I think I need to break up with my boyfriend. How do you know when to move on from a relationship or if you should stay and keep trying?
We've been together for two years, and while I really do love him and think he's great, I've always felt that something wasn't right. He's constantly upset at me for being deficient somehow... First he hated my job, then he hated my apartment, then he hated me for having body image issues, then he hated my car. He gets mad at how I choose to spend my own money, he gets mad when I don't do the dishes, he gets mad when I'm different from his ex-wife, he gets mad when I'm too tired for sex when he gets off work late at night.
He's been seeing an anger management counselor and he doesn't lose his temper anymore, but he still gets upset and shuts me out. It's very stressful to deal with.
I feel like I should be happy in the relationship because he's polite, hardworking, committed to me, he has a lovely family, and my parents adore him. He can be extremely sweet, kind, loving, fun, etc. He's been discussing getting engaged lately so I'm not sure if I'm getting cold feet or something. But I've been sitting at my laptop all morning doing homework while he sleeps, and I realized I'm dreading him waking up because I'll have to hang out with him. That's a pretty poor way to feel about your partner.
I just realized this quickly devolved from a question into venting, but ugh! What is happening here? Is this how relationships are?



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: ... you are NOT his ex-wife ... I would think that's one of the reasons he was w/ you in the first place. When I read that part, honestly the first thing that came to mind was 'Damn, the core of the problem sounds like what he really wants is a clone of his ex w/o all of his ex's flaws!' That's not fair to you, OP!



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