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    Default Could you Ladies please help me with what is going on here?

    -sorry but this story is a little long-
    Ok, so here is the thing. I used to go to clubs quite a lot but I took a break for a while because my drinking got out of control. I THOUGHT I knew what was up, but apparently I don't. A little about me: I'm under 30, not too ugly and in decent shape because of my line of work, Painfully average I guess. I own my own business but I'm not rich. Happily single. I tend to stick out like a sore thumb when I go to the club because I tend to wear cowboy boots and a ball cap. When I go out, I don't go looking for extras. Most of the time I'll pay the Lady I'm talking to for her time talking to me and for 4 or 6 dances and ask her for a good hug instead (usually about 1 song worth of actual time), clothes can stay on. (Leave me alone I'm lonely) Anyhow, here is the deal; I started going to clubs again a while ago, and this has been my experience.
    The first time, I went to club "A" and no matter how much tipping, I could not get any Ladies to come by. So I go into the room they have for people who smoke to finish my beer before I go home. There was a dancer in the room and we started small talking. I told her about half a minute into the conversation that I was on my way out the door and tipped her $20 (a dollar or 2 is a normal tip around here) for actually saying hi. She said something to the effect of it sucking in there tonight and just wanted to talk for a few minutes. long story short we talked for about a half hour (i told her a few times she should go make some $$) and I'm on my way out. She stops me by the door and tells me to take her number, then as I'm taking it she kisses me (real kiss not friendly type) right there on the floor and makes me promise to call her. So I do, no answer, then a call a week later with some personal drama, not asking me for $, told her if she needs anything to call, never heard from her again. Ok, whatever, to trying to hook up here.
    Next time out:
    See a Lady that I think is beautiful so I tip her a few times, she comes over and we have a few drinks and some talking, and repeatedly asking me if I was single, we go back for some dances. I give her $280, and after the first dance she starts touching my little buddy and going to take off her bottoms. I told her that I wasn't here for anything other than a dance, but she told me that she was doing it cause she wanted to. Fast forward through the "then stuff happened" part (hey, I'm a guy not a saint) we exchanged numbers and made some plans to meet up out of the club, and she texted me every day for like a week. She then asked me to come back up to the club, but when I got there she told me that she didn't actually want me to come, something about trying to get away from a friend. she offered me some gas money for driving out there, which I declined. So then she wants to "do stuff" with me again, and I told her again I'll give you some money for your time or for some dances, but I'm not paying for extras. She tells me just pay the door guy she just wants it, not the $. Anyhow, after this i talk to her the next day then no answer, then a few random texts from her...
    Club "C"
    I go there during day shift, and I see a Lady there that is just a KNOCKOUT! Anyhow, no one tips her during her whole time on stage (some of the other Ladies were getting tipped) so I walked up to her and gave her a $20 tip and some crappy line like "you know, your way too beautiful for no one to tip you, so here you go" (sorry I was a little buzzed) So she came over after she got off stage and I bought her a drink (or 3) and we started talking. Had a really great conversation about nothing in particular. So I realized that we had been talking for like 40 minutes and so I apologized for taking up so much time and gave her $150. She asked If I wanted dances for it and I told her no that was for your time. Then she insisted on dancing for me for it and, well, I'm a guy so yeah, most beautiful woman I've seen in like 6 months wants to get naked i'm not gonna say no. (but I did try) So we go back there and I get asked if I'm single, yep I am, I can't believe you don't have a girlfriend, I wouldn't be here if I did (I'm a degenerate, but i have a little Honor), blah blah blah, anyways, she starts making out with me. After regaining some composure, (blood flow issue, 2 brains competing here) I picked her up off my lap, stood up, and set her down on the couch gently and told her that we should probably get out of the back. I got the whole "I can't believe your single" thing again and she insisted I take her number. We were walking back to the bar and she said that we could have stayed in back longer, I had paid for more time (we were back there for like 2 songs) and I said thats ok, and she said something like "well its probably a good thing, if we stayed back there longer i would have ended up pregnant" I had mentioned about this bar I go up to, and she asked if she could meet me there for some drinks. well day comes and and excuse, lets go tomorrow, then nothing...

