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    Don't normally put myself out there on the internet like this but I figured if anyone would have experience in this, it would be you ladies.
    I met my ex-husband when I was 15. I had his baby 2 weeks after graduating high school and we married after. I was young, naive, whatever. Fast forward several years and it didn't work out. I fell in love with my best friend and am now a lesbian... ha... we cam together, we make clips together, I cam solo, she cams solo. Up until a month ago when I got laid off, we both had vanilla jobs too.

    Anyway, I have primary custody of mine and my ex's child. He is not a fan of the line of work I am in. (He found out because he follows a girl on instagram in the same line of work who shouts out our page for us on the regular. [So basically, it's cool that he's a perv, but not cool that his baby mama is part of the crowd he's perving on]). He's threatened a few times in the past to take me to court for custody, to try and take our child away. He didn't because I found a vanilla job at the end of last year. I quit camming for a while. Now that I've lost my job and I'm back into it, I'm terrified.

    I don't feel I'm doing anything wrong here... I'm not doing anything illegal. I'm making honest money for my daughter, because I have no other means of supporting myself and her at the moment. I don't want her to primarily reside with him, because his entire family is kind of wacko. He's extremely irresponsible, is possibly selling drugs (or so the rumor around town goes), and the reason we divorced in the first place is because he kicked our child and myself out of the house so his girlfriend could move in.

    Would a judge honestly find me an unfit mother because I cam and sell amateur porn clips? I mean, how is that harming my child??? I'm putting a roof over her head. I'm clothing and feeding her. I'm paying for her disney blu-ray collection and everything else in the world she wants/needs.

    My brain says he can't do jack squat, because I'm not doing anything wrong... but he's messed with my head so much... I'm freaking out. Help!

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    For the most accurate info on your situation and state you'd have to consult an attorney. Most will do this for free.


    I'm thinking camming is legal but since it's considered online porn it could totally be used against you unless perhaps you had your own dedicated workspace outside the home your kid would never be able to discover. But I'm not a lawyer so I don't know for sure. Just consult with a few lawyers and see what you find out.


    Also there was a similar thread on this same topic you may want to search the forum.


    Sorry to hear this I know firsthand how hard it can be to juggle family, jealous exes, and adult career all while trying to stay profitable and sane.
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    Hey, first off, sorry youre going through this. I battled with custody for YEARS. I never told my ex I danced or anything. I used to say I work nights, period. I didnt have to come clean until he took me to court saying I was unemployed> Well when I went to court, I was ordered to submit proof of employment. My club wrote a letter and how much I made, which was way more than him. The judge said I was doing a good job working during sons visitation with dad and doing it on my own without help. He didnt even mention out loud that it was strip club so the dad never knew. Had he been nosy or even smart he wouldve figured it out. Although, camming is a whole othe field. I never took my son to the club or anything. He NEVER came in contact with any work things, my dancer bag permanently stayed in the truck and I would never even use the trunk when I had son. If youre camming from your home, it can be difficult saying that hes not exposed to it because it could be argued that he is. from my opinion, I would think you having a gf would affect your case more, only because ppl are still closed minded about this. I guess unless you can prove, you cam outside the home, and that you dont break the law you should be ok but consult with a lawyer Best wishes

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    from my opinion, I would think you having a gf would affect your case more, only because ppl are still closed minded about this.
    Definitely - regardless of sexual orientation....If you live in a state where you can get married (and see your gf as long term) then make plans for this soon. I do know that your case looks better from a legal standpoint if the person you reside with is someone who is your spouse and will stick around for stability of your family / kid.

