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    Nearing the end of my last shift I stepped into the dressing room to take a breather and count my cash. There was a girl sitting there with a couple other dancers talking about how so-and-so got kicked out for giving a guy head in the VIP and so-and-so got caught giving extras but management ignored it. After that, the conversation went something like this... "Yeah, a lot of girls are giving extras, one girl let some guy finger her, but I guess management ignored that too. It could be anyone, it could even be someone in this very dressing room. It's like a game; I call it 'guess the prostitute'."A couple girls laugh but don't press it any further which appearently aggravates her. "Really, come on guys don't you fucking understand process of elimination. It's not me, it's not you, it's not you (continues to point out everyone in the dressing room except for me."

    I'm still counting my money trying to look unfazed, "It's not me." (At this point I'm really hoping I'm not about to be targeted considering there is no reason for her to be singling me out and what she was claiming was totally false if she was talking about me).

    "It was you, I know it was you!"

    Considering she just tried sabotaging me in font of a bunch of other girls I couldn't just ignore her so I laughed and told her I have been in VIP twice in the four months I've been stripping (I stack dances and try to avoid the rooms), have a boyfriend of 10 years, and don't even finger myself for anyone (just my preference no shame for anyone who does). She wouldn't let up so I asked her my name; she didn't even know. So I asked her how she could possibly know if some guy fingered me without even knowing who I was (her response was that the bartender pointed me out to her.)

    None of the other girls participated in the whole thing which I'm thankful for; hopefully that means they realized she was full of shit. It must have gotten a little heated cause I ended up telling her she must be jealous, that she should be more concerned about making money on the floor instead of talking shit in the dressing room, and that she was acting like she was in high school (I'm starting to think I could have left all of that out). I locked up my stuff and told her, "You know what, maybe this is all a misunderstanding and she pointed out someone else your mistaking me for." She wouldn't quit so I just shook my head and went back out onto the floor, determined to not let it ruin my otherwise awesome night (I made double what I already had just by deciding to stay and not let it get to me).

    She later walked up to me, this time one-on-one and said something on the lines of, "Even if it is a misunderstanding we don't do extras here and it hurts our industry in general." I told her I've never performed any extras and never will and she didn't have to worry about me. I told her about stripperweb and the conversations about extras and the stripping industry if she wanted to join the conversation. (then I gave her a hug lol. I really don't think she knew how to react esp in front of customers.)

    Has something like this ever happened to anyone else? Did I handle it ok? Should I do anything different next time? And why the fuck do some girls do this shit? I wonder if it actually was a mistake or if she was purposely trying to sabotage me for some reason.

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    Oh, it's happened to me recently. That shit never works, as I have a solid reputation and everybody knows I'm a no bullshit kind of person. It's jealous gossip mongering that girls trot out when they're feeling insecure and want to topple someone they see as a threat.

    Ignore it, laugh it off and let your practices and reputation speak for itself.

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    I've been accused of extras too. It's usually just jealous girls who aren't making any money with nothing better to do. Don't let it phase you.

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    ^^^Or bitches that are doing extras or other shady stuff and are trying to take focus off themslves.

    Same advice applies. Gossip is just standard in the club. It's like junior high school in a pressure cooker.


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    What kirakonstantin said. People will say whatever shit is on the top of their heads for their own gains (whatever those gains might be), but actions always speak louder than words. Just keep business as usual, don't get caught up in the rumors, and they'll die just as fast as they came up.

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    People act so dumb sometimes. If she wasn't in the room with you and didn't see any sex acts with her own eyes then she is full of sh*t and trying to start some sh*t.

    Hoes gossip because they have nothing else better to do, they are threatened when their income drops, and possibly are the main ones doing what they are speaking out against.
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    Default Re: Falsely Accused of Extras

    Leather jacket, I know how you feel. One time I was approached by an older stripper (also a known drunk) who was mad because she thinks I "stole" her customer. I was like 'oh really? Because from what I recall, YOU were pestering him while we were sitting at the table, and you were just trying to order drinks on his tab for yourself.' She also tried to back her accusations up by saying I was a new girl (I had been in for a year, so not really).

