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    Ok so does anyone else feel like when your trying to build yourself up and you start reading into everything you get overwhelmed? LOL I feel that right now, I am trying to promote myself but then I get all frustrated cause I honestly have no fucking clue what I am doing so then I just slack off and not even sign in. Literally only worked Friday and Sat of last week because I just didn't feel like dealing with everything. Makes me wonder if I am just really this lazy or I am having some serious attention problems...which wouldn't surprise me considering my child can't sit still for 2 mins and and pay attention to shit.

    Thats another thing....trying to get online while family is home is killing me. Can't happen, not happening, dunno how to really get around all of it.

    Feel flustered I am sorry if there is another thread already like this one but yet again I do a search for stuff and so much comes up I again get overwhelmed and just click off

    But I also don't use a cam site either I seriously can't sit there in front of a cam for hours a day and listen to the bullshit that is spewed out of these idiots mouths...I am surprised I haven't been banned from the two site I was on because of the backlash I would dole out to them lol.

    My fav line...so what are you into....really? Do you not read my profiles or are you just that stupid.

    Again sorry for the rant and the everything but I am just so...BLEH!

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    I don't think it's entirely ADD. I think you just have a strong reaction to bullshit like a lot of us do.

    I really don't deal with the fucktards because they don't deserve my energy. When I'm on cam, I have a money goal and ban goal.
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    LMAO Ban goal....I've been thinking about getting back on SM and seeing how it goes. I usually only get on while my child is at school...but most of my income comes from NF. It would be a good thing to just have them both up and running, esp since I don't do much but read while I wait for a call....just ugh the fact of sitting in front of a cam for hours on end is what my main issue is I guess. It's not as fun as it was when I first started :/

    I danced before I was on cam....I am used to the constant business and when I only have a few people in my room it would discourage me and I think that's part of my not wanting to be on cam like that full time. How the hell do I get over that hump?

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    I feel you - NF is my main site - I have a low tolerance for free chat anymore - I even had a really really good NF regular who found me on SM and spent 2 or 3 hours chatting me up - it annoyed the crap out of me and completly threw me out of my game - and I normally like him - I just wanted to hustle and do my thing and not be social - I struggle to do both in that manner - whenever I log onto both I end uo with more calls on NF anyway - I am a big slacker in promotion - @loveshooks just gave me some advice to promote more for her site - In answer to your question I have to have a daily list of what I need to do or I get lost - between the multiple sites/ my vanilla job / kids etc... if I dont have a list I am a lost puppy -I just started some meds for ADD a couple of months ago and it has really helped a lot - since I dont have insurance and Stratera is so expensive he gave me Wellbutrin - my money has picked up and I am more focused -

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    Awesome Nikki! We just had our son evaluated for ADD/ADHD...esp since husband has ADD....when I was younger I had attention issues and didn't apply myself in school and now I understand why...I am considering talking to my dr to find out what I need to do to be tested for it now due to the fact that I really just can't focus on anything :/ It sucks!

    I've been considering renewing my account with SM and at this point I honestly just don't know. I want to do it because I am home all the time and can get on while child is at school but then I think about it and I just freak out and am like ugh no I don't wanna deal with those people...but I could see using it as a promoting tool and I think thats why I am considering it. I am on LCMS but I have a mac and yahoo isn't compatible with the new system so I never show online on her site anymore which is super annoying.....why can' yahoo get their shit straight! Cause before I updated and was showing online I was getting some shows!!! Now it's just whatever lol. I need to think this crap through, I guess I just wanted to vent it out and see if others had this same thing. I've been trying to do the Twitter thing but even then sometimes I don't understand what I am doing. I wish I could get a site to put everything on one and be like take your pick boys pay how you want just pay before your play. The ones who constantly contact me and are like what are you doing what are you wearing how are your shows...well I am sitting on my ass right now stuffing my face full of junk food wearing a ratty tshirt and panties and my shows are the shit...wtf you want me to say? My patience is non existence....and it sucks!

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    There is a glitch in the system on LCMS - she said there is an update soon that should resolve that - I was having the same problem and she made me permant available - Im sure she will for you too -
    I just set a few hours that I log in to SM to keep my sanity - but I seldom if ever log into there unless Im logged in somewhere else too

    edited to add : lol at stuffing your face and the ratty T-shirt -
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    As someone who also has ADHD, I can sympathize. I used to struggle both with getting on cam and with staying on. I finally forced myself to up my endurance by doing several last-minute marathon shifts of 6+ hours at a time, so I can handle 2-3 hours pretty easily now. As for the getting online thing, well, still having issues with that. On the plus side, when I remember to take my adderal properly, I have almost no trouble staying motivated to cam. This shit is a miracle worker!

