So this is another "stripping vs boyfriend" thread-- deep down I think I know what I need to do... But I think I just need somewhere to dump my guilt. Lol
so I have been dancing since September 2013, with a few month break in October/November (due to moving). I was single when I went back to dancing, and planned on being that way for a very long time (commitment issues lol). Fast forward to August of last year, I meet a guy. I didn't bother telling him I dance, because I didn't know how serious we would be. Another part of me didn't want to him to not give me a chance. I have a day job, so omitting this information was easy to do. We were dating exclusively for three months (though not official), and I didn't bother telling him, because we were "just dating." Once we got official, and started talking about the future (not marriage or anything like that, but just us being long term), I realize I have two options. 1. Quit dancing or 2. Come clean. The risk of coming clean though, is the fact that he would very much be upset that this entire time, he was basically being lied to. I could quit, but I want to save at least 10k and throw it into an investment account before I do that. That way, I can make that amount continue to grow so that I CAN quit dancing if I need to. I can keep hiding it from him, but if we ever decide to move in together, I have the "quit or come clean" dilemma again. Also, the more I continue to do it behind his back, my risk for being "outed" by one of his friends (should they come to my club, though they haven't yet) increases... And I definitely don't want him to find out that way, either.
My my other issue is that our relationship is pretty new. We talk about being long term, but that doesn't mean that will happen. Do I really want to lose out on the potential earnings for some guy who may or may not be "the one?" However, being in this relationship also makes stripping feel.... Almost wrong. Just for me, I really only want my boyfriend to be so intimidate with me. Of course I don't give extras, but let's face it, stripping is a very personal thing. You get so close to customers, faking intimacy, hell, even get groped countless times a day. I know it's technically not cheating, but in a way, is it? He would probably look at it that way, and I wouldn't blame him. /:
i'm in iy strictly for the money. I got into it when I was out of a job and had a dwindling savings account, and I've stayed for the money. It's allowed me to save, move, and fix my car when it needed repairs. It's also bought me some frivolous things here and there... But now I'm in the mindset of wanting to put everything aside and invest it... So like I said earlier, when it comes to quitting time, at least I'll have something to show for it... But I don't know how long I can keep this up without him knowing. /:
i I feel like if I want to keep him, I need to quit. I've already gone too long keeping it a secret, that by coming clean NOW would definitely ruin the relationship. /: honestly, if my financial goals were met, I'd have an easier time quitting. But they haven't yet. Arghhhh. I dug myself in quite a hole here, I realize that. Anyone have any advice, or similar experiences to share? Haha




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