    If it ever came down to it, You basically want look better (more responsible) than he does so you have a better chance at winning custody.
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    We do cam out of our bedroom. However it is always locked. My gf and I have been together for 2 years now so it is a long term thing. it is legal to marry same sex in the state that I'm in, however I'm not really looking to do that at the moment. Lol. He makes way less money than I do. He works part time at a chain store. He lives in a house that his mommy rents to him right now and his roommate is a drug addict. His grandmother pays all his bills. But somehow he finds that I'm not a fit mother.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lunaxoxo View Post
    We do cam out of our bedroom. However it is always locked. My gf and I have been together for 2 years now so it is a long term thing. it is legal to marry same sex in the state that I'm in, however I'm not really looking to do that at the moment. Lol. He makes way less money than I do. He works part time at a chain store. He lives in a house that his mommy rents to him right now and his roommate is a drug addict. His grandmother pays all his bills. But somehow he finds that I'm not a fit mother.
    Yeah sometimes immature people somehow find a way to point the finger without really looking at themselves in the mirror first. I hope you guys can work things out without messy courts and lawyers but if you have to then gather all the proof and evidence you can. Take notes, record phone conversations, save texts, etc.
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    I agree with being married too. Once I married my husband my ex backed off for a while. I was in the same, had my own house, everything and was doing great. He was unemployed for the past 5 years. TWO weeks after he got a job, after 5 yrs of being jobless, he took me to court and I lost custody. I dont think the system always works but I do know Im a great parent. God will take care of it. I couldve easily taken him to court for being jobless and falsely claiming our son for government benfits (ive never gotten any ) and letting his wife claim him as a tax deduction even though he pays ZERO child support and has no job. lesson learned, if you ever suspect something might hurt your case, treat is as so. You never know how slowly or quickly his circumstances may change. If he were to get a job and a place ( a child dsnt need his own room ) then any judge would think hes in better care than with "the gay mother who lives with her lover and they make sex videos on the internet"

    I wish things were this way. Good luck, start documenting all expenses, like anything related to child. Also, a locked door wont be sufficient, unless you have a nanny that watches while u two work. Family court sucks so bad

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lunaxoxo View Post
    He lives in a house that his mommy rents to him right now and his roommate is a drug addict.
    I think the fact that his roommate is a drug addict would be reason enough not to give him custody, but you should consult a lawyer to get the best advice.

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    Unless she can prove he is an addict, she has no case. Has the house ever been served a search warrant to find drugs? Has there been an arrest on the property since hes lived there related to drugs. Of course, if they fight no long enough, they will be ordered a custody evaluation. IMO a custody evaluation would permanently ensure she does not get custody possibly no visitation. Camming inside the home is not in the best interest of the child. We have to think from their point of view, not ours. People arent too happy when they hear the mom/dad are in the sex industry, lets not even get into the fact it happens in the home. He can prove shes gay Im sure, and living with her partner, unmarried. He can also prove that shes camming, from taxes Im sure. From my own experience, she needs to be very careful.

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    We have to think from their point of view, not ours. People arent too happy when they hear the mom/dad are in the sex industry, lets not even get into the fact it happens in the home. He can prove shes gay Im sure, and living with her partner, unmarried. He can also prove that shes camming, from taxes Im sure. From my own experience, she needs to be very careful.
    Indeed !

    I see from the OP's siggy that she's from a northeastern state where gay marriage has been legalized. This is a major plus from the standpoint of potential family court issues ... not so much because of the legalized marriage thing, but because the court's view is likely to be fairly 'liberal' i.e. viewing exotic dancing / adult webcam as just another form of legal job.

    However, regardless of the 'liberal' viewpoint, family courts still take child welfare very seriously. As such, unlike exotic dancing, conducting an adult webcam business from the same address where a child permanently resides creates a potential vulnerability. Even though camming activities might be confined to a single room, there will still be questions regarding what the child might be able to see or hear. And this might be particularly the case if there are two camgirls in residence !

    But, as the OP indirectly points out, when courts make decisions regarding primary physical custody, the decision will boil down to three 'least of the evils' options. They can grant custody to the mother, to the father, or to neither ( i.e. placing the child in foster care ). Thus the 'inputs' to that decision will be the things which can be proven or admitted about the mother's household and the father's household. From the viewpoint of a family court judge, while residing with the mother the child will be well provided for ... but also exposed to a Lesbian relationship, potentially exposed to adult content ( via the mother and/or her partner conducting a technically 'illegal' adult business out of her/ the child's private residence in violation of zoning laws ), and apparently having no other family members in close proximity to provide additional attention to the child.

    From the viewpoint of a family court judge, if residing with the father, there is apparently some question regarding the amount of support the father is able to provide ... but the court could also grant custody to the father and mandate that the OP pay child support to work around this shortcoming. If residing with the father, there are apparently other family members in close proximity to provide additional attention to the child. So, absent hard proof of the father's rumored involvement in drugs, absent some hard proof of the father's mistreatment of the child ( perhaps as part of divorce proceedings ? ), there could be some real question in the judge's mind as to which custody situation might be the 'least of the evils'.

