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    Default How has camming effected your life in general.

    I hate to say it but I think camming has changed me.

    It's not in a bad way.
    I'm more obsessive over my appearance, I have more confidence, and I have completely changed my look.

    It has made me more sceptical of people.
    It's weird.

    Have you noticed any changes in yourself?

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    Default Re: How has camming effected your life in general.

    Oh definitely. In both good and bad ways.

    I am not a person that is prone to balance in life, so basically its exacerbated the following:

    1) I now pretty much NEVER leave the house unless absolutely necessary
    2) I have even less of a social life since I feel every minute spent away from the cam is money lost
    3) Every decision I make appearance wise I think about how much money I will make/lose if I do it (stuff like hair and nails etc)
    4) I have become an unrepentant workaholic because money, right?
    5) No relationships whatsoever. In fact I think the next time I will go hunting is when I have retired from camming.

    There are however very very many positive things that it has done and I do love it for these reasons:

    1) I have become way more knowledgeable about technology (I still struggle with a few things but its so much better now)
    2) I take NO SHIT from anyone anywhere. I never used to be assertive, now "GTFO" is my favourite sentence
    3) I am so much better at doing makeup!
    4) I am working towards financial stability. When I was a normal salaried person I thought I would be poor forever
    5) I have found the LOA which makes my daily life so very much easier than I ever thought it could be
    6) I never thought I would find the job that is literally PERFECT for me and my personality. Always thought I would have to be unhappy
    7) Gained total body acceptance due to camming. It's very hard to hate yourself when men pay hundreds of dollars to you because of the way you look as you are.

    So those are my things....haha bit of an essay that, but I honestly feel that camming, due to its nature does a lot more good for a person than harm. If I ever was a parent and had a child that wanted to do it, I would let them with my complete blessing because its literally brought so many overwhelmingly positive things into my life that I never thought would be possible that it would be criminal to deny someone else that experience.

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    Default Re: How has camming effected your life in general.

    Oh yeah, camming's changed me a lot. I used to struggle with pretty bad anxiety and an inferiority complex due to having been "different" and alienated my entire life. I never fit in or was happy with the daily grind, never found a career that I felt I could do well (super high standards for myself, thanks childhood beauty pageant bullshit! ).. basically never belonged anywhere. But I DID have an overabundance of sexual appetite and a preoccupation with sexuality in general (thanks, disgusting child abuse! ) which made my romantic relationships very intense and slightly unhealthy.

    Enter camming. I have a healthy, productive place to focus all that mixed up sexual energy, a safe place to discover and express myself in situations where I control 100% of the interaction and can opt out or deny anyone anything at any time for no reason at all. Camming is part therapy for me. I'm also much more confident in general thanks to the whole financial independence thing and knowing that I'm good at what I do.

    The only negative I can think of is that part about it affecting my decision making when it comes to doing stuff with my looks. I prefer to keep my crotch nicely trimmed, for example, but the majority of my customers love BUSH and not in a political sense. Hey, it's a small price to pay for total career fulfillment.
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    I've been camming for 12 years now I use to think that I wasn't loyal and unable to keep a job. but then I realize that was the outside world not what I am doing when IA m home and log on and make deposits happen into my bank account.

    What has changed is my mind set of knowing I am valuable and able to make a living in the most amazing resources.
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    Default Re: How has camming effected your life in general.

    The thing everyone seems to agree on that camming changes in so many people is self acceptance and self esteem.
    Camming helped me with that so much.

    I worry that it has made care way too much about money some times.

    A real positive in my opinion is that it has made me far more accepting of people.

    I do hermit way too much now days. I don't even want to hang out with my friends because they always want to know about my work details...

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    Default Re: How has camming effected your life in general.

    Quote Originally Posted by Violet_Z View Post
    The thing everyone seems to agree on that camming changes in so many people is self acceptance and self esteem.
    Camming helped me with that so much.

    I worry that it has made care way too much about money some times.

    A real positive in my opinion is that it has made me far more accepting of people.

    I do hermit way too much now days. I don't even want to hang out with my friends because they always want to know about my work details...
    Absolutely agree. The girls in my family are all pretty thin, so being larger has always been difficult for me. After camming for a few months, though, I really do love my body for the first time in ages. Its a great feeling.

