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    Default Re: Do you tell people!e you work as a "web cam model?"?? I do. I only did so 1 year

    Most of my close friends know what I do for a living, particularly the hand full of women I keep in contact with. Most of these women have either done some sort of adult related work (sex-presso coffee stands, nude modeling, PSO, camming, porn, etc.) or are very pro-feminism. I like being able to vent with the ladies I know won't turn on me for it.

    As for the men, well, I've yet to tell any dudes I'm really close to and not have it blow up in my face. They really do think I'm a quick lay when they find out, even if they've known me for years. Dudes already treat me like a piece of tail to catch without knowing I cam. It does not get better by adding sex work to the mix. The one exception to this rule is long-term SOs of close female friends--those dudes tend to find it cool, but aren't weird about it. It's sort of a litmus test on whether or not these dudes get my blessing to date my friends actually, because a dude who starts chasing his lady's friend just because she's pretty/single/in the adult field/what the fuck ever is not a dude to keep around. But I digress....

    I keep it from my family only because it would be an awkward couple of days/weeks while they adjusted to the idea of their 'princess' doing amateur porn. I figure they might find out some day (or at least will suspect), but they tend to leave shit alone so long as I'm happy and successful with a plan for my life.

    My last job was what taught me not to be too open about shit. The owner knew and so did 2-3 other girls at work. Of those 4 women who knew, total, two I really trusted (owner and a waitress who used to do sex work), one found out because she was listening into the conversation and the last found out because the third girl couldn't keep her mouth shut. Within a few days, I realized every male on the staff knew and they were absolutely eye-balling me like a piece of meat. The manager had the fucking audacity to come up to me at a bar like a week later and try to blackmail me for sex in return for keeping my job. Another male coworker assumed I'd be a quick lay and tried to get me to leave my boyfriend, fuck him, etc., etc., out of no where and then read me the riot act for not going along with it. Total shit show. I went from being one of the most respected waitresses on the staff among the male workers to being the 'slut' they wanted to fuck. Never. Fucking. Again.

    So---TL,DR version of that: very close female friends and their SOs know that I cam. Family does not. Will never again share this information freely with strangers/coworkers/casual acquaintances.


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    Default Re: Do you tell people!e you work as a "web cam model?"?? I do. I only did so 1 year

    My closest girlfriends know. I can't keep anything from them! They have all been amazing and respectful about it. My sister knows too and she is weary of the effect it will have on my mental health long term but is supportive nonetheless.

    A few of my close male friends also know and surprisingly none of them have been thirsty about it. One asked if he could get my username and said he'd be able to find me but he showed me his search skills and they were WEAK. Even if he did find me, I honestly wouldn't mind since he's pretty laid back. Another guy friend I asked if he would be my "stunt cock" and he actually backed out (too risky for him) So yeah, I've actually been shocked at how non-chalant my dude friends have been!!

    Other than that, I do not tell anyone else and no one needs to know. I have a background in Finance so I just tell people I work from home (which I still moonlight in) and I also volunteer so if people get really nosy I tell them what I do there and they assume it is a paid position.

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    Default Re: Do you tell people!e you work as a "web cam model?"?? I do. I only did so 1 year

    I am new to it. Started camming full time few months ago. My roommates know, my closer friends know and I also have a "sugar daddy" who was like my investor to this (when I didn't have a place to work he would get hotel rooms just so I could work).
    I am a very social person and know a loooot of people. And I decide that who ever I decide to tell, if they judge me, they don't deserve to be part of my life. Good Riddance lol
    People that don't need to know (like guys I start dating, landlord, etc) I tell I am a journalist (which is not a lie) and that I do ghost writing for a Brazilian website (my country, I live in US though).
    So that explains why I work from home, why I make my own schedule and they can't make too many questions because, well, I'm a ghost writer lol
    My mom knows, but she is open minded.

    I am actually just having problems with this guy I am having some sort of thing. I don't see him too often hence he lives in a ship (marine) but I really like him. Like really!! In love with him!! and he likes me too... And we are planning on take the relationship to another level. BUT.. He doesn't know the truth. And I don't know if I should tell him now or not. The problem is that he has been talking about marriage and living together (even though he lives out of the ship only one week every two months.
    Well... I can't wait until marriage to tell him hahaha

    So any advices on that??
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    Default Re: Do you tell people!e you work as a "web cam model?"?? I do. I only did so 1 year

    No and I don't plan to, ever! I don't believe in giving people information they could one day hurt you with. Only my fiance and best friend (who works for me) know what I do.
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    Default Re: Do you tell people!e you work as a "web cam model?"?? I do. I only did so 1 year

    I tell the men I date and a few of my friends know, that's about it.




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    Default Re: Do you tell people!e you work as a "web cam model?"?? I do. I only did so 1 year

    My boyfriend knows everything. My close friends know about my work, and it comes up casually sometimes but I do not mention sites or my modelling name etc. I use to do modelling, fetish work, and shoot porn (mainly various fetish) for a few years, so I'm not just known for doing cam work. Any of my friends that are in the same line of work as me know details, but that's about it aside from my boyfriend. We are all great at keeping a tight lip because of being in the same type of work and having a mutual understanding, but it took a long time to gain such friends and their trust. I don't tell my family what I do because I come from a strict European family that would disown and shun me if they found out. No sense in trying to change what cannot be changed, so I keep with the whole ignorance is bliss thing and let them think what they want.