    As for the annoying 'customers,' well, I'm with Marina. Your probably just don't deal well with bullshit. I don't deal with it well either, so on nights when it's abundant I tend to work much shorter shifts. This one has also been a matter of working on my endurance with camathons.


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    I poted this in the male cammers thread in industry insight - I write my bills for the month on index cards - split up on 4 or 5 and numbered in order of importance - I put one out to motivate me to stay focused on what I need - crossing off when I make enough to pay one so I have a visual on accomplishing something - helps me a lot to stay on and deal

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    I have ADD and I used to cope with it by popping an Adderall to finish a shift. I can also be very lazy and as of late, no more Adderall but I do have bills. Weed can help but honestly, tell your lazy self to shut up and handle your business. I found out that by just getting it done, listening to music, surfing, and chatting with some custies (while avoiding the bs) I was able to focus and just get through it. Try it out bb




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    Quote Originally Posted by Nikki_Fox View Post
    I poted this in the male cammers thread in industry insight - I write my bills for the month on index cards - split up on 4 or 5 and numbered in order of importance - I put one out to motivate me to stay focused on what I need - crossing off when I make enough to pay one so I have a visual on accomplishing something - helps me a lot to stay on and deal
    Spread sheets are the shit and I don't care how nerdy I come across saying that. I have one that tracks my average hourly rate, pending money (what site, when, how much, etc.), and lists every single bill down to the cent and it's pay date, plus my 'other' category for miscellaneous stuff. I got really bored one night (okay, fine, I was too drunk to cam properly) and set it up so my spread sheet would automatically update how much money I needed for each bill whenever I added to my 'pending money' section after a private. It's nice to watch those all hit $0 remaining by the end of the month.

    And, least we forget how our favorite teachers have motivated us in the past--a short to-do list posted on the wall where you'll see it is always great, especially when you have shiny stickers to paste over every item you check off. It sounds ridiculous, but I am a grown ass woman and I'm more motivated by getting as many stickers as possible than I am by just about anything else.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridget Gives View Post
    Ok so does anyone else feel like when your trying to build yourself up and you start reading into everything you get overwhelmed? LOL I feel that right now, I am trying to promote myself but then I get all frustrated cause I honestly have no fucking clue what I am doing so then I just slack off and not even sign in. Literally only worked Friday and Sat of last week because I just didn't feel like dealing with everything. Makes me wonder if I am just really this lazy or I am having some serious attention problems...which wouldn't surprise me considering my child can't sit still for 2 mins and and pay attention to shit.

    Thats another thing....trying to get online while family is home is killing me. Can't happen, not happening, dunno how to really get around all of it.

    Feel flustered I am sorry if there is another thread already like this one but yet again I do a search for stuff and so much comes up I again get overwhelmed and just click off

    But I also don't use a cam site either I seriously can't sit there in front of a cam for hours a day and listen to the bullshit that is spewed out of these idiots mouths...I am surprised I haven't been banned from the two site I was on because of the backlash I would dole out to them lol.

    My fav line...so what are you into....really? Do you not read my profiles or are you just that stupid.

    Again sorry for the rant and the everything but I am just so...BLEH!


    How are you with your time management? An underlying disorder could be possible, but first, it is good to take a look at your time management and work habits. Sometimes the smallest changes can make a big difference.

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    This is me.

    I have ADD and take adderall for it. I noticed my problem was that I would take my adderall AND drink coffee and end up hyperfocusing on ONE thing for hours. And that one thing wouldn't be camming.

    Today I'm taking my adderall right before I cam, that way I'm already camming when it starts to kick in.


    I feel like anxiety and attention is my major problem when it comes to doing anything. Which, I really need something for anxiety because it's really kicking my ass and preventing me from doing even things I truly enjoy doing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Halo88 View Post
    How are you with your time management? An underlying disorder could be possible, but first, it is good to take a look at your time management and work habits. Sometimes the smallest changes can make a big difference.
    Oh I am horrible with my time management. I guess because I am at the moment trying to switch my time from day to night and it's impossible when I stay up until like 12-2am and have to get up at 7 to get kiddo off to school, sometimes I am able to go back to bed then others I am not cause I feel like I have 20394823094823094823 different things to do and then the anxiety kicks in. I can't take my xanax cause it' knocks me out and then I wouldn't get up to get kiddo off to school. Since I am staying up later I switched from trying to get him on the bus to just taking him to giving us both that extra 30 mins of sleep...it seems to be working for him cause I don't get as much of a fight from him so thats another reason I can't take the xanax either lol. Sucks...so ready for fucking school to be out then I won't have any issues and can sleep till whenever and not have to worry about getting child to school! Ah see...I swear I babble like crazy When I can't go back to sleep I notice I am so exhausted I can't focus on anything and just zone out. I'll get it situated sometime lol