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    Default Re: How has camming effected your life in general.

    Knowing that pretty much everything is a fetish, and having made money from video clips of me blowing my nose and clipping my toenails, has definitely changed the way I look at just about everything. Now whenever I blow my nose or get a case of the hiccups without a camera nearby, I see invisible dollar bills floating away.

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    In general I'm the same bitchy cunt I've been since before cam, Ive been working independent contracting jobs since I was 14 so that balance between work and life I mastered ages ago. It hasn't changed me in anyway honestly but the shit that I've learnt from it has.
    I haven't stopped camming but I've started a new business with friends and because of camming I have real marketable skills that transitions way past clapping my ass till some guy in Australia busts a nut.

    Social media marketing
    I can build a website, coding is actually super fun for me.
    I know what a LLC is, oddly enough not a lot of people do, and I know how to obtain 2
    Basic accounting, excel, etc. I had to learn all that crap for school but I never thought I would use it, in fact I thought the classes were a waste of time until I started split camming and receiving gift goods and I need a way to account for every thing in formats that suits me as a person. The education I got from school but the practical application 60% camming.
    I discovered the wonderful world of Swiss banks with increasing interest saving accounts
    I can build a computer as I catch up on old eps of love and hip hop.
    I can do HD camera makeup to perfection and keep it that way for 8 hr under hot ass lights.


    While society and some cam models don't deem this job as acceptable or your life is ruined because as a cam model your cant go anywhere but... I never really read the rest to know where my life will go but I don't think its up,lol. But their wrong, I have skills that a lot of people can not offer and I got this all from a job the will "ruin " my life. I could actually be running my own fortune 500 empire, I just have to wait for the camming edition to hit the stands to know for a fact.
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    Default Re: How has camming effected your life in general.

    The Good: Flexibility of schedule has been fucking awesome since I have a severe sleep disorder and I'm juggling my vanilla life (which can be pretty hectic), so camming is just what I need in that sense. I'm much less anxious now. I love analyzing people, and sex work opens you up to a whole new world of sexual psychology! Despite bad experiences, it's been comforting that 95% of cam clients are genuine motherfuckers. Like even if they're just okay as clients, I've had very little full-on disrespect or anything super negative like that. I guess it's given me more confidence that most guys (and people in general) are probably not bad people/abusive/misogynistic. I feel like my work ethic has grown stronger being self-employed and I've gained a lot of control over my life. On top of that I find most of it genuinely enjoyable, or at least not unpleasant. I've been able to explore parts of my sexuality that I've never been able to before, and that has been awesome at times.

    The Bad: I hate living in secrecy or semi-secrecy. I'm not exactly 'out'. I hate lying to my family but really don't know how to tell them. That is a really shit way to live sometimes. The inconsistency can be super scary. So is the gap in my resume... which really isn't bad cause of vanilla employment, but it still doesn't explain everything.

    The Neutral/Mixed Bag: I both love and hate not having coworkers. I'm extroverted but on the introverted side (if you catch my meaning) and can usually deal with working in solitude but at times it can be a little lonely/isolating. I work by myself at my vanilla job too. At the same time, I fucking HATE coworker drama, which isn't typical in every workplace but at some places I've worked, it's rife with it. It's negatively affected my sexual appetite, which has always been pretty healthy/high, but I'm also in a relationship with someone who prefers sex 2-4x a week versus my usual preference of 5-6; while the gap isn't damning, it also saves me a fair amount of frustration. Other than that it hasn't really affected my relationship at all. It kind of enables me to live a weirdly scheduled life when I think I really benefit from routine a lot of the time. That said, it's also taught me a lot of time management skills, even if it's atypical.