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    Default Re: Do you tell people!e you work as a "web cam model?"?? I do. I only did so 1 year

    i feel really icky about saying the M word, it feels so pretentious and like im trying to justify what im doing, when really im perfectly happy with it. i drain balls, i show ass for cash, or my new favourite (stolen from someone on here) im like a rotisserie chicken impaled on a dildo all day!





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    Default Re: Do you tell people!e you work as a "web cam model?"?? I do. I only did so 1 year

    Rarely. Not really any of their business and dudes love to pull out the "That's so cool, I'll come watch you work!" shit. Like ha. Hahahah. No.

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    Default Re: Do you tell people!e you work as a "web cam model?"?? I do. I only did so 1 year

    There's a guy who hangs out in the same friend group as I do--very nice, polite, etc. We were started talking one night and cam modeling came up. He was positive and respectful when discussing it so I said 'fuck it' and went 'yeah, I do it from time to time myself.'

    Bye, bye, nice guy; hello, 'are you fucking kidding me, you complete idiot?!' I shit you not, the next words out of his mouth were, more or less, 'I used to have a roommate--well, more of a friend, sort of--who modeled and she'd use my house a lot to work. Well, sometimes. Anyway, she'd be doing shows and call me into the room to, ya know, help her out....' It was said in the sort of tone that screamed 'I'm spewing utter nonsense out of my mouth as context for the incredibly stupid thing I'm about to say next.' My instincts were not disappointed: '...so, uh, if you ever need a stunt cock, let me know. Dudes love that BBC, amiright?!'

    *head desk*

    You are friends with my boyfriend dipshit. Please at least pretend to think with something other than your dick...
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    Default Re: Do you tell people!e you work as a "web cam model?"?? I do. I only did so 1 year

    ^^^ I needed this laugh!

    I used to have a roommate--well, more of a friend, Actually she was just a fantasy.

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    Default Re: Do you tell people!e you work as a "web cam model?"?? I do. I only did so 1 year

    I used to have a roommate--well, more of a friend, Actually she was just a fantasy.
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    Default Re: Do you tell people!e you work as a "web cam model?"?? I do. I only did so 1 year

    And let me tell you that's all you get from guys in general when you tell them.. trust me.. I have been on cam since 2003.. Mr Nice Guy turns into .. you want me to help you? I can be your stunt dick, I can take your photos .. I can build your website.. I can stalk you on cam!..LOL... that's why DON'T TELL... Unless you like dealing with that from every guy out there... TRUE STORY!

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    There's a guy who hangs out in the same friend group as I do--very nice, polite, etc. We were started talking one night and cam modeling came up. He was positive and respectful when discussing it so I said 'fuck it' and went 'yeah, I do it from time to time myself.'

    Bye, bye, nice guy; hello, 'are you fucking kidding me, you complete idiot?!' I shit you not, the next words out of his mouth were, more or less, 'I used to have a roommate--well, more of a friend, sort of--who modeled and she'd use my house a lot to work. Well, sometimes. Anyway, she'd be doing shows and call me into the room to, ya know, help her out....' It was said in the sort of tone that screamed 'I'm spewing utter nonsense out of my mouth as context for the incredibly stupid thing I'm about to say next.' My instincts were not disappointed: '...so, uh, if you ever need a stunt cock, let me know. Dudes love that BBC, amiright?!'

    *head desk*

    You are friends with my boyfriend dipshit. Please at least pretend to think with something other than your dick...

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    Default Re: Do you tell people!e you work as a "web cam model?"?? I do. I only did so 1 year

    ^^ And that is precisely why I don't tell people anymore, lol. It's more fun to just rub my money in their asshole faces anyway.


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    Default Re: Do you tell people!e you work as a "web cam model?"?? I do. I only did so 1 year

    I was outed without consent to most of my friends however, my parents have no clue. My sister and husband know out of necessity because I see them often. That's how it's going to stay, forever. Why tell people about your private life? It's none of their business...and private for a reason.

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    Default Re: Do you tell people!e you work as a "web cam model?"?? I do. I only did so 1 year

    It depends on the person.
    I have told my life Long friends and long-time followers on my personal social media, who I thought may be interested.
    The vast majority have been supportive, curious and excited and 2 de-friended me.