    There were some others, but those are the most extreme.

    I'm confused here. Is this a new Hustle? I'm not asking for numbers or anything, I pay, and I don't ask for extras. What the heck is this crap?!?!?
    Help please, this confuses the heck out of me. I go to the club to "get away" for a little while, not to have my self confidence messed with. I know its supposed to be a fantasy that is being sold, but I'm at a loss here.
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    ~The Landscaper

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    Default Re: Could you Ladies please help me with what is going on here?

    I am going to be very blunt here, so strap that crash helmet on good & tight.

    Sounds like you're dealing w/ idiot girls who are crap hustlers, & more interested in getting their own rocks off/egos boosted + a minimal side of cash instead of maximising their profits while at work. They aren't abt any kind of fantasy if they are giving extras.

    'Confidence messed with'? Please. It's the girls' job to make you feel good while you're at the club. You're taking yourself way too seriously w/ all these 'apologies' & claims of honour, & trying way too hard to make their attention more than what it is. Want to boost your confidence by picking up a random hot chick? Go to a regular bar.

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    Default Re: Could you Ladies please help me with what is going on here?

    First of all, I need you as a client lol

    Secondly, the strip club is a world of fantasy.. I believe that some girls get too caught up in the fantasy world, the here and now but want nothing to do with it outside the club. It's really not you, it's their lame way of hustling. Real hustlers don't lead you on like that.

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    Default Re: Could you Ladies please help me with what is going on here?

    look not all dancers are exactly 'professional' or stable people. I know younger dancers that openly cheat on their boyfriends with customers or use customers to get money or drugs otc. Maybe they were really into you, maybe not. Immature women change their minds all the time...who knows? next time don't take a number unless it's clear that you just want her schedule to meet inside the club again JUST for dancing.

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    Default Re: Could you Ladies please help me with what is going on here?

    Thank you to all who took the time to respond. I appreciate all your input.
    I know I'm pond winded, but thats me, lol
    Quote Originally Posted by Aniela View Post
    'Confidence messed with'? Please. It's the girls' job to make you feel good while you're at the club. You're taking yourself way too seriously w/ all these 'apologies' & claims of honour, & trying way too hard to make their attention more than what it is. Want to boost your confidence by picking up a random hot chick? Go to a regular bar.
    Aniela,
    I appreciate the bluntness, its exactly what I asked for!
    I completely understand what you are saying here, I just have to say though that the "side notes" in parenthesis are my, admittedly very dry and sarcastic, sense of humor. Something gets lost without tone of voice and not everyone finds a chuckle in it but thats me. And yeah, I do take myself a little too seriously if I was to be completely honest. Also, I think that "self confidence" was a poor choice of wording on my part. Perhaps frame of reference would be more accurate? Thanks for pointing out my lack in communicating that well enough. I'll be the first to admit, I'm not emotionally ready to be a in a serious mutual relationship, so that kind of rules out picking up people at bars.

    First of all, I need you as a client lol

    Secondly, the strip club is a world of fantasy.. I believe that some girls get too caught up in the fantasy world, the here and now but want nothing to do with it outside the club. It's really not you, it's their lame way of hustling. Real hustlers don't lead you on like that.
    JoJoX,
    I have a rule about only driving a half hour or less to clubs, but if you fall into that, I would be more than happy to give you all my spare cash to drink with me and listen to me bitch/make stupid jokes and pretend I'm funny!

    look not all dancers are exactly 'professional' or stable people. I know younger dancers that openly cheat on their boyfriends with customers or use customers to get money or drugs otc. Maybe they were really into you, maybe not. Immature women change their minds all the time...who knows? next time don't take a number unless it's clear that you just want her schedule to meet inside the club again JUST for dancing.
    Wednesday,
    I think you are right here, I need to learn to say "NO" with more than a half heart. I don't know if its good or bad, but I tend to take people at face value and I'm very trusting. I try to respect that you Ladies are working and compensate you for listening to a drunk guy ramble on work time.

    Again a big Thank You to everyone who took the time to read and respond!

    thanks,
    The Landscaper

    PS: I couldn't get all the quotes to appear as such. my bad.
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