I don't want to get into too much details here, but I was really disappointed by how things turned out. He was looking for a girl to date and have sex with for free. I thought he would be different from other customers but nope.




I don't want to get into too much details here, but I was really disappointed by how things turned out. He was looking for a girl to date and have sex with for free. I thought he would be different from other customers but nope.





I'm sorry it was disappointing but I'm glad you were able to catch him at his game before it went any further.
It was a really helpful thread to have up- as a reminder that even the most wealthy can still be as extras hunting as the cheapest sweatpants boner man.... which is why keeping our wits about us in this industry, and having the SW support community can help guide us to make better choices- even when we are being blinded by the lure of big bucks (not you personally OP).
Ho Tactics Rule: " just because a man is rich doesn't mean you're going to get in his pockets there are millionaires who wouldn't buy a bitch a bottle of water in the desert so don't think because he has it to give that he would give it"
Second what flickdreams said. You are wise to have gotten out once you realize you both wanted different things and he wasn't trying to spend.
Sorry to hear it didn't work out as you expected. Well - On to the next
“Cook for him like a housewife, fuck him good like a nympho….pay the rent and the car note, he invests in me like crypto”







What let you know that he wanted it for free?




His gift was cheap and actually cost less than what he pays to spend an hour at the club with me, did not talk about an arrangement or offer to compensate me for my time at all and he was saying it's refreshing being with someone who's not with him for his money!


Do you think he could have you on the wife track or is he just looking for sex?




He's divorced with kids and said he's too busy for a girlfriend so it was obviously just for sex. It seemed to be his plan all along.
Ha! I love this line! Although, sadly, in my experience, guys will just respond with something like, "Yeah, I think you have a fantastic personality. And you're so intelligent. That's what I like about you. I'm not at all like those other guys who just want you for your body. ... Although you are stunning. Wanna have sex now?"
Suuuuuure bro.




Lol he actually said right after "It must be the same for you, hard to know if someone is talking to you for who you are or just because you're beautiful. I love spending time with you, you're a good person and it's rare".





He should just go on Tinder for that shit, instead of a damn strip club.
ETA - Again. Men wanting that forbidden pricey fruit that we are, for free. They wouldn't get that rush from Tinder girls who are willing to give up for free and easy. Sleeping with a stripper to these men is a goal they can brag about, especially if they didn't have to pay.
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Maybe I'm a manipulating bitch but OP, I would've "worked" on him a bit more enough to become a paid girlfriend at least. He bought you a present; cheap, but he bought it. I definitely think there's room for improvement. I would've put the pussy on ultimate lock down and strung him along until I got him exactly where I wanted him. He has two kids so I assume he was married at one time. That tells me someone is a paid ex wife and he can still be seductively manipulated into spending again. Is there a way you can make him fall in love with you and get in that way?
Believe In Your Brand



Ho tactics!!!
xStacey I agree with kortneykay. You can still work him. It's just going to take a little time. Think of it as that guy in the club that you KNOW is loaded and you know will fall in love with you but says he's not ready for dances, he's just here to drink, blah blah blah. After the two of you 'just hang out' for awhile, he's bought you drinks and/or food and you say the right flirty thing at the right moment he ends up enamored, yours for the night and leaves saying "Wow! I'm so glad I met you. You're so different." etc I say play into his game and entice him without him knowing it.
On another note I just finished the book today. Maaaaan have I been a basica. I've spent so much time crying over "good" men! I knew that I was a nice girl and wanted to lay her to rest. Now I totally get why I've been so frustrated.
Lastly, although this typically goes against the rules does anybody have any tips on the short term hustle? As in you have someone that's REALLY into you but has never sugared or spent in this way before but you'll be leaving the area in a few days?
I was thinking the same thing. I didn't want to say anything cause you seemed dead set on it not working out but I think there's still opportunity there. He may not be looking for wife or girlfriend or escort but he might want something in between like a friends with benefits type set up.
He may be expecting sex but that doesn't mean you have to give it (at least not immediately, if you do f*ck him, make him earn it / wait a few weeks). And all that nonsense about how "refreshing it is not to want him for his money" .... I'd just tell him what he wants to hear, continue to make him feel good / seduce him mentally, then after a couple public dates, his willingness to spend determines your willingness to be available to him.
But at the end of the day you know your situation best and it's better to go with your gut than be sorry later down the line.
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“Cook for him like a housewife, fuck him good like a nympho….pay the rent and the car note, he invests in me like crypto”




Yeah he was looking for a friend with benefits. He's very smart, Ivy League graduate, zoezoebelle's post was right, he's VERY good at manipulating people. I really doubt I'd be able to successfully manipulate him or make him fall in love with me so easily. I don't know who his ex-wife is, but his brother who's around the same age is married to a woman who's Executive Chair, President, Director of multiple international financial corporations, not just a pretty face profitting from her husband money.
I am educated and smart for my young age but I felt like such an idiot when we were talking over dinner. He would talk about history, antics, paintings, old literature, subjects I have absolutely no interest in and am not at all knowledgeable! Maybe I underestimated how easy this would be.
I'm not sure about the part concerning him being a master manipulator but as far as you not knowing as much about certain topics as him...who cares! Just listen, compliment him on being so knowledgeable, continue to ask probing questions, seem really interested, stroke his ego. Just listening to him is a chance for you to learn and upgrade your game when it comes to the next guy because THEN you can at least say "Oh I had a friend who blah blah blah" instead of feeling insecure about what you don't know.




That's what I did but not sure It'll be enough to get him to fall in love lol
Confidence! Confidence! Confidence! plus what prettyglitter said.



The smartest hustle is the one that yeilds the most benefit from the least investment.
If you are already happy doing your own thing in life it is not always worth it just to hustle "because you can"




From the impression I got on our first date, it might just be more beneficial charging him $$$ by the hour OTC or keeping him ITC.



Agreed.
Just to add-trinkets are worth basically 1/3 of their value the minute they are taken out of the shop. At the end of the day if you dont love them then they are worthless junk.
Cash you can bank, tax and save is always king.
Samesies. Last year I met a very wealthy guy in the club. He lived and worked overseas and wanted to fly me out to see him. I got all worked up, trying to think of a long game extended hustle to win his heart and make non-hourly bank, but after a while I realized it was just way too much time and effort. So I let him go.
You should definitely follow your own intuition when deciding whether or not to pursue this guy. But remember that there's no shame in choosing your battles wisely.
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