
Originally Posted by
Lunaxoxo
You know, I forgot all about the option of mediation. I've just been so upset I didn't even think about it. We did it to come up with our agreement in the first place. Maybe we just need to go back. Who knows. I am going to find a lawyer, either thru some sort of LGBT help or just paying for it. In my state, you can go to mediation, but a lawyer is still recommended.
On another note, I still don't think the fact that I'm gay will weigh much in court. I know of a girl who is gay with three kids. All by separate dads. Note that I know her. We are not friends. I think she's a little ridiculous, personally. She has no job. She has obtained full custody of all 3. There's nothing wrong with the fathers. They get visitation. They pay a boat load of child support. And it was a well known fact in court that she was gay, because this was all before it was legalized in my state. She's never in a long term relationship. She's with partners for a few months, then switches up, then goes back. If she can get custody being gay, I don't think that's going to be an issue for me. I also know 3 other gay mothers who have custody of their children in my area. Like I said, I've been with my gf for two years. Even when my ex and I were still good, she was friends with us both. She's been in my kid's life from the beginning and my child looks to her as another family member. My ex doesn't have an issue with me being gay. No one does. That's not even really a question.
The thing I'm concerned about is her and I doing camming and selling clips. She does have a vanilla job still. I lost mine. Which honestly, if I had to and cut out a lot of things (Internet, phones, my car), we could just skim by living off of, but then, how would we go visit family out of town, how would anyone contact us, how would my child get online to do homework?
And as far as the zoning issue goes. I did look into that a little last night. It isn't illegal to have a home based business where I live. If you have over a certain number of clients visiting your business each month, you need to be zoned for business, not residential. Obviously I'm not in THAT line of work, so I should be okay on that front at least.
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