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    Hi all,

    I need to earn some serious(ish) cash over the next 6 months and thought dancing might be a good way to do it. I've considered it before but this is the first time I've really sat down and thought about it seriously. I have no issue with taking my clothes off in this environment, the outfits don't bother me (and actually are more than what a lot of girls wear to the beach!).

    However...

    My problem is with myself. I am very shy/timid and lack confidence. I was bullied at 10yrs old at school for winning a dance competition... And never danced since (it eventually got to the point after 10yrs or so that I didn't know where to start, so just avoided it altogether). So the dance floor is alien to me. However, I know I have good rhythm, as I am now a musician I'm also very shy when it comes to small talk/conversation, not sure how far that would get me!

    I guess what I want to know is, can these things mean the death of my new 'career' before it even starts?! Some positives here are that I know I have a nice natural figure (petite and well-proportioned), I have always received compliments in that respect. I've also never had a problem finding a date/boyfriend, apparently a lot of guys like the shy/quiet/sweet type of girl. I've found an awesome pole dance & lap dance studio nearby that offer lessons for everything I'd need on-stage. There's also workshops etc. out there for addressing self-confidence issues, so I could look into that, too.

    I'm just thinking, "If I'm going to do this, I want to do it properly and give myself the best chance of success that I can from the offset".

    But before I jump right in like a bull in a china shop, I just thought I'd ask some of you professionals on your advice or personal experiences first? Am I wasting my time?? All comments are much appreciated!

    Thank you.

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    Girl, TONS of us were bullied when we were younger, had no friends growing up, were / are super shy, have social anxiety, etc. etc. Check out some of the threads around here - it seems like at least half of us are struggling with depression, anxiety, or any number of other issues! When I started, I was a mega-virgin with severe social anxiety. And yeah, it took me a year of making $100/night (chump change in stripper world) for me to get over that anxiety. It took me another two years to become a serious hustler who could consistently bank. But at least I wasn't sitting on my ass for that first year making $0/night. Development takes time and patience. Everyone moves at their own pace.

    And remember that absolutely no one in the club knows about your background. You can be anyone you want to be in that environment - you get to create an entirely new persona who can be completely different from your real self.

    I'd encourage you to avoid overthinking this. Otherwise, before you know it, it'll be six months from now, and you'll realize that you wasted a TON of time over-preparing when you could have been learning on the job. Once you get your little booty in the club, you'll be SO glad you didn't waste any time worrying about something that really isn't that big of a deal. Sure, auditions are always awkward, but they're over in what feels like thirty seconds, and then you can focus on pulling in that cash! Don't start out at some super-fancy gown club. Find a sweet little neighborhood club, embrace the dive-factor, and get the jitters out of your system in a friendly environment. No one is going to notice if your hair and nails are perfect. And we have ALL been through our own awkward auditions.

    Just DO IT. It's not the kind of job that takes a lot of finesse, ya know?

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    Do an amateur night first and see if you like it. Don't go in trying to make friends or socialize. Don't be a bitch either though. Be courteous but aloof. Also if the other dancers don't warm to you it's usually nothing personal. N00bs come and go, very few of them last. Also, don't get high on your new girl novelty and turn it into an ego trip. I've seen enough of that. Spend your time learning to hustle and cultivating regulars so when the next batch of "fresh meat" arrives you will be prepared. Because yes fresh meat does have an expiration date.
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    It sounds like you'll do fine, like Charlie61 says. I know I was pretty nervous about starting too. Some of the girls were so talented and beautiful!! But the secret of it is, is that you can do it too. You just need to be confident and trust in your allure. Def don't worry about over preparing. I wanted to prepare a lot too before I auditioned and I did for about a day or two to boost my confidence. But, I think if I waited I would have regretted not getting started sooner (and starting to make money!) I began taking pole class after my first day. Which I think was an excellent way to go about it because as cool as pole is, it's not really about how many tricks you can do... it's more about hustling (which you can really only learn from doing.) That being said, I love taking pole class and it makes me look forward to going into work to try out a new move! Just use the classes to enhance your own enjoyment and skill level WHILE you work, not before.

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    Read up as much as possible on SW, & not just skimming the first couple pages of threads in each section. Dig deep, even if that means randomly clicking on pg 72 of Stripping General, pgs 45-48 of Newbie Board, & literally every third page of Hustle Hut. I tried like hell to prepare for starting to dance, & there isn't really anything that CAN prepare you bc stripping in many ways is just so 'out there' when compared to 'normal' jobs, even tho when you boil it down many of the basic principles are the same.

    Along w/ reading up on SW, Google 'confident body language' & study up on that as well. Employing confident body language can work positively on your own mind as well as on the minds of the customers you will be hustling. Getting a headstart on that can only work to your benefit.

    Otherwise, there are also camming & PSO work if the main problem is cold-approaching strangers.

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    Think about the hottest girl you know then go out and be her. you want to put on an act every night and eventually it becomes. Ore normal. Also if you can find a pole dance studio in your area, buy a pair of dance heels and take a class. It will certainly help with the stage jitters!

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