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    I've been dancing a little while now, and the dancing itself seems to go fine, but I am absolutely the worst at small talk. I usually have a more relaxed hustle - introduce myself, talk a bit before bringing up a dance, and even talking to the guy for a minute after I'm done dancing (if I like him). I tried to hustle harder on my last shift by speeding up introductions and then saying, "let's go dance," and it resulted in some of the most awkward interactions I've ever had. So I figure the nice girl hustle works better for me, at least for now. But I have NO IDEA what to talk about with these guys after the basics are covered, and it results in kind of a lull. What do you guys talk about to keep customers interested?

    This especially becomes a problem in VIP. In my club, we don't get a cut of the VIP fee, so we generally just charge per dance or come up with our own rate for 30 minutes/1 hour. Are you expected to dance the entire time back there? Because that is exhausting. But talking to the same customer for 30 minutes straight can be pretty tiring too.

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    I just ask them questions about themselves. They do all the talking, I smile and nod.

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    Default Re: Advice for an introvert?

    Have you read thru Hustle Hut at all? There are a lot of threads there discussing how to hustle even as an introvert. Lotsa introverts on this board.

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    yeah I'm a true introvert and I am personally okay with listening to the customer and not doing a whole lot of talking myself. I just look cute, smile, nod and let my body do the talking. Lol! I will however ask for what I want like when it comes time to ask for dances / vip cause it's rare the guy likes to ask for dances.
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    Honestly, getting my boobs done made stripping as an extreme introvert 1000x easier. I am also very fair skinned, tattooed, and I tend to look serious/frowny by default--all of this works against me, especially in my city. Getting really good boobs suddenly endeared me to customers that were normally put off my by semi-alternative look and quiet nature. The only group of customers I really seemed to alienate myself from with this choice was East Asian businessmen. Having larger, good looking breasts just makes you more in demand with the party crowd, and you're able to lap hop. It may seem tiring going from person to person, but I felt like they just took less of me than the ones who wanted to talk and get to know me.

    If that's not an option, I found that I made the best money when I really found something to connect with someone on. I'd ask weird questions to try to figure out their personalities. I once talked with a guy about what he would do if he woke up tomorrow and was the only person left on the planet. Weird shit like that can lead them to talking about anything from a zombie apocalypse to space travel to music to food. For whatever reason, a lot of men who go to strip clubs love when they have some "deep" conversation with a stripper, even if it's worse than a budding screenwriter's first attempt at philosophical dialogue ironically juxtaposed with a trashy, lust-filled location...

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    Best advice to overcome an introverted nature is alcohol, haha, but aside from that...

    The trick is to find common ground with a customer. Hit them with questions until you are able to find their passion or some common interest. Then coax them into monologuing about it. It is basic psychology for someone to feel a sudden affinity for you when you are interested in what they like and are willing to listen to them. Once the dam breaks and they are yammering away just smile and nod and stare at their eyes with coy glances to their mouth. You control them now.

    Hustle Hut has some really great conversation suggestions. Hustling is sort of like casual interviewing. It's mock dating. Once they're in VIP fill them with some champagne and keep bringing back the topics they liked. Some men will get so distracted with it they will spend the entire time talking and thus buy even more time!

    Being an intelligent woman who is up to date on current events is always useful too.

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    I pretend I am not very good at speaking English and use an accent, and I act all happy and just keeping talking. If whatever I say doesn't make sense, it doesn't make me as self conscious because the customers just chalk it up to me not speaking english :p

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    When making a sale, just talk about sexy things....Their favorite position, porn, shopping for sexy panties or just make shit up about making out with a hot girl at a party. (I have several completely fictional sexy stories that I've told so many times I don't even have to think about them anymore.) You can do this in an innocent kind of way, but the trick is to just get them horny and close the sale. In VIP if they want to talk just ask them questions like you would on a first date. Think of yourself as an actress and fake it til you make it!

    I am extremely introverted to the point that I hate leaving my house and refuse to talk on the phone. If I can do it, anyone can. It's a skill that can be learned like anything else.

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    Try to look like a stereotypical stripper, be fit, make up and hair looking good, flattering outfit etc, then you generally don't have to talk as much.

    And please don't waste too much time talking with guys for free, don't sit for long unless you're in VIP.

    General advice on conversation:
    Ask open-ended questions to get him talking and give you some valuable info on his interests, not yes or no questions that he will answer quickly without giving you much to go on. Answer any of his questions short and sweet and let him do the talking. In general don't ask too much about his job or his relationships, unless he really wants to talk about that, ask more about how he likes to spend his free time, what are his interests and hobbies? Act really interested in whatever hobby he has even if it's completely boring, if you share an interest it's much easier to keep the conversation going though. Relate to what he says in a positive way, agree with him, flatter him and point out what you have in common (or invent things you have in common, for example if he likes super heroes - you dressed as Catwoman last Halloween).

    Whenever it's possible say something sexy.

