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    Question How to ask for privates?

    Last time I posted I was really defeated and I was thinking about quitting. Things are a lot better now. I can get some guys to take me pvt, but a majority just linger in my room for conversation. This is mainly because I don't know how to ask for pvts without turning the guy off. I read through the threads and it seems like mentioning money is a big no no. Help ladies?

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    Default Re: How to ask for privates?

    I just ask them what they're in the mood for today, or ask them if they're feeling playful or horny. If they tell me they don't want a show today then I tell them that's fine and I'll see them again soon whenever they're ready for fun. I usually don't ask them unless they're just sitting there not chatting or if they hint towards being horny or wanting a show. Sometimes they just want to chat a bit first, just don't let them take advantage of your time.

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    Default Re: How to ask for privates?

    Who said money is a big NO NO? Money is always a HUGE YES YES lol
    Depending on what site you u cam ask for privates like: 'hey guys, lets get naughty in pvt now, i am here to please you & myself teeheee, let's go i am horny' or something similar, u need to come up with ur own style of asking for pvt depending on ur hustle. I often answer to a 'hello' with 'I am looking for fun here u too? Bet u horny there, i am '. I dont have the time, patience & will to talk with these guys for free. But of course, everyone is different, we have different personalities, talents, skills & looks. No matter how u ask it, just Ask, u entitled to it cause u on cam with a reason, not to waste time. That's how it is for me anyway.

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    Default Re: How to ask for privates?

    With humor! I'm like a cream filled donut, do you want to taste my holes? Take me private! I'm wearing crotchless panties and I would love to show you how my hairy, wet pussy looks, take me private and I'll show you how I pet my kitty!
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    Default Re: How to ask for privates?

    I just say 'I'm ready to play with you now, let's have some fun!'. That means take me pvt or exclusive without actually saying it. If you're afraid to say or ask for what you want, you won't get it. That goes for on and off cam! You were given a voice to use
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    Default Re: How to ask for privates?

    I tend to make an announcement to my room if I've been in free chat too long. "sOOoooo, this is great and all, but does anyone want to play?"

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    Default Re: How to ask for privates?

    Oh lol, you can also ask 'who wants to play, who wants to play? Let's hear it!'. That's one of my favorite lines to use that usually works. Now imagine saying that in real life. You may wanna run home and close all windows. LOL!
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    Default Re: How to ask for privates?

    Think of some clever things to say and save them in your preset messages so you can send them directly without everyone seeing it. Personally I'm just blunt and honest and I ask because we all know what one another is there for. I couldn't care less how "turned off" they are. They know the deal is to come to the site and spend money so they can achieve orgasm. My rule is if you're in my room; you're fair game when it comes to asking- otherwise, why are you there? Every member's name is attached to a credit card and we're walking talking products so they need to stop acting brand new.




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    Quote Originally Posted by SexyBBWShay View Post
    Last time I posted I was really defeated and I was thinking about quitting. Things are a lot better now. I can get some guys to take me pvt, but a majority just linger in my room for conversation. This is mainly because I don't know how to ask for pvts without turning the guy off. I read through the threads and it seems like mentioning money is a big no no. Help ladies?
    Uhm no. No its not. They know they're supposed to pay you. They have to sign up with a credit card in order to join the damn site. If it wasn't about money then the sites would ask for a Library card. Hell I wish they would require a Library Card. It just might enhance the quality level of the consumers. Those guys who stick around just to talk are taking advantage. If they don't pay they can't stay. Ignore them if they are talking too much. Move on to the next guy and start all over again. Hi Be friendly of course...in the beginning. Greet them. Ask them what brings them to your room. And then ask them if they would like to go private. Sometimes it depends on the site and the demographic. At this level of the game these mofos know not to come into my chatroom unless they have money to spend. But I'm also very silly and bit odd I guess. So while they're sitting there trying to figure out if I'm just goofy or bit deranged I go "Let me hold 5 dollars". It takes them by surprise. Some will bolt and others will pay. LOLZ

    Also you shouldn't really have to do that much talking to get them to spend. Most of them have already made up their minds that they aren't gonna spend jack. And I've found that that quiet guy who's in and out of your room lurking just may be the spender. Send them a sweet flirty note "Hey baby I see you over there looking at me....what kind of show do you want?" If they ignore this question then kick them out of the room. Show them that you are ready to play but not for free.

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    Default Re: How to ask for privates?

    I used to work retail sales, and I was very good at it, mostly because I didn't waste time on people in my store who weren't customers (customers buy shit).

    The trick is to greet the newcomer warmly, and then quickly ask what they want so you can screen them out. "Hi there, JoeSchmoe! How are you today? Good? Great! What can I help you with today?"

