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    Default Returning to dancing sober after 7 month break.

    Okay I need to ask for some advice, I have taken 7 months off dancing to concentrate on my sobriety, after 7 years of dancing I developed a dependency on alcohol.
    But now I'm really missing dancing! I really want to return to the industry in the next few months sober, but my problems are the following:
    *my new sober housemates will not approve of me going back to dancing, so I'll have to move.


    *i have gained weight, about 10 kilos since I last danced, and I'm struggling to loose it.


    * I can't afford another relapse with alcohol, and although I have worked sober before, let's face it, there is a lot of temptation to drink in a strip club.


    I feel like I have the strength now to return to the industry sober, but I'm very concerned about how dancing again is going to effect other things in my life- like relationships with friends.
    Thoughts and experiences would be appreciated. Xx Chloe

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    Default Re: Returning to dancing sober after 7 month break.

    1) Can you just tell them that you got a job of, I don't know, night-shift cashier at pharmacy or waitress at 24-hour diner? And try to move out asap.

    2) Go work to mid-tier club and after toning up with dancing/diet/working out, feel free to audition at nicer place.

    3) I wanted to advice you to choose nude juice bar but then I saw your location...Sorry, no idea what to tell.

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    Default Re: Returning to dancing sober after 7 month break.

    I feel ya girl! I developed a drinking habit when I worked days because I was bored, I thought it would help me hustle better, and i thought it would help me deal with ratchet broads who tried to test me (I instantly get aggressive when I drink)

    I actually loathe drinking alcohol because I am gluten intolerant and I don't metabolize it well so I end up with shitty hangovers even from small amounts.

    I think you have to look at the reasons why you were drinking and look for solutions to the problem other than drinking.

    Now I just fake drink at work. I may take a few sips just to make the customer think I'm drinking with them then pour the rest out later.

    You could just be upfront and tell customers you don't drink alcohol when they ask to buy you a drink but be prepared for douchbag idiots to try and tempt you. If you don't want to deal with explaining anything to customers then lie and and tell bartenders / waitresses to help you out. Give waitress code word so she makes non alcoholic drink but make customer think you are drinking alcohol.
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    Default Re: Returning to dancing sober after 7 month break.

    First of all, congratulations on your seven months of sobriety!

    Second, maybe it's not the best idea to go in at this time. The club is full of temptation, it's right there in your face. Consumers will want you to drink, peer pressure and all that. Also, you're living in sober housing, right? That's a good and supportive place (at least I hope it is) and you need the stability right now.

    I suggest you stay where you are and just focus on yourself and your sobriety right now. When it's been a year or so, find your own place and then you can go back if you feel like it still.

    Also, what I do is tell the waitress and bartender that I absolutely cannot do alcohol and they do little faux drinks for me. I never tell the costumers because they are jerks and want you to drink.

    Good luck!

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    Default Re: Returning to dancing sober after 7 month break.

    Is it possible to find another club that doesn't serve alcohol? My old "home club" was 18+ and juice bar.
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    Default Re: Returning to dancing sober after 7 month break.

    In Australia all our strip clubs serve alcohol. X

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    Default Re: Returning to dancing sober after 7 month break.

    if you are serious about your sobriety, i would ease into it very slowly or maybe find different work in the sex industry. as an ex addict, nothing is more triggering than seeing other people fucked up and it being practically shoved down your throat every time you sit with a guy.

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