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    Default Regular wants to see me otc

    So I have this regular who is awesome. He is my first and only regular for about 2 months now and spends a ton...a ton...on me when he comes see me about 3 times a week. We get along. He's old. He's an extremist (so he either goes all out or go home like if he comes to the club he's going to get 3 VIPs or nothing you know?) but is very very respectful and sweet just has a huge love of voyerism and making a girl happy.

    So so he always texts me and wants to see me out of the club. I have never done this or have a desire to. I have a BF. I play the busy card somehow for 2 months now but I feel like I can only keep this up for so long. He pays me so much I DO NOT want to lose him as a customer. I figured it was ok until last time he came in he was texting another girl (he knows all the girls there so this isn't strange) but let her know that he was here to see me. He asked if we could do a VIP with this girl. I didn't know her but VIPs with someone else is so much easier and I thought it could keep things fresh between my reg and I.

    this is when shit hit the fan. This girl and I had a great VIP. He loved it, it was easy for me. Esp to keep him in there. And then we hung out some and I walked him out. As I did the girl who I danced with ran up and said , ok then I'll see you Saturday! Tehe! And ran away. She set up a date with him while I was in the restroom. My reg told me they were hanging out Saturday and if I wanted to come I could but I had family in town...he said he'd miss me and we'll hang out soon and left.

    it gets worse.

    my friend overheard the girl I danced with telling another dancer cockily in the dressing room that she is going to steal my regular away from me because he has a ton of money and I don't deserve a regular like that."

    so so I know she's after him and is a sneaky bitch. Sucks. I could of said no to dancing with her but I didn't.

    Anyways now now I feel the pressure to see him out of the club to keep him as my reg. he just wants company and dinner and have someone go to work events with him to be his arm candy. Nothing more. He's made that clear

    what should I do?! It's stressing me out.

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    Default Re: Regular wants to see me otc

    Well, all regulars have an expiration date. So he's going to go away eventually, regardless of whether or not you compromise your own boundaries by agreeing to see him OTC or anything else. The goal is to keep getting money up until the point where they're no longer worth your time.

    If you don't want to do OTC, then don't. That's totally fine. The good news is that he's not the only loaded guy in the world. There are literally billions of potential new regulars out there.

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    I went through something similar. I met a really rich man, the first time I met him I did a VIP with another girl. He tipped us both very well and wanted to see us OTC. I never accept to meet a client OTC when I barely know him, but the other girl was saying wow he tips so well, didn't you see how good looking he was, I want him to be my sugar daddy, I'd see him OTC without even a doubt. I felt pressured, I am a very competitive person and knowing someone else had eyes on him I wanted to be the one who won him over.

    I was so happy when he came back several times to the club but only for me. Once he came on a night when me and that other girl were both working but only went to the VIP with me. I didn't want to lose that guy to another girl and agreed to OTC with him too early (after knowing him for a little over 2 months), it didn't go too well. I should have waited and made him chase me longer. I posted about him in "Hustling very wealthy men ".

    If he really likes you he'll come back for you even if the other girl agrees to OTC and you don't. Don't feel pressured to do something you don't want to just because someone else will. You might get more out of him in the long run by keeping him ITC. I have some regs I've known for years and been asked for OTC many many times, I never agreed and they still visit every week.

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    Default Re: Regular wants to see me otc

    sounds to me like he could be playing a mind fuck game


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    Never trust hoes at the club. Yes they get jealous seeing another man spending oodles of money on you and plot and scheme to get him away from you to spend money on her.

    And never trust regulars to be loyal.

    Ill never forget one broad on this forum said it best "I don't care if you have to sh*t or piss in your thong, never get up to leave your kill unattended" Lol! Kind of extreme but its true. Don't leave them with the other dancers or the good hustlers will get them spending money on them only. Not everybody is as kind as you are to share.

    And like whirlerz mentioned, some guys get a thrill out of seeing dancers / women fight over them. This then gives him leverage to get either one of you to do more for less as competitive nature between two or more dancers kicks in.

    If he becomes a headache or spends less money on you then you know what time it is.....always be looking for new wealthy regulars.
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    It honestly sounds like he is trying to make you jealous. Sometimes we underestimate our customers by believing that they are just stupid and thinking with their dicks, but sometimes they are trying to play us. Be cool, maintain your boundaries. Since that other girl is going out with him right away, she will not have him as a regular, as he has lost all incentive to come to the club for her. If they have a relationship, it will eventually run dry, and he will be back to see you.

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    Default Re: Regular wants to see me otc

    You shouldn't see him OTC anyways. He WILL stop spending b/c the act of treating him like a date means "she likes me!" Equals no more money.

    (This is not discussing dancers who pick up Sugar Daddies from the club, which is different. This guy is too valuable $$$ wise to slam the brakes on the money train that way. IF he can become a sugar daddy type guy, you should tell him that in the club. You don't need him becoming a pathetic stalker b/c a free date gave him false hope of an LTR with you.)

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    I wouldn't. He's coming back because you won't see him outside of the club. People love the chase and the fantasy. Actually seeing him will ruin it. Plus he'll stop being your regular eventually lol...

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    Default Re: Regular wants to see me otc

    You should only see him outside the club if you really want to and trust that you are going to be financially compensated either with money or gifts for doing this. Don't feel pressured because there is competition. She can meet up with him OTC and who knows what will happen with the financial situation of him paying her. So far, he's proven to be a loyal regular of yours. Keep doing what your doing, maybe make an extra effort to be really sweet and treat him really special when he comes to club- he will probably also feel obligated to keep spending time with you, regardless of this new girl thinking she is going to 'steal' him from you. Doesn't matter what she thinks, you just keep being amazing, stick to your boundaries. If you do meet up with him OTC you will change the dynamics of your already established relationship (which is that he visits you ISC and pays you lots of money). I don't think its worth the risk meeting him outside, he might put you in the friend zone or potential relationship zone, and then not pay you as much in VIP! Try not to stress about it, Ive had amazing regulars and they do come and go.

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    ^^ I agree. When you've been around long enough you will start to see the pattern - a guy comes in, spends a lot of money on a girl, it goes on for a little while, they finally decide to meet otc he either gets a lot or nothing either way the mystic is gone so is he for a couple months until he's back at the club again scouting for a new girl. Regulars come and go and the easiest way to keep them spending INSIDE the club is to not meet them otc. And remember, this business is a business where you can make all the rules, you're your own boss, you don't have to fall for no peer pressure. There are plenty walking wallets out there!

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    You're all amazing I decided not to see him otc and he came back to see my last week thanks for all your advice!

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    Yeah, usually when you start seeing someone OTC, the money stops flowing ITC.

    Good for you for keeping your boundaries solid. That's the best way to keep your power and your mojo intact!

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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    Never trust hoes at the club. Yes they get jealous seeing another man spending oodles of money on you and plot and scheme to get him away from you to spend money on her.

    And never trust regulars to be loyal.

    Ill never forget one broad on this forum said it best "I don't care if you have to sh*t or piss in your thong, never get up to leave your kill unattended" Lol! Kind of extreme but its true. Don't leave them with the other dancers or the good hustlers will get them spending money on them only. Not everybody is as kind as you are to share.

    And like whirlerz mentioned, some guys get a thrill out of seeing dancers / women fight over them. This then gives him leverage to get either one of you to do more for less as competitive nature between two or more dancers kicks in.

    If he becomes a headache or spends less money on you then you know what time it is.....always be looking for new wealthy regulars.
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    I LOVE that I was quoted on here..gives me the warm fuzzies.


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