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    Once in a while I get guys in my room on who want to meet in person and I obviously always tell them I can't do that. However the other day a guy was insisting on a meeting and to keep him in private as long as possible I told him I would meet up with him, which of course I didn't.
    Did this ever happen to you girls? And is it kind of fucked up to lie to the guy? I have been asking myself that,but however the guy payed me an exclusive over an hour discussing a meeting, so it kind of payed off.
    Any opinions?

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    Even if you don't meet up..even talking about it... Can get you suspended..not worth it to lose $$$
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    Ever think it is just role playing for them? Cause I do have friends who do meet up with men & 90 % of the guys chicken out at the last minute.

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    What you mean,I can get suspended only talking about it????? It's just a hustle, just talking.

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    Depending on what you're "just talking" about, you can still break rules... I'd be careful about joking/lying about any actual locations, times, or other specific information.

    Nice job on getting an hour-long exclusive with that guy, but he probably won't be back for more once he realizes you lead him on. Or, perhaps he'll come do another pvt/excl with you and then give you a bad rating/review.

    Personally I make it clear that I'm not an escort and that I won't arrange dates/meetups... and I block the guys who get too pushy about it. However, I often tell them that maybe we'll coincidentally run into each other someday, at a concert or a coffee shop or something. My guys don't know where I live, so the possibility of that ever happening is rather unlikely, but it creates a seed of pathetic hopefulness that they can latch onto.

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    I usually humor them for as long as I can, without actually agreeing to anything. I'll say things like, "Oh, so you wanna meet, huh? But I don't know anything about you! Where do you live? Ohh, that's pretty far from me. My boyfriend will be pretty jealous... what excuse should I tell him? I'll have to be sneaky! Mmm, I bet that would be so hot though... what would you want to do together? I'd love to *insert dirty talk here*. I bet you could make me cum so good. That would be so hot to meet up and *more dirty talk*".

    You can usually stretch it out for a long time that way. If they keep pushing it I'll tell them I don't know them well enough, and we should keep chatting & playing online until I'm more comfortable. That way they'll hopefully come back again for more.

    I agree with Sam38G that it's probably mostly roleplay for them.

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    Well, I was just talking about meeting the next day at a certain time and place, that's all. The next day at the time when the meeting was supposed to be, I was camming on SM, so I obviously didn't meet with him. Was just bullshit talk from me, not more.
    I kind of have the name of the area where I live in my camname, because the area is kind of famous and lot's of guys who I chat with come here for vacation. So through the name I get lot's of customers wanting to tell me they come/was/have been here. Once in a while I get one who asks for a meeting and I always say "no I can't", just played around the other day with that guy.

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    I always get guys who want to meet up....they all want to buy me plane tix and fly me down...I just say "I don't think my husband would let me" sometimes I play them though....to get more time outta them. Its annoying as fuck though and I've had to block a few pushy ones myself...some of them won't even do a show...they'll just say that in chat or send you a message about it...get real dude, like I would EVER meet you in real life....

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    I get these type of guys all the time because I'm a Transsexual, built-in fetish so it's a big fantasy, roleplay for most of them. They like to meet up in theory but not in practice. I just tell them 'I don't know enough about you to agree to us meeting up. Let's get to know each other better in private or exclusive'. The 'getting to know' can take hours, days, months, lol!
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    I just can't do the "I'll meet you someday" hustle. Like, when it's a guy who is asking for sex he can suck my ass, but if he's someone who comes to my room, takes me exclusive, and just wants to talk. About personal things, and you think there pretty cool, or just really damaged by something, and UGH. I can't do the whole "I'll meet you after 1 more excl" thing. Yes, it's a sex site, yes, we are hustling, but there's a point where it just feels like I'm taking advantage of someone. I have to be honest, I'm not going to play with a guys feelings. I might never be a 100k + model, but I can sleep at night.

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    "Hey baby what are you in the mood for tonight? Oh! Sorry it's against site rules to talk about this let alone meet up for real. Besides, you have me here now, wanna play? ... Sorry please stop talking about it. I can't afford this situation to cost me a suspension of worse. Ok, last warning. ... *click ban* "

    /end of story.

    Seriously. You shouldn't feel pressured to break site rules and put your job at risk or pussyfoot around a subject to make some coin. Even if you had the potential of making a $100 off the guy stringing him along in make believe land that's not even remotely worth getting busted by the site. Period. Don't dance around the subject, just move along.

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    I dont know how to handle these type of guys lol. Usually i make a joke about it, and keep them talk. Asking shit, what would they do in the case we met, let them fantasy about it etc,
    However, the whole converstation make me amazingly bored, and tired, and i feel brain dead during the conversation lol.

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    I never actually promise to meet.

