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    Hey guys

    I'm still a baby camgirl so I thought I'd turned to more experienced girls with this question. I recently met a guy who is really nice and has some money and all of that good stuff. I told him up front that I was camming, and he's cool with it, what with the "no judgement" thing and all. He asked about it maybe once, and asked me to flash him once (because he couldn't believe that a girl like me 'who keeps getting better and better' would have nipple piercings, which he likes) which is cool with me since I have a regular habit of showing them to friends if they were curious. That's fine.

    What worries me is that since he knows I'm a camgirl, he might think that I'm willing to show off my body willy-nilly. I think he already assumes I'm not an easy girl, and I'm not-- I'm hard to impress, and fairly picky. We were talking about having a Skyping pajama party since he lives 45 minutes away from me, and he asked me what I wore to bed. I said "either a tshirt and shorts or underwear" and he said I should wear my underwear and show him my panties.

    I don't know if I'm just being sensitive or paranoid or whatever, but it really struck a nerve with me. I don't want to show him my panties. I would put on shorts and a non-revealing t-shirt if I was going to be in my pajamas around someone that I hadn't gone "all the way" with yet. You know what I mean? :/ I told him no, I wasn't going to show him my panties, and that if it worked out then he could wait until I was comfortable letting him under my clothes. He said okay, and said it made sense after I further explained that some things were just better in person, and that I'm rather reserved when it comes to prospective dates.

    I've only been doing adult work for a couple of weeks so I'm not quite sure how to approach dating. :/

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    So is this guy a potential sugar daddy or boyfriend?

    If it were me I'd be interested in him getting to know me as a person and showing an interest in all my little quirks and hobbies. Hanging out fully clothed and getting to know each other. Words are cheap, my exes all showed me that! What does he do, how does he treat you day to day.

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    A potential boyfriend. I mean, maybe. I've been texting him and Skyping him, but we haven't really hung out properly yet. A mutual friend of ours gave him my phone number, which I didn't appreciate until I realized that the guy is pretty cute, but I'd rather it not happen again. We have a lot in common... I just have a requirement that anyone I date has some money. Or at least goals to get money. This guy has a lot of eggs in his basket and is obviously a hard worker, and has treated me with nothing but respect except the panty comment.

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    Dating as a sex worker, in my experience has been awful. Either guys just wanna add you to their trophy list or it scares em off. Unfortunately, I've had way more of the first...

    Just be careful and don't be afraid to put a guy in his place if he starts getting sexual after you tell him your job.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Nocturnelle View Post
    Dating as a sex worker, in my experience has been awful. Either guys just wanna add you to their trophy list or it scares em off. Unfortunately, I've had way more of the first...

    Just be careful and don't be afraid to put a guy in his place if he starts getting sexual after you tell him your job.
    Same here. I've been camming for 5 years, and at first I thought because it's done from home, without any physical contact (unlike stripping), that I could be honest about it.
    Not only did I lose a couple of girls I thought were friends, but even men who I thought were friends, INSTANTLY became pervy, and weird, and always wanted me to talk about the sexual things I did, every time we spoke. Or they wanted to visit my cam rooms..Nope!
    Dating is an absolute nightmare, because these guys are all over the internet, and even when I hadn't told them at first, they always found out. It's not like I was never going to tell them...it's that I wanted to make sure they were someone wanted to date, long term.
    They always beat me to the punch, and from then on, they treated me like a slut. and expected I have sex with them.
    Maybe its the city I was living in, which is highly sexualized, but I'm very worried to start dating in this new town, because I've already been spotted by a cam customer, which freaks me out to my core.
    I would say that if you are dating, maybe wait until you can feel him out a bit, regarding his views on camming.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Glamourmilf View Post
    I would say that if you are dating, maybe wait until you can feel him out a bit, regarding his views on camming.
    Mmm. I've been feeling him out. He sent me a couple more .... adult photos of himself, and I appreciate the gesture, by all means. But he did beg for me to return the favor, and I gave him a firm no and explained that I will tease all day long but he wasn't going to get any nudes out of me. And I laid down the law with my "I'm not easy" and all that good stuff. I'm just like... not sure yet. He wants to take me on a date but I told him I wanted to get to know him better. If he keeps bringing up sex and whatnot I'll just have to count my losses and drop him, I guess.

    I knew dating after I started doing adult work would be hard but I guess I just sort of didn't expect it to be this confusing when someone asked to see my nudes @[email protected] Like... honey, no! People pay me just to see my panties! I'm not going to give away free nudes just because someone is cute.

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    ^^Yeah, that's what was happening to me with even male friends who I told I cammed. (Along with them wanting to always talk about it, as I had mentioned).
    I go on dating sites, and even though I use completely different photos than my camming, adult work pic, I get lots of emails asking if I
    I'm a prostitute, and also fro women calling me every name in the book.
    I am happiest when I'm single.

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    I'm on a couple dating sites, too. I only cam on MFC and I have region blockers for everyone in my state as well as where I'm from so I haven't run into problems yet. I've talked to a few girls I'm interested in and they all seemed a lot more chill about me camming than this dude is.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wr1ter View Post
    Hey guys

    I'm still a baby camgirl so I thought I'd turned to more experienced girls with this question. I recently met a guy who is really nice and has some money and all of that good stuff. I told him up front that I was camming, and he's cool with it, what with the "no judgement" thing and all. He asked about it maybe once, and asked me to flash him once (because he couldn't believe that a girl like me 'who keeps getting better and better' would have nipple piercings, which he likes) which is cool with me since I have a regular habit of showing them to friends if they were curious. That's fine.