    Overall I'd say it's a net positive, though with good times and bad of course. I'm not really thinking of quitting until the industry declines to the point where it's not worth it, or find a career path or get sick of the whole thing.
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    Camming was literally the answer to everything I was searching for. Corny but true. It has made me feel secure about money, which i never was before despite being at the top of my game in a corporate environment. i always felt pressured and like I wanted to quit every day. I hate being tied down to a job, having to get up early, having to deal with other people and their shot all the damn time. having to be fake constantly makes me ill. Camming/ adult industry in general has given me freedom from all that

    I'm also much better at keeping secrets. Once upon a time if anyone mentioned anything to do with something I do or am interested in, I couldn't help but take over the conversation. Now I can listen, observe, and not say a word. It's pretty amazing the secrets that come out of other people this way. Just the other night someone I have known for a long time as a friend of a friend confessed to me that they were a 'Dominatrix' (said in giggled, hushed tones!) and make money from "bossing men aorund". "Oh really?" I said, "what an interesting job"... while smiling to myself on the inside and not saying a word about my own job!

    Quote Originally Posted by Tsani View Post
    Knowing that pretty much everything is a fetish, and having made money from video clips of me blowing my nose and clipping my toenails, has definitely changed the way I look at just about everything. Now whenever I blow my nose or get a case of the hiccups without a camera nearby, I see invisible dollar bills floating away.
    Haha this ^^ On the plus side my other half and I have such twisted senses of humour now. We have our little giggle every time we see something that would make a great clip or could be seen in a fetish/ adult light!

    **Just reminded myself how fucking great this job is. I need to get on more!
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    Camming was the best thing to ever happen to me!! I dropped out of college, I always hated the idea of working a 9-5, I was a freelance DJ for 5 years while pursuing music, barely getting by, living in my hometown desparately wanting to get out. Couldn't hold a 9-5 job at minimum wage because I hated working constantly, it drained me and left me no energy to put into my art. Camming allowed me to get up and move across the country at the drop of a dime, to one of the most expensive cities to live in the country, with plenty of extra money and extra time to hone my craft. But I think the biggest thing camming has done for me is that it gave me SO much more confidence! It has honestly changed me so much for the better. I'm so much more comfortable and open with my sexuality now, whereas being slut shamed my whole life I always felt very ashamed of it. I've also always been a pushover and a people-pleaser, and all those domme shows have made me quite the opposite! Especially being a female in the music biz, this trait has already helped me a ton. I've also become much more fashionable and better at doing makeup and being more "girly." I've always been a tomboy, and I do still express that side of myself, but I used to always look like such a slob! lol. Overall I'm just way more comfortable in my own shoes, and in the past year I feel like I've really found myself. It's even reflected so much in my music and in my art. I'm so thankful to be able to do what I do. A little over a year ago I couldn't even afford the roof over my head. Sometimes when I'm shopping or paying bills or something I stop and am just in awe and so grateful for everything camming has done for me.

    As someone who is somewhat-known as a DJ and an artist in an underground community I did have to meditate on the fact that people were going to find out. Once I came to terms with it, I decided it was best to just be open about what I do. I obviously don't shout it from the rooftops or anything, but deciding to not have any shame about it was actually extremely liberating. I've even had a couple of fans/friends in the scene discover me on my site and do shows with me, LOL. So, even though this sort of turned out to be a positive factor for me, I suppose it could hurt me in the long run, but at the same time I don't have anywhere near a goodie two-shoes reputation, lmao. I feel like most people that have found out or will find out are just like, "oh, that makes sense." LOL. Old friends back home have even jokingly asked me when I'm going to get into porn now that I pretty much live in the porn capital of the country and I'm like "uhhh yeah about that..." hahaha.

    I've also always been really into kink, but never really had any partners that were as into it as me. I've loved being able to explore that side of myself and even learn new things about my sexuality I hadn't even discovered yet! I've also gotten way better at giving blowjobs and talking dirty ... and being good in bed in general lol.

    There are negatives of course, the main ones for me being that I'm already kind of a hermit and it's gotten so much worse! Second is that it really kills my sex drive. Then just general annoyances with having to deal with stupid boys thinking with their dicks instead of their brains. But these are sooo miniscule in comparison to everything that camming does for me.

