diluted to try to just keep the peace, they have no power, and end up a stool
    my 2 cents..

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