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    Hey guys, so I just arranged an interview for next week and the owner was looking at the pictures I emailed while we were on the phone and I kinda felt like he was critiquing me? Admittedly, I have had some body image issues so maybe I took it the wrong way (trying to hype up my confidence before my interview ) but he was like "well, you're not skinny, you're kinda in the middle" and "some guys like busty but not all guys so a B cup is ok" and basically ended that if I was as attractive in person then I'd be hired. Is this a normal way to be treated? I'm not used to being scrutinized like that, I usually just get flattered by guys in bars but I get this is different.

    I can't apply anywhere else because this is 1 of 2 lap dance type-things that I know of... I don't feel ready to be up on stage on a pole. I interviewed at the other one and got it, but rejected my first shift because I had my period and never got invited back.

    I tried attaching pictures but it only shows as a thumbnail ?! I'm 5'7" and 129 lbs

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    He definitely could have been more tactful about what he said to you. Since I didnt see your picture I cant say for sure, but at 5'7 and 129 lbs, you are at a healthy weight. B cup boobs are fine, you've got a little something. Does he have all perfect 10 Barbie dolls working for him? If so, he is probably just being honest so that you know who you will be having to compete with. If you are "average" in any way, it will be hard to compete with those types of girls unless you have strong hustling skills and the right personality. But if he doesnt have those types of girls working for him, then he was being overly critical and rude. IMO the only times an owner should be critical is if the girl is out of her league or if she is really overweight and out of shape.

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    Stripping is about confidence and personality, about owning your sexiness, and about body positivity - NOT about having a perfect body type. You can definitely sell dances no matter what you look like as long as you OWN IT. I have acne all over my butt and back, which can be pretty visible from the stage, and I still sell plenty of dances because I know that I am sexy no matter what. Without needing to look at your pictures, I'm sure that you are hot enough to work at as a stripper.

    If the other girls at the club are perfect barbies, then yes, you might stick out, but he at least should have told it to you like that. He seems to think that because you don't fit an image in his mind you aren't attractive at all. Well, he's a piece of shit for thinking that

    Then again, he could just be testing you. Show him your confidence, girl! You are hot as hell and deserve to be making hundreds of dollars a night!

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    Heh, I wonder what he'd think of me....I made the mistake of stepping on that "tell your fortune and weight machine" at the movie theater last night and it said I'm 126 llbs and I'm only 5'.
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    Unfortunately in the world of strip club management, he is hiring and you are the one wanting to work there. Although his comments weren't nice, there's not a lot you can do except feel confident that you are attractive to other men, and know that you just want to work at the club to make money.
    In my 8 years of dancing, I've had lots of strange comments made to me, mostly by customers, but I have learnt not to take things personally, and try not to get offended.
    You are most likely a stunning girl, who cares what one club owner thinks! And even if you're not a 10, just remember that it's not always the hottest strippers that make the most money, it's the smart ones with the best hussle!
    I don't know what this 1-2 lap dance thing is, but my suggestion would be next time you have your period, don't bother mentioning it to any staff or manager at the club. Just use a tampon and tuck the string up, or cut it off (this can be tricky to get it out).
    Lastly, you said you were not confident on the stage or pole yet? My advice for you would be 'fake it till you make it'.
    Some of the best industry professionals never started off amazing on stage, we learnt everything we know from watching and copying other girls on stage. The same goes for learning how to hustle and do lap dances. Also there is an element of trial and error involved in this type if work. Try faking confidence, and just know that you have enormous potential as a dancer, it is something that is practiced and developed over a dancing career.

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    Thank you so much for all the advice. As far as confidence goes I think you're absolutely right about fake it til you make it. I tried attaching a picture from my phone this time in case anyone has more insights !
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    Looks only take you so far in the club. I'm not going to tell you that they don't matter, because they do. But they aren't the only thing. Think of them as a "letter of recommendation ". It gets you in the door but doesn't necessarily get you the sale.
    However, I think it's a huge disservice to tell n00bs that all that matters is "body positivity ". In my career I've seen the best hustlers have a combination of looks and skills. This business is very cutthroat so it's also about having a thick skin and being realistic about your limits.

    I'm in my 30's now, heavily tattooed and in the best shape of my life but nowhere near perfect. I'm not going to try for top tier Manhattan clubs because I'm a realist.
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