    Honestly, I think she was just mad bc a customer preferred me over her trashy, uneducated, sloppy-drunk ass, and so she wanted to attack me in front of the entire locker room. It also raises an eyebrow as to why it's always the young, pretty girls that get accused of things? Because young=stupid? No, I think that hot, young dancers should know that they are, and that hotness is all they need, plus sales skills, to make bank. If anything, I've heard that some of much much older dancers (40s and beyond) are the ones offering "services." Like kirakonstatin said above, it could be some extras bitches pointing fingers or projecting their own issues onto you. Fuck 'em.

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    Ha, yeah, had that happen. Anyone who is worth your time knows a shit-talker when they hear her. Regardless of her intentions or whether it was a mistake, I wouldn't give her so much attention if she tries it again. The angrier you get, the more power she has.

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    You did everything right. Some girls who have serious issues with making money (ranging from being too ugly/crazy, to just being sociopaths) will accuse other girls of extras in order to get them run off.

    I know I'm mean but I hope the next time she tries this on someone, she gets her ass beat to a pulp.

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    Default Re: Falsely Accused of Extras

    Are you new at this club? Have you seen this girl before? She probably does it to everyone, if is a small club.

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    You handled it beautifully. Being falsely accused of doing extras is something most dancers will deal with at some point in their job. All it means is that you are doing your job good and the other dancers are jealous, immature bitches who perhaps need to hang their heels up. Even if you know a girl is doing extras, the way to handle it is not by being catty and instigating a fight. I would either let the manager know and have him talk to her about it, or I would switch clubs if management won't fix the problem.

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    If you're getting accused of doing extras, you're doing something right. Take it as a compliment.


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    Quote Originally Posted by arielbriel View Post
    If you're getting accused of doing extras, you're doing something right. Take it as a compliment.
    ^^This. Same thing happened to me at a very clean club with cameras. Managers loved me, all the non petty girls liked me, it blew over. Ignore the bitches. Girls will go to great lengths to 'sabotage' others rather than better their own performances.
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    I've found that sometimes other girls "need to find a reason" for why you are successful and they aren't. If you're popular and do a lot of VIPs and are a top earner stuff like this just comes with the territory.

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    I experienced a situation in which someone tried to complement me but I felt insulted. I got taken to a room and asked if I was comfortable with the couple and the fact that the female was topless. I was fine with it. The husband didn't like me so gave me 100 bucks and asked me to leave the room immediately. I went back downstairs and this girl was like "I'm really proud of you." I was like excuse me? She goes, "I know whats going on in that room, I know what they're doing in there. Now I know you're not a dirty hoe."

    Da fuck??? So apparently if I would have stayed in the room it makes me a hoe? I just walked away from her. You see how easily an assumption could have turned into a rumor to cause friction for me? Bitches need to mind their own fuckign business. unless you are IN that room and you SEE someone doing extras, assumptions are NOT cool!

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    SHE is doing extras. Hands down.

    I got yelled at by one ugly girl at my club for the same thing. She always goes on and on about how clean and innocent she is.

    Well I found out through customers that she does full service - no extra charge as routine. Any extra - no extra charge. Wrote her own reviews to that effect. I have heard this so many times from different customers. The really seedy customers book her. I even got told by manager I trust she is dirty as but top mgt pretends not to know.

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    I'm sorry this happened to you, it's so unnecessary for girls to carry on like immature, insecure little high school kids.

    I've been accused of it . On one hand I was deeply offended (because it wasn't true and in fact I'm a total prude lol) and on the other hand I found it funny (because they decided I positively MUST be, because I did well. If they weren't sitting around in the DR bitching about the other girls, they would have been doing well also ).

    This girl is just a bully and you are new . Seeing as you didn't let her affect you, she will find another target soon. Ignore her and avoid the DR and it will blow over.
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    Quote Originally Posted by LAQUEEFA View Post
    Are you new at this club? Have you seen this girl before? She probably does it to everyone, if is a small club.
    Thank you guys! I'm hoping it will blow over, it seems like it might, and like OliveJardin mentioned she'll probably (unfortunately) pick out easier pray soon. When I mentioned this to my partner, he said the same thing about the possibility of her doing extras too. Either way I'm gonna just stick to business and keep being the confident and happy stripper I am.