    Adapt to his pace and style of talking, if he talks slow - talk slow, if he talks fast - talk fast. Same if he's loud or quiet, adapt.

    Don't be too far away from him during the conversation, have some body contact, a hand on his arm or whatever, if you have a sexy comment lean in close when you say it, draw attention to your body once in a while by fixing your top, playing with your hair, "accidentally" drop something and pick it up while showing off your ass etc.

    When it comes to closing the sale - whatever the topic try to bring up something sexy about it because then the jump to closing the sale will not be as difficult. For example if you talk about traveling mention how you love to go to warm places and lie on the beach naked, that sort of thing. Bring the subject to naked bodies, sexy fantasies and fun. Then close.

    Be flirty and confident. If you don't feel confident pretend you are.

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    This's a Great thread! I don't have much to add, other than I pay rapt attention, hanging on every word..


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    Quote Originally Posted by Likethis View Post
    And please don't waste too much time talking with guys for free, don't sit for long unless you're in VIP.
    yah this. There's some girls who sit with the customer for like 10+ minutes, some of them finally take the guy to VIP but a lot of them leave with nothing but time wasted. idk about anyone else but usually I am able to guess whether or not the guy will buy from me within 1-2 songs. The ones who buy will be more polite, actually LOOK at you, but if the guy looks more at the stage than you and constantly says dumb shit like "i wanna fuk u" and generally be grabby and nasty, they're the type who wants to touch you for free and unwilling to pay. But that's IME. I don't know how other girls handle and smoothtalk these assholes into the VIP but I am learning.


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    Ive always been bad at conversation, so i joke and laugh about it. When things get awkward i'll start to giggle, and they normally look confused and i just go on telling them how i need to get out of the house more because its funny how bad i am at talking to people. 9/10 times it works and they buy dances.

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    I find asking questions gets them talking. In life in general I think people like talking about themselves. Once you have your customer in a dance with you, don't worry about making too much conversation. You don't have to be in some amazing deep conversation with every customer. Once you hustled them, got the money, then just do the dance and don't feel pressured to talk. On a busy night, my energy goes into getting the customer into dance, then I generally say nothing while I dance (just smile).. Sometimes I might start up some ditsy sexy convo towards the end to try and get them to extend the dance. But really, while I'm dancing I don't need to talk. I occasionally say things like 'oh I really love this song' if I feel like I need to talk.
    With the VIP dances, if you feel like you don't want to dance the whole time ask the customer 'how has your night been? what did you do today? Do you go out much? What do you think about (some random topic)?' Perhaps avoid personal questions like 'where do you work?' With that one, I would ask a much more general question like 'what industry are you in?'. Just like how I get shitty if customers asks me a bunch of personal questions, they might feel interragated if we a lot of specific questions. Best to keep it general. ��

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    Quote Originally Posted by rosemead View Post
    I pretend I am not very good at speaking English and use an accent, and I act all happy and just keeping talking. If whatever I say doesn't make sense, it doesn't make me as self conscious because the customers just chalk it up to me not speaking english :p

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    LMAO oh wow I've been faking a ukranian accent now for years & boy does it work! :p I mix up my verbs & basically use broken russian english . saves me form having to chat with them too much. Goes great with my fake blonde wig & DD push up bra :p
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    Thanks for the advice! I've been working on applying it for the last few weeks. I'm definitely getting better at moving the conversation to sexy topics. I've got to work on my foreign accents! Haha! A lot of my customers don't speak great English anyway, so I guess that works. I'm definitely not staying with guys for too long because it drives me crazy when different girls sit with the same old guy and he never buys any dances because every girl sits with him for such a long time. I'll keep working on it. And I'm at a 34D right now, so I don't know if getting boobs done would be worth it or not...
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    Oh, and rum is my best friend at work. It does wonders.
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    Planning, planning, planning!

    Spend a few hours one day making up a few interesting stories - one can be funnier, one can be sexier or geared towards fantasy, etc. You can use something from a fanfiction story on the internet, or something from your own life - it doesn't matter - just practice telling the stories as if they were your own. Then, when the conversation dulls down, you can revive it with something from your repertoire. If you get the details down, it doesn't even matter if you tell the same story to the same customer twice by mistake.

    Obviously this is mostly geared towards a club where you are not constantly sitting with regulars, but this tends to work for me. It makes me feel confident in what I have to say (you can tweak your delivery based on customer reactions along the way), and less like I'm accidentally going to slip up or divulge something personal.

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    ^^ Experienced this last night with a guy who just wanted to talk dirty and ask me about all the sexual stuff I've done. I made up some stuff on the spot, but not all of it was smooth. I will definitely have some planned stories ready for next time!
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    I say I do (xyz fetish) porn. I'll say stuff like "ooh I love getting to fuck other hot girls" , anything to get them in the mood bc that's when they spend. I agree with making up stories as you go but it has to mirror what they say. Like for example, custy says he has a boat in Hawaii, I then say Oh no way, my dad has one in Florida in Biscayne Harbor, he doesn't really but you get the idea.
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