    So yeah basically ... camming rocks!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by bbcakezxo View Post
    Camming was the best thing to ever happen to me!! I dropped out of college, I always hated the idea of working a 9-5, I was a freelance DJ for 5 years while pursuing music, barely getting by, living in my hometown desparately wanting to get out. Couldn't hold a 9-5 job at minimum wage because I hated working constantly, it drained me and left me no energy to put into my art. Camming allowed me to get up and move across the country at the drop of a dime, to one of the most expensive cities to live in the country, with plenty of extra money and extra time to hone my craft. But I think the biggest thing camming has done for me is that it gave me SO much more confidence! It has honestly changed me so much for the better. I'm so much more comfortable and open with my sexuality now, whereas being slut shamed my whole life I always felt very ashamed of it. I've also always been a pushover and a people-pleaser, and all those domme shows have made me quite the opposite! Especially being a female in the music biz, this trait has already helped me a ton. I've also become much more fashionable and better at doing makeup and being more "girly." I've always been a tomboy, and I do still express that side of myself, but I used to always look like such a slob! lol. Overall I'm just way more comfortable in my own shoes, and in the past year I feel like I've really found myself. It's even reflected so much in my music and in my art. I'm so thankful to be able to do what I do. A little over a year ago I couldn't even afford the roof over my head. Sometimes when I'm shopping or paying bills or something I stop and am just in awe and so grateful for everything camming has done for me.

    As someone who is somewhat-known as a DJ and an artist in an underground community I did have to meditate on the fact that people were going to find out. Once I came to terms with it, I decided it was best to just be open about what I do. I obviously don't shout it from the rooftops or anything, but deciding to not have any shame about it was actually extremely liberating. I've even had a couple of fans/friends in the scene discover me on my site and do shows with me, LOL. So, even though this sort of turned out to be a positive factor for me, I suppose it could hurt me in the long run, but at the same time I don't have anywhere near a goodie two-shoes reputation, lmao. I feel like most people that have found out or will find out are just like, "oh, that makes sense." LOL. Old friends back home have even jokingly asked me when I'm going to get into porn now that I pretty much live in the porn capital of the country and I'm like "uhhh yeah about that..." hahaha.

    I've also always been really into kink, but never really had any partners that were as into it as me. I've loved being able to explore that side of myself and even learn new things about my sexuality I hadn't even discovered yet! I've also gotten way better at giving blowjobs and talking dirty ... and being good in bed in general lol.

    There are negatives of course, the main ones for me being that I'm already kind of a hermit and it's gotten so much worse! Second is that it really kills my sex drive. Then just general annoyances with having to deal with stupid boys thinking with their dicks instead of their brains. But these are sooo miniscule in comparison to everything that camming does for me.

    So yeah basically ... camming rocks!!
    So true!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Violet_Z View Post
    The thing everyone seems to agree on that camming changes in so many people is self acceptance and self esteem.
    Camming helped me with that so much.

    I worry that it has made care way too much about money some times.

    A real positive in my opinion is that it has made me far more accepting of people.

    I do hermit way too much now days. I don't even want to hang out with my friends because they always want to know about my work details...
    I TOTALLY agree with you about being more accepting of people. And I think in turn that has made me more accepting of myself. Which is an awesome feeling.

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    Default Re: How has camming effected your life in general.

    I am still very new to camming (with a full time vanilla job) so I'll just say what little things have changed.

    I feel much more attractive and wanted. Men will pay LOTS of money just to see me.
    I feel more financially free. If I lose my regular job - I know I will still be ok.
    Its a great outlet for my sexuality.
    Unfortunately I do feel it may start impacting my social and romantic lives. We will see.

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    1. Camming has removed my filter, I no longer sugar coat anything anymore.
    2. I swear a lot more.
    3. I can dirty talk in my sleep and the other day my husband confirmed it with a phone vid.
    4. I have no more shame about bodily functions, about the shape of my body, about body hair etc. At the same time, I know exactly what angles I can use on camera to make my assets look bigger or smaller.
    5. I'm really good at taking flattering selfies without actually having to look at myself.
    6. My annoyance factor at seeing girls who have no ambition and who just want to marry a rich guy and not do shit all with their lives has gone through the roof <--which is kind of funny because cam modeling is pretty much that image.
    7. I now have a back up career in professional photography/videography and I plan to actually open up a boudoir studio someday.
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