    It forces them to quickly tell you what they want, which is either wasting your time or giving you money. If they say they're just "chilling" etc., I let them hang out for a minute, but I know they aren't looking or a pvt (I don't do Gold shows), so I won't put much effort into them, but I wouldn't kick them either. At this point, I know he's in limbo, so he might be someone who changes his mind when he sees how awesome I am, but efforts are best spent elsewhere. Interact politely, but don't make it your focus. For as long as he's "chilling" ALWAYS let him see how eager you are to go into a show with the next guy.

    If he leaves when I directly ask him what I can help him with, then I know he didn't want shit and I can move on.

    Or, when asked directly, he'll say what his kink is or what show he wants, and you can proceed from there to money land. Remember, some guys like to window shop during the day when they're bored at the office or waiting for an appointment, and they aren't there for a pvt right now, but they are rounding up their "favorites" for tonight when they can get some time alone. Again, ask those guys what they're looking for, and if you're into their kink, then let them know, show your excitement for a later show, and that you'll be ready when they are.

    It is TOTALLY okay to mention the sale. The sale is why you're all there, and if they aren't there for that sale, then they can fuck off to Buffalo. In fact, not mentioning the sale, not asking them "Are you going to buy from me today?" is the quickest way to fuck yourself in a sales job, and this is a sales job.


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    Default Re: How to ask for privates?

    You just ask them your not on there to sit there and make friends you are there to make money.

    You are an independent contractor to make money on a pay site your not paid the hour you have to make sales by the hour.

    Yes it might sound harsh but if you wanted to build fantasy relationships you would be on a regular dating website.

    I have auto messages that says Hey Model is ready for a private show press private show now to get one. Hey to get me 1 on 1 take me private so we can be alone, constantly in conversation.

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    Well said E.S Camgirl, i worked in sales area myself, i was really good too, i sold expensive photo/ video equipment and mobile phones to customers in a shop, all rules apply here too.

    minnie, where u have that auto preset message telling the guys "the model so and so is ready to be taken pvt?" On SM or other site? Cause on SM, together with the message comes ur username too!? Or just the message? (i am offline now & tired, i dont remember exactly lol). So u wanna make it look like it comes from the site lol? flirt4free did this by the way.

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    Do you go to their job & sit in their office just visiting & keep them from working?

    There are plenty of broke losers who sit on the computer ALL day long chatting up girls on cam sites & never spend a dime. Don't get it confused, they are NOT friendly, because they are taking up your time, energy and attention for FREE! aka keeping you from making money. Not so friendly after all is it.

    They are TRAINING you, not the other way around. Be friendly BUT only focus on the guys who do spend money. When those stop spending money & just want to visit, be polite & move onto the guys who are spending money.

    Guys "OPEN tits bb"
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    You "Gosh, then take me prvt bb & see how much fun we have"

    Guy "I have a BBC"
    You "Great, take me prvt & do c2c"

    Congrats, you now have a PURE sales based job. It is your JOB! to get them to take you private, tip & such. YOUR JOB! Not to visit, not to have a social life, not to give them what they want for free. You can't wait for them to take you private, you have to hustle.

    Read up on many articles & books on how to flirt & sales. Some principles are the same no matter the biz.

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    I always do totally the same thing, ask of what they are in the mood for. When they reply and it is fine with me, I say smth like sounds fun lets play (I have that weird ability to lit my eyes, like getting those naughty sparkles, I can fake them big time, they always work like if I am so excited about private with them). My main rule is and always will be, if you don't talk to me, get the fuck off my free chat, period. Not only buy the show or get the fuck off. Some guys do need that time to get to know you and become your reg. I actually like to use my freechat for new clients, regs I keep connection with via PM, I send them PM while I am drinking my coffee with my face mask on lol time saver!

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    Quote Originally Posted by minniesoporno View Post
    You just ask them your not on there to sit there and make friends you are there to make money.

    You are an independent contractor to make money on a pay site your not paid the hour you have to make sales by the hour.

    Yes it might sound harsh but if you wanted to build fantasy relationships you would be on a regular dating website.

    I have auto messages that says Hey Model is ready for a private show press private show now to get one. Hey to get me 1 on 1 take me private so we can be alone, constantly in conversation.

    The call to action is the most important part of being online
    I do agree on that. Being honest about being money oriented is the key, it keeps all the idiots away. The ones who cant cope with that are the most annoying from my little experience, they are those who like to abuse your PM like if you are their shrink or smth...if someone thinks I am on cam because I am Mother Teresa for horny guys...lol and yeah right...

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    Thanks to people like Sam I've learned that this is a sales job. If a guy sits in my room for more than 60 seconds, chances are I've pressed him for a sale.

    If they don't say anything I ask them what they are up to. If they say nothing I say well let's get up to something fun in private babe!

    If they tell me they are horny I say hey I can help you with that in private. Always bringing it back to privates let's them know you aren't there just chilling. It also let's me know almost instantly who the freeloaders are. I don't ban them but I also don't "shoot the breeze" with them. If they start asking questions about my show I once again try to close the deal by encouraging them to take me private. Never be afraid to ask for money. It's your room and that is why you are there.
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