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    What do you tell people when camming? I tell them the truth... i am married. I got tired of people asking me if i was single or not.. found it super hard to dodge them wanting to date me.. it got super super annoying for me.
    I got married and told them .. and to this day i still tell them i am married.

    One of my regs knows im getting back into camming and said it's going to be harder for me to get big tippers or sugar daddies because i am married. Is this true?
    I don't see the big deal. I can still be a fantasy right? I mean do these mean actually think most of us are single? Are they oblivious?

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    I think you will do fine. Most of the time when I'm asked about my relationship, the next thing they say is "Oh, he's lucky. Can you get your boyfriend to do couple shows?" I think the subset of men who are turned on by unavailable woman or just don't care is far larger than the subset who want the GFE and insist on the girl appearing to be single. Plus, there are all sorts of fantasies and roleplays that rely on winning over or being rejected by a married woman. Your reg doesn't speak for all men. Wishing you the best

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    I am in a long term relationship, but I tell them I am single.
    Reading these posts I might have done better just saying I was taken - at least maybe I would have avoided a lot of the meeting requests!
    Got so used to saying I am single now though, haha!

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    A reg of mine knew I was married- he asked me to be his mistress (he could afford it) so I don't know that it stops them asking really...
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    I tell them the truth, that I'm engaged...one guy accused me of lying though, I don't know why!

    A lot of guys love the idea of having a fling with a taken woman...no ties sex and they've tempted you away from another man.
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    I tell them the truth, which almost always ends up sparking conversations, which I don't mind. I'm polyamorous and currently am in two significant open relationships, with one girl and one guy, separately. So I generally flirtatiously say "I'm not single, but technically I'm available..." and then explain further if someone asks. Most guys admit they're too insecure or possessive to handle a non-monogamous dynamic anyway, so it actually weeds out quite a few people. I'm also just super open and honest about my life (leaving sensitive details out, obviously), because taking on a cam persona with a bunch of fake details feels like way too much effort for me to keep up with.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SweetieBitch View Post
    I tell them the truth, which almost always ends up sparking conversations, which I don't mind. I'm polyamorous and currently am in two significant open relationships, with one girl and one guy, separately. So I generally flirtatiously say "I'm not single, but technically I'm available..." and then explain further if someone asks. Most guys admit they're too insecure or possessive to handle a non-monogamous dynamic anyway, so it actually weeds out quite a few people. I'm also just super open and honest about my life (leaving sensitive details out, obviously), because taking on a cam persona with a bunch of fake details feels like way too much effort for me to keep up with.
    Yes, the trouble with lying is always that you have to remember what you lied about I agree - you can always find your audience regardless of being single or taken.
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    Usually I say I'm single, except to a couple of my regulars.

    I'm in a LTR.

    I don't really think it matters what you tell them. Some guys will enjoy the idea of 'stealing you' or 'fucking another man's girl', and some guys will like the idea that you're 'available', and the vast majority don't give a shit either way lol.

    I just like to lie my ass off on cam. I lie about sexual exploits, home situation, location, life history, everything. It keeps it depersonalized and separate for me.
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    Married. But if they act all disappointed I remind them your chances went from zero to none regardless. Also do blame my husband for marrying me?





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    I have been single for 15 yrs straight!...LOL.. 13 of them on cam.. and the only guys you get who care if you are single or not are the ones NOT spending money. So it's more aggravating than being taken if you ask me.

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    Fail to see why it is any of their biz.... do you ask them such personal questions? Do you care if they are married or not? Guess, what neither do they in real life. If they wanted a real life sex, relationship or date then they can go out in real life & get those things...

    Remember they write the same bs to EVERY cam girl, seeing if their lame ass game is working. You don't owe them any kind of explanation or answer. Of course, it is up to you to share as much or as little as you want, but don't think these guys are seriously inquiring.

    Hell, most of them just copy & paste the same crap all day long. I know, I've seen guys do it in my room & in others. Sometimes they come back to mine & paste the same bs over again. Why fret over the answer when really they don't give a fuck about it.

    To me, none of their biz either way. Has nothing to do with going private & them getting off.

