I would really like some other perspectives on this. I'm trying to work through it myself and can't seem to stop running in circles.
I've been in a serious relationship for a year in a half, the first nine months were beautiful, the last nine months have been a struggle with moments of bliss that keep us going. How do you gauge when you are simply fighting because you're scared of quitting, and when you're fighting because you truly believe is can work, and can be great? That is honestly where I'm at. We spend much more time at odds with each other, than we do happy with each other.
He has his fair share of issues (egocentric, dominant to a fault, over emotional, etc.), but of course I'm not without mine (selfish, controlling in an OCD type of way, also over emotional), we have been working to "figure out how to be with each other" for so long now, and I can't for the life of me figure out if we are simply in love with the idea of what our future looks like in our minds, or if we actually love each other as we are.
I know these are all "million dollar questions", but I would just like to read some other perspectives and experiences. I really don't like sharing intimate details of my relationships with friends or family, so that leaves this medium.
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