    What I do is say "what would we do first if we were to meet?" and let him rattle on, "and then what?" and so on.

    Those types will often have a short expiration date so milk them while you can without ever promising an actual meeting.


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    I think there is a roleplay/hustle element that you can work up in these situations. About a year ago after reading about different girl's hustle when it comes to this situation I decided to give it a go. The very first "I want to meet IRL" guy I had ended up having extreme bi-polar disorder (he told me) and when he was on his highs would spend hours with me talking about dating me etc etc. I got to a point where I felt like I was taking advantage of him when he started fessing up about his financial situation and to be honest I felt uneasy about it all from the get-go. I had to let him go and blocked him and he took it very, very hard (but was respectful).

    It was a yucky experience and was enough to completely turn me off of that sort of roleplay and or hustle. So basically, as with all things camming, it all comes down to our comfort level. If you feel okay with it then have at 'er, most of these men know exactly what they are getting themselves into being on a pay-sex site but proceed with caution.

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    Nope I don't feel remotely guilty anymore since I tell them straight up I DO NOT under any circumstances meet.. i even use the phrase "purely pixel fun". Anything past this point is on their head be it and I will gladly collect the ŁŁ while they waste their time
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    I too just say "who knows, we right run into each other one day. let's get to know each other better here! I'm always right here!"

    if they decide to keep coming back and spend in hopes of ever meeting me, well that's their fault for being so dumb. I never promise to meet, I never mention a time or place, nothing.

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    I tell them straight that I don't meet, not even for just a coffee...I invite them to imagine they're with me now instead.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Smurfette View Post
    I usually humor them for as long as I can, without actually agreeing to anything. I'll say things like, "Oh, so you wanna meet, huh? But I don't know anything about you! Where do you live? Ohh, that's pretty far from me. My boyfriend will be pretty jealous... what excuse should I tell him? I'll have to be sneaky! Mmm, I bet that would be so hot though... what would you want to do together? I'd love to *insert dirty talk here*. I bet you could make me cum so good. That would be so hot to meet up and *more dirty talk*".

    You can usually stretch it out for a long time that way. If they keep pushing it I'll tell them I don't know them well enough, and we should keep chatting & playing online until I'm more comfortable. That way they'll hopefully come back again for more.
    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    I just tell them 'I don't know enough about you to agree to us meeting up. Let's get to know each other better in private or exclusive'. The 'getting to know' can take hours, days, months, lol!
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    I never actually promise to meet.

    What I do is say "what would we do first if we were to meet?" and let him rattle on, "and then what?" and so on.

    Those types will often have a short expiration date so milk them while you can without ever promising an actual meeting.


    Nope I don't think its fucked up. Them thinking that most girls will or want to meet up is fucked up imo. They know what kind of site they're at. If most of us wanted to meet up with them we wouldn't be on a webcam site with anonymous names. Alot of men like to play games and use women to their advantage so I don't feel bad doing the same to them.

    If they want a real hookup then they can go to a bar, Tinder, Ok Cupid, Plenty Of Fish, or Craigslist. Instead of going to the places where they can actually hookup they come to a pay to play site. A place where women are million of miles away, using a fake name and sometimes location, charging per minute, entertaining 100's of men and their fantasies a day(most from the safety and comfort of their home). I know that some models meet up but if these guys are foolish enough to think that I'm going to meet(especially given the factors I listed) then I dam sure am going to play them like a fool.
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    I tell guys that only big spenders get my attention if they want to meet me and even then it's highly unlikely but a good first start at a "chance" is to tip me big. It's gotten me a few big tips but generally it just shuts them up.
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    And keep at it. Get up, put on your make up, and sign on. With every second you're online comes the possibility of your next big spender. A customer could show up who will spend enough to make up for all the bad days and then some. You just have to be around for him and working multiple sites increases the chances of him finding you.


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    I would say no matter what ur intentions were/ are it's important how SM sees ur 'performance/act' with that member, if they consider u crossed the 'red line' then u are at risk. They dont allow to exchange contact information with members in order to meet but even talking about meeting can get u in trouble because they consider u'll make the next step & exchange contact info, right there on the site or off site.

    I try not to break the rules & i have difficulties bending the rules considering SM is the only site i cam on at the moment, i dont wanna risk having my account suspended or worse. Also, pls remember that on some sites escorting is allowed (see Adultwork) so people (members) get confused about what rules apply to each site. Many cam girls do escort too, this is not new, some recruit the members on cam sites. It's important not to get in trouble with the site u cam on.
    I always answer with NO, i dont meet up when a guy asks in freechat or takes me pvt & starts asking about meeting right away but if a guy spends some time with me in paid chat & talks about meeting up i dont cut him off right away, i try to make him stay & spend on me w.o promising him anything & most importantly, never discussing meeting details or exchanging contact info. I dont know how other girls manage things on this matter but i know i wanna be safe than sorry. Cheers!