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    I too am terrible with time management and I struggle with direction. What I have found most useful over the years is simply logging on and actually being *on cam*. The more you do this, the more exposure you will have and the more fans you will build up. these guys will naturally follow you on twitter, your other sites, make up the bulk of your income, contribute to your projects and funds, buy from your wishlists etc. You can spend all day on twitter and make an absolutely beautiful website, but if you're not actually ON CAM then you're not going to make very much money.. and that at the end of the day is your priority!

    Also you need to stop viewing those guys as fucktards and instead look at them as potential. Listen for the buying signals - A guy may give you 100 compliments and seem like he's wasting time, but in there you might catch him asking "Do you have any bright red stilleto heels?". That's a buying signal and is your perfect opportunity to turn him from an annoying room lurker into a paying customer and possible long term regular. Instead of hearing annoying babble, listen for your openings to SELL. There is a wonderful quote that goes something along the lines of "you cannot change the world, only how you view it"

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nikki_Fox View Post
    I poted this in the male cammers thread in industry insight - I write my bills for the month on index cards - split up on 4 or 5 and numbered in order of importance - I put one out to motivate me to stay focused on what I need - crossing off when I make enough to pay one so I have a visual on accomplishing something - helps me a lot to stay on and deal
    Thank you. i lOVE this!

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    Lots to think about! I think when school lets out I will have them enable my SM account and go from there....right now it's just impossible for me to do it with the break up in my schedule with getting kiddo to and from school...etc. I married but live like a single parent...does that make sense?

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    I have add and take ritalin 4 Times a Day. It's going wel when I stick to a tight scheduale with everything planned from the moment I wake up. In 3 hours I walked my dog, cleaned the house, did laundry, showered, makeup and hair and by 9 AM (yes I wake up at 6 AM ) im ready for camming with a clear head Because I did everything I needed to do. This really works for me. But cant do it with medication thought. Do everything you need to do right when you wake up, and go to work with a clear head with nothing left to do accept camming.. Good Luck girl

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    Yea I am going to make an appointment with my doctor and talk to him...I have tried to get online and just haven't done it. I did the other night and only had one call...I do better during the day I feel but it's impossible for me to do anything once school lets out and child is home during the day with me. A six year old doesn't exactly give you the "quiet" time you need when you need it even if I shut myself in a separate room with the door locked and tell him go watch tv mommy will be right back...two mins will go by he's banging on the door....lol makes me laugh but then I cringe cause I'm like ugh these people are going to think I am a horrible mother for taking a call while he's home! Hence why I am trying to get on at night time....not exactly going very well at the moment!

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    I feel ya - all the kids want to come and hang out at my house - I am way to loud to try to work with anyone home - I made the beginning of the week my days - they all have to go to their parents house or the other grandmother so I have at least 3 days to myself to work - maybe he can go to grandma's for a couple of days each week?

    this week has been a bit sucky for me too - I had a pre-book with one of my regulars yesterday and I had to cancel on him due to an emergency with my vanilla job - it was a 6k commission so I had no choice ( I wont se it until Dec but woot woot ) - he is a long time reg so hopefully he is okay I sent him some free minutes - but overall it was slow for me too -

    hope you can get your appointment - I can tell a HUGE difference in my motivation if I miss my med's

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    Awe man! Awesome Nikki at least you have something to look forward to! Who knows what I'll do once school is out...hes usually pretty good but his attitude have been horrible these past few weeks and I am not sure if it's just end of schoolitis or what. I figure I'll work that out when it comes lol. I've been so lazy though, I did send an email for SM to reactivate my account so once that's done I'll see how I feel doing that at night time and hope I can get just normal indy calls between the idiots lol. Course it might look funny if I am on and constantly logging on and off LOL.

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    I do it and amazingly they reappear

    dont worry about what they think - do what you need to do for yourself - it just takes a minute to get used to logging in and out - I log into NF - TTM - LCMS/Yahoo messenger - Dreamlover on my old XP computer and have Skype / SM on my laptop -

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    I can't use yahoo messenger :/ when Mac updated their system it became incompatible lol. The sites I use are NF CMD and LCMS and Dreamlover I signed up for TTM just always forget about it and not quite sure how some of the pricing works on it....a little confused cause theres so much info on their site lol.

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