    @Laqueefa: Been at it for 4 months now. So yes, still pretty new. As far as I remember I don't think I've had any other interaction with her. As for the club size we actually have an unreasonably high number of girls working there. But yeah, it would be nice to know if it's just somthing she does rather then something personal.
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    This always happens when I make money, the girls who don't make shit will be talking LOUDLY about how the only girls who make money are prostitutes and how the only way to make money in the club is by sucking dick (I have never seen extras in the club, the dance area is very open and bouncers walk by all the time, it would be very hard to do any extras). I always just ignore them and walk away with my fat stack of cash!!!

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    This happened to this past weekend as well. One older dancer, who I assume has been at the club for a while, complained to the bartender/manager that I was doing extras. I have no idea what she said I was doing but later some of the girls said she was going around saying I was letting people suck on my boobs. Which is untrue, but also funny considering all the extras that DO happen in the VIP at that club. It's a condoms behind the couches kind of place. Boob sucking is very PG compared to the things that do go on back there.

    It wasn't a coincidence that it was a SLOW night and there were too many girls. No one was making big money but I was in and out of the VIP the most (and made only around 400 bucks that night), which I guess annoyed her.

    I don't want any beef with anyone, so I chose to ignore this and I'm not intending on going back there anytime soon.

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    Don't even worry about it. Bitches do this all the time to me, and honestly it doesn't hurt me at all. If anything, it brings me a lot of new customers who then get slightly disappointed to find the rumors aren't true. "I heard you're the girl who gives head." "Nope, but I can give a great lap dance!" Actually, the other day a customer who I've shunned after he misbehaved very badly walked up to me and said very loudly in front of my boss, coworkers and other customer, "This is the one that's diseased! I had to get a shot of penicillin!" Everyone just stared at him. My boss didn't blink an eye or even look up, and my coworker (who had been dancing with him) said, "Nope, that was me!"

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    I'm always getting accused of this or that and I have to just ignore it. I'm giving the accusers what they want by reacting to them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ms.Belle View Post
    Ugh! I know just how you feel. A couple of weeks ago three girls ganged up together and went to management complaining that I was giving hand jobs and letting guys do whatever they want with me. This club has HD cameras in EVERY dance booth...so if I was pulling that shit someone would easily spot me, and they fire girls on the spot for extras. The girls that turned me in are some of the LAZIEST dancers I have ever had the displeasure to meet. They stand around drinking, smoking, and waiting for men to talk to them. Half the time they leave with $20 after a 7 hour shift. All the while I am out on the floor for the entirety of the shift, talking with everyone, being professional, and most certainly NOT doing extras! I am also a top earner at the club so they have every reason to assume I am doing extras because they have no clue how to sell a damn dance.

    I was so mortified when management had to have a "chat" with me (just so they could report back to the girls and tell them I had been spoken to). I pride myself for being a clean and classy dancer and I was so hurt and offended that I didn't come back in the next day. I realize now how silly that was and I essentially "let them win" but I have never dealt with something like that...and I didn't know how to.

    So I give you major kudos for what you did...but don't give that bitch the time of day ever again!!!
    I don't blame you for pausing to recover from that. Management should have reviewed the tape instead of speaking to you. They should have reprimanded the shit starters instead of you. You rightly sensed that management didn't have your back. You didn't let them win,management did and making contact with other clubs is a good move in case they decide to fie you on the word of those trouble making twits.
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    Yeah I have been. I have like two regulars at this point. One of them I'm almost positive has some mental issues. He comes in with songs he wrote about me and sits there and sings them to me and still live with his parents, in his 50's. Anyways he always gets rooms with me, just me never the other girls because he "loves me" he said. Apparently the times I was not at the club and he came in other girls went up to him to try to get a room with him and he asked if they give hand jobs saying that I always gave him hand jobs in the private room. Guessing it was his plan to get a hand job at the club. In reality I've never given him or anyone else a hand job or anything else extra there, but because he said that and because I'm a top earner there it was easily believed. My other regular texted me flipping out on me because of that saying he heard I give hand jobs and was pissed because he had spent good money on me and never gotten one.

    Anyways it sounds like you handled it fine by not really reacting to it. My first manager at a club told me something I always remember "these girls are your associates, not your friends." Just remember not to put so much pressure on them liking you or thinking you're great. Everyone talks shit, bartenders, waitresses, other dancers, customers etc but you are there to associate with them and get your money that's it. It doesn't matter what they think.

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