    Also, and particularly so in a 'liberal' state ( which typically place less emphasis on intact family units ), the family court judge may also consider option 3 ... that the 'least of the evils' associated with the child residing with either the mother or the father is still sufficiently 'evil' that the child's welfare would in fact be improved by placing the child in foster care versus granting physical custody to either parent. This is arguably the real worry if the father opens the proverbial Pandora's Box by bringing a custody case to family court - thus allowing court investigators to examine the details of both the mother's and father's situations / potential home environments.
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    I'm not so much concerned with the being gay aspect of it. My state has legalized same sex marriage and it's pretty well accepted where I am. My ex doesn't have an issue that I'm gay. He tried to blackmail me into giving him a show with my gf when he found out about all this. I still have the texts from that. He admitted to me in a text message conversation that his roommate is a heroin addict. And is now also taking Imodium, which apparently if taken in high enough quantities, does something? Gross. Anyway. My ex used to sell drugs. I have plenty of proof of that. I had no where to go when he kicked me out, thus why I never called the police. He claims he isn't doing it anymore but word around town is that he's still going. I've never been addicted to drugs. I've never even really done anything illegal, unless this is, which I'm pretty sure is not. I don't even cam when my kid is home and awake. I cam late at night when she's asleep and during the day when she's at school. I cam on weekends if he has her for the weekend or she's with my mom.

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    With that being said, all the lawyers around me want a consult fee to answer any questions. Cheapest one is $250. I think I'm just going to have to bite the bullet and just pay though. I know every state's different. And I do know that mine rarely takes the child away from both parties, and usually favors the mother. I'm just scared.

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    ^^^ that all sounds very 'responsible' ... but from your own viewpoint. For better or worse, being able to prove that your ex used to sell drugs, or being able to prove that your ex's roommate is a drug addict, won't help you in regard to the family court judge potentially choosing option 3 !!! The fact remains that, while living with you, your child is being exposed to a Lesbian relationship ( which, although legal, may not be judged to be a positive influence of the child ). The fact remains that you and your partner are operating a technically 'illegal' adult business out of your private residence ( in violation of local adult business zoning laws ), which carries at least some risk of the child being exposed to adult situations. The fact also exists that, should you be cited for an adult business zoning violation and forced to stop camming from your residence ( as a result of the court tipping off city zoning enforcement ), at the moment you have no other means of providing for your child. Like it or not, these sort of matters being investigated by family court, as a result of your ex bringing a custody case, does carry some risk that you could lose custody thus your child could be placed in foster care !!!

    In the way of legal matters, even though the courts in 'liberal' states can no longer automatically consider the existence of a Lesbian parental situation as a negative influence on a child, in 'real world' terms ... from


    (snip)Although the social climate in this area has shifted substantially, and changes have also been seen in the legal arena relevant to custody decisions involving gay or lesbian parents, such custody decisions may still consider sexual orientation,” the authors write.

    The role of sexual orientation in a custody decision usually revolves around the “nexus” or “adverse impact” test, they explain, which means that for sexual orientation to be considered relevant, the straight parent must show a nexus, or connection, between the gay or lesbian parent’s sexual orientation and harm to the child. As it turns out, however, the empirical evidence from social science research “does not support the nexus between parental sexual orientation and children’s adjustment,” nor does is support the conclusion that gay and lesbian parents are more likely to raise gay and lesbian children (as if that would necessarily be a bad thing). Therefore, they conclude, “courts’ custody decisions that have presumed enhanced risk to children who have been raised by lesbian and gay parents have been poorly supported in meeting the adverse impact test.”

    Frighteningly, the authors also inform us that in a few jurisdictions, the nexus test doesn’t matter, and a parent’s sexual orientation may be considered relevant to a custody decision without the need to show harm from the orientation (snip)


    Bottom line appears to be that the existence of a Lesbian parental situation can be considered a negative by the family court. Also, the existence of an adult oriented business being operated by the parent out of the home where the child resides can be considered a negative by the family court. Also, the bulk of court precedents involving LGBT family law pre-date recent legalizations and 'liberalization' of social acceptance. As such, it's really impossible to predict how a particular family court judge might rule if presented with a child custody case involving both of these factors.