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    You know, I thought about it for a bit and I can't think of a single guy who actually converted into a decent, paying show after demanding to know this about me. Sure, I've had a handful of guys take me private for 1-2 minutes in an effort to 'convince' me to meet with them, but that's about it.

    Usually, if I tell them I'm single, they just want to meet, fuck, get married, etc., etc., and feel entitled to this because of a White Knight complex and/or a 'She-Must-Be-Desperate' belief.

    When I tell them I'm taken, they either leave my chat room (because they wouldn't dare steal another man's 'property'), start spewing about how lucky my guy is, or use some variant of 'if he were so great, you wouldn't be doing this shit job!'

    I mean, really, we're just not asking the right question here. If a guy asks you 'single or taken bb?' then you shouldn't be debating what answer to give him. You should be asking if he's worth the time and energy of trying to convert a sale versus outright banning him for being a freeloader who's more than a little out of touch with reality.

    But hey, that's just me and I think everyone on this forum knows my opinion of 99.9% of straight men, lol.


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    Yeah, a lot of them assume we're all single. I actually *want* them to know that I'm married because it cuts down on the annoying meet up requests and creepers who overstep their boundaries. Honestly, I've never had or wanted a sugar daddy and I don't try to catch "whales" because they've always been WAY more trouble than they're worth for me.

    I can maaaaybe see that being "single" would be preferable on a site like MFC, especially if you're hustling the GFE angle. But on Streamate it doesn't seem to matter. I tend to attract lots of cuckolds and people who like roleplays that involve a married woman, but most guys don't even notice or care about the ring on my finger.


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    I looove telling guys about my bf who takes me on exotic trips. FUCK them. Either they feel their egos deflate because all they have is their sad cocks in their hands or they are turned on because they are a cuck. I love it either way.

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    I tell them I'm single and haven't been in a relationship in 3 years (true) and also haven't had sex for that amount of time. Works like a damn charm, everyone wants to be the guy to give the crazy hot, sex deprived single girl the orgasm of her dreams in the hope that she'll become attached and want to meet up later. I have developed regulars because of this hustle.

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    I have a boyfriend but tell them I'm married just because it gets rid of the guys who expect me to fuck them in real life. I just don't have time for that nonsense...and explaining my relationship isn't something I feel obligated to do. I also don't tell them where I'm from...my personal life is none of their business. I make it very clear I'm not there to "get to know them", those types never last and quickly become more trouble than they're worth. I want shows, and I'm there to make money. Buy my service that I'm offering or gtfo.

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    I've been being honest and saying I'm married. It just felt wrong to me personally (not saying it is for anyone else) to deny my marriage.

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    Depends on who asked. I create different identities all the time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    Fail to see why it is any of their biz.... do you ask them such personal questions? Do you care if they are married or not? Guess, what neither do they in real life. If they wanted a real life sex, relationship or date then they can go out in real life & get those things...

    Remember they write the same bs to EVERY cam girl, seeing if their lame ass game is working. You don't owe them any kind of explanation or answer. Of course, it is up to you to share as much or as little as you want, but don't think these guys are seriously inquiring.

    Hell, most of them just copy & paste the same crap all day long. I know, I've seen guys do it in my room & in others. Sometimes they come back to mine & paste the same bs over again. Why fret over the answer when really they don't give a fuck about it.
    All of this. I've seen guys do the same as well.

    For me I'm currently single. What I tell customers really depends. Sometimes I'll tell them I'm single, sometimes I'll tell them I have a boyfriend(usually when I do cuckold shows), and sometimes I'll tell them that I only discuss personal details in private. I don't take these guys seriously anymore, to me its all fantasy and I try to work whatever angle I feel will get me a private/$$$.

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    I'm married but started out in December telling them I was single. The persona I chose was that of a horny party girl who liked one night stands and wild adventures. When they asked for meet ups, I gave them the very straight forward answer that 'for my safety, I have a policy not to meet anyone from the site'. Most of them are good with that and the ones that aren't fuck off pretty quick. The last month or so, though, I've been 'introducing' my no longer being single by saying I've hooked up with a Dom (which my husband is). They love it and want to hear all the stories about how he's been trying to 'keep me in line'. Plus the collar I've taken to wearing is bringing in to clients, so it's benefited me fairly well.







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