    What worries me is that since he knows I'm a camgirl, he might think that I'm willing to show off my body willy-nilly. I think he already assumes I'm not an easy girl, and I'm not-- I'm hard to impress, and fairly picky. We were talking about having a Skyping pajama party since he lives 45 minutes away from me, and he asked me what I wore to bed. I said "either a tshirt and shorts or underwear" and he said I should wear my underwear and show him my panties.

    I don't know if I'm just being sensitive or paranoid or whatever, but it really struck a nerve with me. I don't want to show him my panties. I would put on shorts and a non-revealing t-shirt if I was going to be in my pajamas around someone that I hadn't gone "all the way" with yet. You know what I mean? :/ I told him no, I wasn't going to show him my panties, and that if it worked out then he could wait until I was comfortable letting him under my clothes. He said okay, and said it made sense after I further explained that some things were just better in person, and that I'm rather reserved when it comes to prospective dates.

    I've only been doing adult work for a couple of weeks so I'm not quite sure how to approach dating. :/
    Yeah I'm more conservative in dating so If I was you I would not. You haven't said how long you've been dating this guy but regardless you are still just dating. If you want to get into a long term relationship, some guys you have to make them wait especially until they've shown some type of commitment to you Before you divulge the intimate goods. Selfies in your underwear to me counts as intimate goodies.

    He probably thinks, due to your line of work, that you are carefree and liberal with regard to your sexuality - and nothing wrong with that - but for the right person who will respect you so definitely take time to feel this guy out to see if he has what it takes to be deserving of your time, presence, and intimate goodies.
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    Yeah. I've stopped texting him at this point. He asked if he could take me out to dinner and I said alright, but then he never got back to me, or even asked if I still wanted to go. I'm counting my losses and moving on. He can deal with it. Thanks, girls I feel a lot better about being sensitive to him asking about my underwear.

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    I... Am confused. Even if you weren't an adult worker he probably would have asked you to have the skype party in your panties, especially since you were the one who said you sleep in just them some times. Asking for nudes and being asked for nudes is also very much a part of the non adult worker dating scene.
    Also, if you were 'teasing' him sexually, he probably assumed you were bullshitting about not being easy. I've known a lot of girls that say they aren't easy, but that mostly to keep guys interested. Course those girls normally send nudes.

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    You have a really good point! But after I told him no, I don't want to send you nudes, he used the "I've treated you with nothing but respect" line so it was a major red flag for me. I don't want to send nudes for free to someone just because they respected me. Especially if they later asked if I wanted to cam and "play around"... that's def. a free show he was asking for. :/

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    interesting...you cam. You must have the money in the relationship, eh?

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    That is most definitely a free show he wanted XD
    And that line is annoying as shit, from any guy. Guys use it on my sis, it enrages me because they really do think they are owed something.
    Well, if it makes you feel any better, you don't need to be a sex worker for a guy to act like that! Some get very entitled when it comes to sex, very fast :/ and there's honestly no reason for them to be like that. Sorry he turned out to be a tool!

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    When I was single and first started dating a man, I act very traditional and dress/act/speak like a lady. Even if they knew about my job upfront I still expected to be treated like a lady at all times. Especially if you're a sex worker, you have to hold yourself up to an extremely high standard so they don't get the wrong idea. It also depends on how long you've been dating. I gave my husband strip teases etc. and brought some fun of my job into the bedroom after we'd been going out for a few months. But in the initial getting-to-know-you phase, I would never show a man my boobs, or talk about my panties. No judgment on you, but men DO take that sort of thing as the green light that it's okay to go there. It's sending him a mixed message. Remember even the gentlemen are balls of horniness. He's taking his queues from you.

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    That is pretty true... I've always been sort of open like that so I didn't really think about it. I'm going to be more careful from now on. I haven't tried talking to anyone else since him, but I'm going to be a lot choosier about who I give my kik to. I'm not even sure if I want to date a guy! I'm more interested in girls right now.

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    If you're interested in a male POV to me this would be similar to dating a waiter - sure she might know restaurants and food, etc, but would you be asking her to serve your food every night and be complaining to her if something wasn't cooked correctly? If you told her, at a bar, that you could do with a little more water and another Guiness? Hell no. Personally, I'd assume she'd want a rest from that shit for a bit.

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    Oh, I like that! I've been trying to think of a comparison for if the situation ever comes up again. I'm gonna keep that in mind.

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    This is the weird thing...see in normal relationships, sexting and such and flirting is considered normal, even fun. To the mind of a sex worker though we all go "hell no, this is free". Only problem is that there is a difference in how one treats one's love interests to one's customers. The right person will make you feel ok about doing stuff for "free" because it will be in a healthy situation. At least that is what I have felt in my experience. It stops being a drag when there is someone worth doing flirty sexy stuff for.

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    Yeah, thats what I think so far. I never was big on dirty talking or sexting anyway-- it just feels so.. impersonal to me. You know what I mean? Anyway, I ended up blocking the free-show guy. Lol. He propositioned me again a few minutes ago, and then I told him that I was tired from working, and I'd be up for a quick chat instead. He said no, so I politely gave him the username of my work skype account and how to pay. He insulted me ("youre a broke-ass bitch" "gold digger" "not worth paying for" etc), threw a fit, and I blocked him and his phone number in the middle of it. What a loser. No wonder he hasn't gotten laid in nearly 2 years. I'll be laughing all the way to the bank, and then to my dinner date tomorrow with someone who thinks I'm worth it.

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