    However, there is some good news on the legal front as well. Even if a local family court rules against a Lesbian parent, there is an extremely good chance that such an unfavorable family court ruling can be reversed upon a legal appeal based on discrimination due to sexual orientation. But the bad news is that A. child custody may be lost in the meantime, and B. the legal fees associated with filing such an appeal may run into the tens of thousands of dollars. The latter appears to be a common 'complaint' ... that the costs involved for LGBT litigants to actually assert their legal rights sometimes results in the LGBT litigants not being able to 'afford' justice !

    In the way of a zero cost suggestion ... you might google search for LGBT legal aid societies located in your area, and try to set up a 'free' consultation. If your situation winds up being brought before a family court, having a well known LGBT attorney in your 'corner' could go a long way toward forcing the family court judge to be truly 'objective' when weighing supposed negative factors stemming from your Lesbian parental situation ... based on family court fears of adverse publicity, future legal appeals overturning the family court judge's decision based on sexual orientation based discrimination, etc. For better or worse, this is the way the US legal system seems to work in the 'real world'. In other words, before allowing your Lesbian home situation to potentially be used against you, turn it into your own 'weapon' from the onset.
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    What? so the fact that she is in living with her same sex lover is worse than not being married? If she has a good lawyer she can see that they land with a judge who is either neutral or not against homosexual orientation. Or a good lawyer could prove the case that lesbian relationship in and of itself is not detrimental to the child. Plus I would think living in an area where same sex marriage is allowed then this same freedom would also apply to the juvenile court / legal system as well?

    Also another option: You guys may want to look into getting a mediator that can help you come to a civil agreement / arrangement vs. going directly from lawyers to court. Courts make decisions for you which is not always the best thing for you and your family but mediators help you both make your own decisions, get it put in writing, then this agreement is then made legal by having everyone and a judge sign off on it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lunaxoxo View Post
    With that being said, all the lawyers around me want a consult fee to answer any questions. Cheapest one is $250. I think I'm just going to have to bite the bullet and just pay though. I know every state's different. And I do know that mine rarely takes the child away from both parties, and usually favors the mother. I'm just scared.
    If you're not well off, there are some lawyers that do pro-bono work. Do you think your ex can afford a lawyer?

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    What? so the fact that she is in living with her same sex lover is worse than not being married? If she has a good lawyer she can see that they land with a judge who is either neutral or not against homosexual orientation. Or a good lawyer could prove the case that lesbian relationship in and of itself is not detrimental to the child. Plus I would think living in an area where same sex marriage is allowed then this same freedom would also apply to the juvenile court / legal system as well?

    Also another option: You guys may want to look into getting a mediator that can help you come to a civil agreement / arrangement vs. going directly from lawyers to court. Courts make decisions for you which is not always the best thing for you and your family but mediators help you both make your own decisions, get it put in writing, then this agreement is then made legal by having everyone and a judge sign off on it.
    You know, I forgot all about the option of mediation. I've just been so upset I didn't even think about it. We did it to come up with our agreement in the first place. Maybe we just need to go back. Who knows. I am going to find a lawyer, either thru some sort of LGBT help or just paying for it. In my state, you can go to mediation, but a lawyer is still recommended.

    On another note, I still don't think the fact that I'm gay will weigh much in court. I know of a girl who is gay with three kids. All by separate dads. Note that I know her. We are not friends. I think she's a little ridiculous, personally. She has no job. She has obtained full custody of all 3. There's nothing wrong with the fathers. They get visitation. They pay a boat load of child support. And it was a well known fact in court that she was gay, because this was all before it was legalized in my state. She's never in a long term relationship. She's with partners for a few months, then switches up, then goes back. If she can get custody being gay, I don't think that's going to be an issue for me. I also know 3 other gay mothers who have custody of their children in my area. Like I said, I've been with my gf for two years. Even when my ex and I were still good, she was friends with us both. She's been in my kid's life from the beginning and my child looks to her as another family member. My ex doesn't have an issue with me being gay. No one does. That's not even really a question.

