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    Default Dancing in the same city you have a professional career in?

    Hi All,

    I'm considering dancing downtown in the same city where I currently work in as a finance analyst. Has anyone ever worked a vanilla job and at a strip club in the same city? Any advice on how to get over the nerves of running into someone?

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    Default Re: Dancing in the same city you have a professional career in?

    Wear a wig and make yourself look as different as possible.

    I don't worry about it too much; I'm usually so aware of things on the floor that I see people before they see me. When I have had people I know come in, I've seen them first, shaken my hair over my face and run up to the DJ booth to be taken off stages (your DJ may vary with this policy though). I even continue hustling (very carefully).
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    Default Re: Dancing in the same city you have a professional career in?

    I wouldn't do it. People seem to take a sick/perverse joy in meddling in other people's business. If someone thinks they recognize you they might keep coming back until they are sure. & Shaming that person might not work. (Often gossips like that are losers anyways.)

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    Default Re: Dancing in the same city you have a professional career in?

    You know your industry and co-workers/network far better than we do to evaluate the risk.

    I've been dancing and maintaining a professional career in the same city for the past 2-3 years with zero problems. However, I work in a sector and network with people who are not strip clubbers, and my co-workers (middle-aged women) are even less likely to show up in the club. If, however, I worked in the public sector, especially in a downtown office, I would absolutely not dance in this city because the majority of the clientele are men who work downtown for the government. There are a few other sectors in my city that I'd avoid dancing while working in for similar reasons.

    Of course, how active you are outside your office (networking, training, conferences, etc.) and how big your city is also play a role. If you work in a small office with no strip clubbing types and aren't active in the field otherwise, you're probably less likely to get caught.

    You also need to evaluate what the possible repercussions are if someone were to find out and weigh whether they're worth risking. There are definitely ways to can minimize the risk, namely by making yourself look as different as possible, but sometimes, it's just not worth it.

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    Default Re: Dancing in the same city you have a professional career in?

    I've been doing this on/off for about two years. When I started I had been laid off, got new vanilla work at a non-profit and while I could feed myself it was pretty miserable. The three managers above me were women and if anyone from my day job had come in I didn't think it'd be great but I also didn't think it would be the end of the world. I also am soooo plain jane IRL that I think I look nearly unrecognizable w/ my makeup done (although I've been told now that's not the case). These days my immediate manager and co-worker are men and I get a little worried about it. I would wear a wig if I weren't on a medication that makes my skin too sensitive for the adhesive. My brain tells me I should stop but I just love the cash flow too much.

    My biggest issue is always the scheduling. I am old now and when I have to work until 2am and can't get to sleep until 4am or later (which sometimes happens depending on the club and if I have to park far away) and then wake up at 7am again I am toasted for the rest of the week at least. I think my area is one of the worst w/ a 3 days minimum though so maybe you won't have that issue.
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    Default Re: Dancing in the same city you have a professional career in?

    I unfortunately do and it sucks cause I have to live a double life and it's hard.

    Exactly what SelinaM says....

    I work swing shift so I can see exactly whose coming in and see them before they see me. I've seen at least 5 people I know but they didn't see me (or I don't think they did) and was able to get out of stage rotation and avoided them till they left. The average person stays about an hour or so.

    Also in my eyes if they do anything besides watch the show, like buy dances and what not then they are just as "guilty" so send your favorite dancers over to hustle them hard.

    You will also have to keep a very small circle. The less people you are cool with the less likely they would know you or out you to a mutual friend.

    Don't tell the other dancers, they could blab your secret if they are the vengeful type.

    Also do your shopping online or on off hours when the average person is on their 9-5 job so you lessen the likelihood of running into club customers.

    And make sure your real life self looks as different as possible as your stripper self.
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    Default Re: Dancing in the same city you have a professional career in?

    By the way, recently in pop culture it's seen as less taboo to hit up a strip club, so don't count on shame to keep a blabbermouth quiet.

    I've dealt with a lot of harassment at my last job b/c a bunch of fat retarded women found out I was an ex-dancer & it was too much to take. In some workplaces the "inner monkey" comes out of people when they get a hold of info like that.

    I agree with the poster who said only you know your job field well enough to guess whether the risk is worth it.

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    Default Re: Dancing in the same city you have a professional career in?

    I've thought about this several times with my new job.My first club I had a coworker from my vanilla job come in. He tipped me,said hi and never brought it up at work. after a while he started showing up once a week.I think that was Luck anyone else would have told everyone.
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    NO! Dont do it! I always try to work in different towns from where I live. I've even worked at places an hour away from me, and it was SO worth it! I never had to worry about people I knew coming in, and when there was drama at my work, I didnt have to deal with it when I left because I lived an hour away from it. So I could really get away from it all and seperate my work life from my personal life. When you work too close to home, you constantly have to be on guard with trying to hide things and avoid seeing people at work, or seeing customers and people from your work when you're not working, etc. Its so stressful! And with your respectable vanilla job, you have a lot to lose! It'd be so awkward to have a customer come into your day job and say "hey didnt I get a lapdance from you at the strip club last night?" Look for a club in other nearby towns, you'll be happy you did.

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    Default Re: Dancing in the same city you have a professional career in?

    The answer to this question is, to some degree, contingent upon the type of 'professional' career. If it is something that requires a state professional license, there is a significant risk that you can be cited for 'unprofessional conduct' by the state professional licensing agency. That in turn can result in the state professional licensing agency informing present and future employers of your work in the 'sex' industry.

    This happened to me ( I have a Respiratory Therapist's license ) as the result of receiving a 1099 from a fairly well known strip club. Apparently, one state in which I held a professional license cross-checked license holders against state income tax records. However, in the case of 'dancing close to home', being recognized on a strip club stage by a business 'rival', a high profile straight job client, etc. could potentially produce the same result.

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    Default Re: Dancing in the same city you have a professional career in?

    I wouldn't do it.

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    Default Re: Dancing in the same city you have a professional career in?

    Id recommend working at least 60-90 minutes away from where your day job is... At least initially.
    Driving an hour and working a shorter shift to make up for that time may ease your mind.

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    Default Re: Dancing in the same city you have a professional career in?

    So not worth it. I literally drive (well drove) 3.5hr to work. I've never been recognized even though I've run into a handful of people who live in the town I'm commuting from. It's a long drive but my privacy is worth it and the town did not require a dancers license. Other than that I've always gone long distances to work to maintain my privacy. People say they won't judge but they do and I would hate all my education to go to waste. I'm actually changing clubs to be closer to my home base and even that is a 2hr drive away.

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    Default Re: Dancing in the same city you have a professional career in?

    I've actually danced at a club that was probably a block away from my old vanilla job. Lol I didn't run into any problems or see people I worked with.


    Edit: I'd like to add that I understand the concerns. I was just lucky that nobody I worked with ever came in my club! I currently dance in a different city than my current day job, but the risk is still there since the two cities are 25 miles away. Lol I figure I'd just change up my look at the club and deny it if it ever came up at the day job.

    But who's really going to be all, "hey! I saw you at the strip club last night?!" That makes them just as guilty as you! Lol
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    I feel ya. I'm still considering working in a few clubs about an hr & a half away from me so I don't get recognized or fucked with OTC. I hate ppl who meddle in your buisness. I'm a private person & thanks to my scumbag ex bf who blabbed to everyone he knew that I worked at a certain bikini bar in downtown right next to his bar hangout. Ugh I had all sorts of ppl looking for me (by my stage name) just to see what I looked like. So embarrassing & annoying.
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