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    "Niceness" does not mean goodness! When a man is nice, I look at the WHOLE context of why he's being "nice". You'll see a person's true demeanor and intention when they don't get what they what.
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    And let me tell you that's all you get from guys in general when you tell them.. trust me.. I have been on cam since 2003.. Mr Nice Guy turns into .. you want me to help you? I can be your stunt dick, I can take your photos .. I can build your website.. I can stalk you on cam!..LOL... that's why DON'T TELL... Unless you like dealing with that from every guy out there... TRUE STORY!
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    Default Re: Do you tell people!e you work as a "web cam model?"?? I do. I only did so 1 year

    I don't tell too many people. My SO knows of course, his mother knows, a friend who was a stripper and I helped get into camming, a few couple acquaintances who I was at a party with the girl I mentioned before and my (ex?) bestfriend. The (ex?) bestfriend I told was cool with it once I told her how much I make before I told her she was all respect yourself, after I told her she was like go for it girl. After that she slowly stopped speaking to me, now we rarely speak. Related to me telling her I cam or simply growing apart....idk which factor contributed to us not being close anymore but I suspect it was camming.

    I wish I could tell my friends but most of them are teachers and I suspect if they knew they wouldn't want to associate with me. I was going to tell one of my closest guy friends since this last year was his last year teaching and I thought maybe now that he doesn't have to be so on top of his reputation it wouldn't affect our friendship. Still on the fence about it. He probably knows anyway...his friend was roommates with a guy who found me on a cam site.

    A lot of my other friends probably know too because the girl I got into camming is in a relationship with a guy who's sister is in my group of friends and she knows everything about what his girlfriend does so it wouldn't be a leap to assume she knows about me and has spread the word.
    For now I just keep it a dont ask, dont tell type of thing.... From my experience with people finding out they tend not to tell you they know because they dont want to admit being a porn site or whatever. If they do know and dont say anything its kind of like its not real, when it starts to be talked about openly thats when I have lost friends/people have treated me different.
    Really a lot of people probably suspect I'm doing something because my cover story doesnt 100% explain my income. Plus a few times when people have been talking sex workers rights at parties or said something stupid I have drunkenly jumped into the conversation and as my boyfriend says I need to stop because I sound way to educated on the matter not to have a personal stake in it.
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    I tell everyone! I've never been the type to hide things that I don't feel are worth keeping secret. My friends know and my family has known from the beginning. Luckily, I was raised fairly liberal so they don't care. They're pretty impressed with my income!

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    Default Re: Do you tell people!e you work as a "web cam model?"?? I do. I only did so 1 year

    I searched for a topic like this (because i always read the forum & know it has been talked about a lot). Finally found one ! Untill now I had a good excuse for my parents, i was in another town to go to university (didnt have time for anything else). But now I graduated & i really have to tell them something. No, I don't want to tell them what i actually do because evan if they understood I don't wanna make them pass trough the process (not understanding, getting angry, than felling bad, than hopefully to be by my side because i am their daughter haha). I live in Europe so here I pay taxes like beeing a freelancer (so in my documents it says i do other telecommunication - i know, i consulted an accountant first). Anyway, those are the boring details, what can i tell them that i do? Something that gives the chnace to work from home and do my own schedule and not be camming ? What do you tell (not necesarly to them but to people in general). I ran out of excuses, one of my good friends suggested thaat my boyfriend does shady businesses since we have so much money lol (she didnt think i am the one doing naughty business ! haha).

    Gosh now that i look back i have so many spelling mistakes. I hope you understand the main problem haha.
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    Default Re: Do you tell people!e you work as a "web cam model?"?? I do. I only did so 1 year

    When it comes to random people and casual acquaintances I sure fucking don't tell them what I do but only because people tend to be really fascinated by the business and will ask question after question after question after question...... I don't necessarily mind their curiosity and they're usually not rude, but camming is literally the only thing that they will want to talk to me about from then on. I like my job and all but I've been doing it for years, it's a pretty mundane topic for me and I don't enjoy constantly being interviewed about it.

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    Default Re: Do you tell people!e you work as a "web cam model?"?? I do. I only did so 1 year

    I talked to my husband about it(obviously) but no one else. I live in a small town and not only would my life be hell if it got out but so would my daughter's. She lives in her own now so I didn't even tell her.

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    I think that only really important people should know about what you do. My mom would probably be ok with it but dad would surely not understand. Its just a choice I made.

    But with telling other people: be carefull girls, there are so many people that cant wait to hurt you. Evan the ones you don't expect from. Not necesarlly because you are a cam girl but in general. No matter what you do there are people who can't wait to hurt you or talk shit about you. I like what I do, that's why i do it since such long time. And is nobodys busniess what i do, how i do or when i do. Only my family is entitled to know where i get my money from. My friends should not give a fuck: afterall they are my friends because they like who i am (not because of what i do).

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    Default Re: Do you tell people!e you work as a "web cam model?"?? I do. I only did so 1 year

    It really depends on the situation. I told a group of guys about a month ago and they started flirting with me. ummm Awkward!
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    Default Re: Do you tell people!e you work as a "web cam model?"?? I do. I only did so 1 year

    I've come clean to everyone I care about. My mom/immediate family, my close friends, boyfriend, and feel pretty comfortable telling 'new' friends too. The way I see it, I don't want them in my life if they can't at least pretend to support my choices. I've got an incredibly loving & supportive small group of friends and I feel blessed because it allows me to talk and vent about camming. I wouldn't be happy any other way.

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