    The thing I'm concerned about is her and I doing camming and selling clips. She does have a vanilla job still. I lost mine. Which honestly, if I had to and cut out a lot of things (Internet, phones, my car), we could just skim by living off of, but then, how would we go visit family out of town, how would anyone contact us, how would my child get online to do homework?




    And as far as the zoning issue goes. I did look into that a little last night. It isn't illegal to have a home based business where I live. If you have over a certain number of clients visiting your business each month, you need to be zoned for business, not residential. Obviously I'm not in THAT line of work, so I should be okay on that front at least.

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    If you're not well off, there are some lawyers that do pro-bono work. Do you think your ex can afford a lawyer?
    Ha! He has one, but his mom pays for it. When I say part time retail job, I mean he's making less than a grand a month, in a place where average rent for a one bedroom apartment or studio is 1200-1400. He can't really pay for anything.

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    Is he paying child support? If not, is he supposed to? Does he have visitation rights? If so, is he using them?

    I doubt you have anything to worry about. If he can't pay for his own place, works a shit job and has a roommate with issues, along with the other shit that he has done that you can document, IMHO there is a snowball's chance in Hell that he's going to be awarded any form of custody. It sounds like he can't even float the cost of an attorney. If I were you, I would cam my ass off and build up a bank roll so that, if he does find out and starts making noise, you are the one in the drivers seat.

    IMHO your fears are due to insecurities, including your own inner belief that you may be doing something wrong. IMHO you need to stop that. What you are doing is perfectly legal and you are doing it to provide for your child. Be confident and strong in those beliefs. What he is doing is a form of control - don't let him get away with it. A weak piece of shit like that, who has left you to do it all, doesn't get to dictate how you earn for your child. If he whines at you again, turn the tables on him. Let him know that not only will he lose a custody battle, but that you'll take the opportunity to bend him over the table for child support. Hopefully that will shut his whiny ass up.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lunaxoxo View Post
    You know, I forgot all about the option of mediation. I've just been so upset I didn't even think about it. We did it to come up with our agreement in the first place. Maybe we just need to go back. Who knows. I am going to find a lawyer, either thru some sort of LGBT help or just paying for it. In my state, you can go to mediation, but a lawyer is still recommended.

    On another note, I still don't think the fact that I'm gay will weigh much in court. I know of a girl who is gay with three kids. All by separate dads. Note that I know her. We are not friends. I think she's a little ridiculous, personally. She has no job. She has obtained full custody of all 3. There's nothing wrong with the fathers. They get visitation. They pay a boat load of child support. And it was a well known fact in court that she was gay, because this was all before it was legalized in my state. She's never in a long term relationship. She's with partners for a few months, then switches up, then goes back. If she can get custody being gay, I don't think that's going to be an issue for me. I also know 3 other gay mothers who have custody of their children in my area. Like I said, I've been with my gf for two years. Even when my ex and I were still good, she was friends with us both. She's been in my kid's life from the beginning and my child looks to her as another family member. My ex doesn't have an issue with me being gay. No one does. That's not even really a question.

    The thing I'm concerned about is her and I doing camming and selling clips. She does have a vanilla job still. I lost mine. Which honestly, if I had to and cut out a lot of things (Internet, phones, my car), we could just skim by living off of, but then, how would we go visit family out of town, how would anyone contact us, how would my child get online to do homework?




    And as far as the zoning issue goes. I did look into that a little last night. It isn't illegal to have a home based business where I live. If you have over a certain number of clients visiting your business each month, you need to be zoned for business, not residential. Obviously I'm not in THAT line of work, so I should be okay on that front at least.
    Yes I believe the mediators at least some of them are lawyers but it wouldn't hurt to have a separate lawyer AND a mediator.
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    In this country the court almost always sides with the Mother over custody issues. I'm friends with tons of single dancer moms whose exes have tried to gain custody, but at the end of the day they aren't doing anything illegal and as long as abuse or drugs isn't going on, you're probably fine....especially if you're in one of the more liberal states.

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    In this country the court almost always sides with the Mother over custody issues. I'm friends with tons of single dancer moms whose exes have tried to gain custody, but at the end of the day they aren't doing anything illegal and as long as abuse or drugs isn't going on, you're probably fine....especially if you're in one of the more liberal states.
    Well we are actually in the age of fathers rights where more fathers are fighting for custody and actually getting it. More states are starting to redefine custody not based on gender roles but what the parties can provide for the child. Just being the nurturing mom doesn't cut it anymore.