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    Don't pretend any of these men have our best intentions at heart. They log onto these sites to use females, just as we use them. They get off, we get paid and all play SAFE!

    As if men don't lie to females every single day to get what they want from us with no remorse at all. Most of these guys are married or in a relationship, a cheater isn't honest or honorable.

    Personally, I've been stalked way to many times to lead them on. Major of the guy who ask NEVER take me private or spend money. They just want to mislead girls into giving out emails & phone numbers for FREE so they can talk & jack off for FREE! with you whenever they want. Most of them are just pulling a con job. Trust, he isn't into you, he will go to 100 rooms trying the same line on other performers.

    He doesn't really want to date you, spend money to buy you dinner, he wants to fuck for FREE! Even the ones who offer big money, it is all a lie. It is an ego trip to see how many girls will be nice, give out private info in hopes of making money but he gets what he wants for FREE! Don't make the mistake into thinking they really want to date you, take you home to meet the parents & change their facebook status to 'in a relationship'.

    Men log on because they are horny, they assume you log on for the same reason. So why not meet up & fuck. Lots of them are really that simple. Lots of them are wanna be game players with NO game.

    My line is "i just do fantasy, NOT reality".

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    It's all about ego and entitlement. Men feel entitled to women's body and sex.
    They KNOW damn well it's a pay to play site.
    I don't know why they even bother when there are plenty of bitches in real life that would fuck for FREE, LOL!
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    Nope I don't think its fucked up. Them thinking that most girls will or want to meet up is fucked up imo. They know what kind of site they're at. If most of us wanted to meet up with them we wouldn't be on a webcam site with anonymous names. Alot of men like to play games and use women to their advantage so I don't feel bad doing the same to them.

    If they want a real hookup then they can go to a bar, Tinder, Ok Cupid, Plenty Of Fish, or Craigslist. Instead of going to the places where they can actually hookup they come to a pay to play site. A place where women are million of miles away, using a fake name and sometimes location, charging per minute, entertaining 100's of men and their fantasies a day(most from the safety and comfort of their home). I know that some models meet up but if these guys are foolish enough to think that I'm going to meet(especially given the factors I listed) then I dam sure am going to play them like a fool.
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    I straight out say, hey I'll roleplay the entire scene of how it would be if we met up but that's as far as it will go. I don't want to ruin the fantasy! Some guys are totally cool with that and others just bugger off.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    Don't pretend any of these men have our best intentions at heart. They log onto these sites to use females, just as we use them. They get off, we get paid and all play SAFE!

    As if men don't lie to females every single day to get what they want from us with no remorse at all. Most of these guys are married or in a relationship, a cheater isn't honest or honorable.

    Personally, I've been stalked way to many times to lead them on. Major of the guy who ask NEVER take me private or spend money. They just want to mislead girls into giving out emails & phone numbers for FREE so they can talk & jack off for FREE! with you whenever they want. Most of them are just pulling a con job. Trust, he isn't into you, he will go to 100 rooms trying the same line on other performers.
    This. To each lady her own, but this is 110% where I stand on the issue. ^^

    I'd love to just blame my paranoia for this one, but I think it's very reasonable to assume that any man on earth who truly believes that he can make a 'real connection' with a cam model by spending enough time with her in private is the same kind of man who doesn't live in reality, and I don't mean that in the 'haha, what a sad little nerd' way so much as the 'goes out of his way to find out where you live and show up at your doorstep with flowers because he thinks you're in a proper relationship' stalker sort of way. I'm not tempting fate here, so I just flat out tell people I'm seeing someone/engaged/married and flat out do not meet or even want to meet customers EVER.

    We're on the internet. I'm using a fake name, a shit ton of make up, perfect angles, a sweeter demeanor, a slightly different voice, fake accessories--the list goes on and on in an effort to make myself just different looking enough for the sake of remaining anonymous should I ever run into a customer when I'm, say, filling up my tank at the gas station. I'm not going to encourage potential creeps and I'm obviously not working online to meet people. I like to make sure that's very, very clear to people.

    That said, if a guy wants to role play the girlfriend experience--sure. And I will still clarify repeatedly that it's a fantasy.


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    While it's true that agreeing to meet can get you in trouble, dancing around the subject is another thing. If I have a well-paying client that starts talking about something like that in PVT, I dance around it with things like '''Oh, I bet that would be so much fun. Imagine all the things we could do baby!'' and that always does the trick.

    In my experience, once they blow a load they no longer want to meet anyway. It's just talk.

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