    But i agree as long as she stays on the right side of the law and brings more the the table than he does then he won't really have a case.
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    Well we are actually in the age of fathers rights where more fathers are fighting for custody and actually getting it. More states are starting to redefine custody not based on gender roles but what the parties can provide for the child. Just being the nurturing mom doesn't cut it anymore.

    But i agree as long as she stays on the right side of the law and brings more the the table than he does then he won't really have a case.
    That's what I'm hoping for.

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    so the fact that she is in living with her same sex lover is worse than not being married? If she has a good lawyer she can see that they land with a judge who is either neutral or not against homosexual orientation. Or a good lawyer could prove the case that lesbian relationship in and of itself is not detrimental to the child. Plus I would think living in an area where same sex marriage is allowed then this same freedom would also apply to the juvenile court / legal system as well?
    The legal links I tracked down indicated that this is what is SUPPOSED to happen in 'liberal' states. However, it was also noted that judges can and do apply personal judgments regarding the welfare of a child ... often masking the true reason for their decisions by referring to some other 'negative'.

    I still don't think the fact that I'm gay will weigh much in court
    In that sense, the child having a lesbian single mom plus her live-in 'girlfriend' in residence, as opposed to a single heterosexual or lesbian mom only, may be construed as a negative influence in the eyes of many judges. If sexual orientation isn't a factor in the child's home, the court shouldn't care one way or another. But if a lesbian 'relationship' is a daily factor in the child's home life, the court may take a legitimate interest. The same would be true for, say, a heterosexual single mom 'stripper' with a live-in boyfriend sharing the child's residence. And that may be even more the case if adult webcam performances by the lesbian mom and her 'girlfriend' taking place in the same child's home are thrown into the mix. Just sayin !

    And again, the link sources report that such 'discriminatory' decisions are relatively easy to have overturned on appeal. But, as also mentioned earlier, the additional costs involved to mount such a legal appeal can be major. It is for both of these eventualities that I suggested the OP try to hook up with LGBT focused legal aid from the 'git-go' ... to introduce the additional pressure upon the family court judge that his decision will be scrutinized from the standpoint of equal rights for LGBT litigants.


    And as far as the zoning issue goes. I did look into that a little last night. It isn't illegal to have a home based business where I live. If you have over a certain number of clients visiting your business each month, you need to be zoned for business, not residential. Obviously I'm not in THAT line of work, so I should be okay on that front at least
    Keep in mind that camming is an ADULT business. And ADULT businesses are typically governed by much stricter zoning regulations than regular businesses. Adult zoning regulations usually prohibit adult businesses from operating in residential areas, or within X hundred feet of a church, X hundred feet of a school, X hundred feet of a library, etc. - or adult zoning laws may prevent adult businesses from operating in any area of the city except particular areas which have been specifically approved for adult businesses ( like industrial parks, edge of town, inner city 'red light district' etc. ). These adult zoning laws vary a lot from one city to another, but virtually all cities of any size have enacted such adult zoning laws.

    Granted that operating an adult webcam out of a private residence almost never results in that business being 'discovered' by the powers that be. However, courts have a 'duty' to report violations of the law which have come to light during court proceedings. If your ex does bring a custody case, it is virtually guaranteed that screencaps of your adult camming activities ( and particularly your joint camming activities with your 'girlfriend' ) are going to be introduced in court. Thus questions will be asked regarding when and where your adult camming activities take place, as well as questions about the child's potential unintentional exposure to those adult activities. Again, just sayin !!!


    I doubt you have anything to worry about. If he can't pay for his own place, works a shit job and has a roommate with issues, along with the other shit that he has done that you can document, IMHO there is a snowball's chance in Hell that he's going to be awarded any form of custody.
    Agreed that the ex doesn't have a snowball's chance in hell of being granted custody under his present circumstances. However, the arguably more important question is a possible family court ruling that neither home environment is suitable for a child ... thus the possibility of the family court judge revoking custody from both parents and placing the child in foster care. From that standpoint, a return to mediation is far preferable to a new family court case being brought.
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