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    How many of y'all have understanding husbands or boyfriends? And when did you tell them about the camming after meeting them ?

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    I do. Waited a long while, till it looked like I was pretty sure I would keep him

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    Default Re: How many of y'all have understanding husbands or boyfriends?

    My boyfriend is okay with it.
    It took me a long time to tell him, even though he already knew. The lights and camera in my room told on me...I just wouldn't ever admit to anything or tell him details until I was sure I was keeping him and that he wouldn't tell.

    Now the only time camming bothers him is when I won't stop talking about it.

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    My husband and I honestly can't remember which one of us came up with the idea of me being a camgirl. He is incredibly supportive, and agrees with me that this is truly the best job for my time, energy, and our schedule together as a couple. It's a great job to have in a relationship schedule-wise, because you can work alongside his schedule, and maximize time spent together.

    I do think it takes a certain level of maturity, and a certain kind of guy, who doesn't get jealous; we're non-monogamous to begin with, so he doesn't care that I do this, in order to make it work. It is not for everyone. The fact that we're not monogamous really is important here though. We both fuck others IRL, so perhaps jealousy of one's camgirl wife/GF would be inevitable in a monogamous relationship.

    That said, even if I wasn't a camgirl and looking for a relationship, I'd seek out a guy who would be ok with the idea of me camming, because that's ultimately the kind of guy I want to be with-- one who is that open-minded about sex.
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    I have someone who started as a fuck buddy but we both have a lot of feelings for each other and are basically in a relationship although not officially and our situation is very complicated because of other people. He recently told me he gets jealous about what I do. He said he's learnt to cope with it, but whenever I bring it up, he finds it hard. I told him i'll stop bringing it up. I do wonder if we end up being in a proper, monogamous relationship one day if he'll ask me to change careers for him, which I would never do. We'll see I suppose. It's actually really nice to hear so many of you have supportive partners, I hope i'll get there one day!

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    I was with my man for 11 years before I got into the Adult Entertainment biz (now been with him 16 years), and apart from a few initial - and natural - concerns, he's been absolutely 100% supportive and understanding. ZERO jealousy or even envy. He knows it's just all masculine *noise* that I don't pay any heed to.

    ALSO I have encouraged HIM to cam with ladies (and men, if he wanted to!) since I started camming, to fulfil certain fantasies and get some extra-marital kicks, so he does see this biz from both sides these days.

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    Mine knew before I started, we discovered it together and he is incredibly understanding. He even helps sometimes with marketing, editing clips, or being in them when i can persuade him. If you can find an understanding partner who's actually willing to work with you as well it can be a great set up
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    In a LTR. He was completely fine with it from the start, which happened after we started dating. No jealousy at all from him. I think he kinda likes that other people have to pay for my time and sexuality but between us it's freely given and reciprocated. He helps me with anything I need from tech support to freeing up cam spaces and so on and so forth. He never I dunno... Treats me like my job is any less serious or respectable than his and he loves hearing my wacky stories. He also understands why I can't always swing work 8 hours/day 4x a week when trying to balance it with my physical sexual and emotional well-being.
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    Quote Originally Posted by sexysusie View Post
    Mine knew before I started, we discovered it together and he is incredibly understanding. He even helps sometimes with marketing, editing clips, or being in them when i can persuade him. If you can find an understanding partner who's actually willing to work with you as well it can be a great set up
    Oh yeah, I wish my fella was more 'brave' in that respect. He has done some hand-only POV clips with me, but he's very shy about any other part of his body being on cam. I'm going to try to think up some good clip plots and try to encourage him again.

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    MY fiance is very understanding. He used to try to get me to go on omgchat with him as exhibitionists. I told him if people paid me I would do it and then he told me all about camgirls lol. It took me about a year though to actually start. He loves that he gets to do it with me too occasionally.

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    My partner is very supportive of me, although he was initially not quite so "ok" with the idea of other guys seeing me naked and me actually playing with myself for them after some reassurances and explanations he came around. We've been together in a LDR for a long time and we actually met because we both did sexting and pso work for a site, but that's different. He knows that although I enjoy my main work, I don't actually play or get off when I'm on calls and that's our deal. I don't get sexual gratification from that cause that's his job and I really love and respect that. I'm proud that he's possessive of me, but reasonable and understanding at the same time. I think it fucked with his head when I started camming though. He realized quickly that I'd definitely have to actually touch myself and he didn't think I'd be able to fake orgasms while people watch. Proved him wrong there but even still, he got over it and honestly is really the sweetest and most open minded man ever.

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    My girlfriend is a perfect angel of supportiveness, but she's always worried about the effect freechat idiots have on my general sense of wellbeing. So she's always on my case to take lots of time off - possibly more than I can really afford.

    That said, she was exactly the same about my office jobs if she thought they were damaging.

    I was doing other kinds of sex work when we met (pro-domming & fetish porn), so she went into the relationship with her eyes open.


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    My husband has always been supportive since day 1. He's my biggest cheerleader. I love him. I'm gonna go kiss him now.





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    I've been engaged since October. My fiance actually was with me, when I was thinking about doing it. I was 2 months pregnant at the time. I think there were some issues with him being jealous first, but now he's staying at home with our beautiful daughter while I cam full time. He helps me make clips now.

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    His response was "you can make money from that?" followed by "god damnit, I wish I was female". And then he started camming too.

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    I am married, I have never had anyone supportive of me just the money dancing or camming and tons in the past have gone out on others and their rent tattoos etc. Me? Had nothing to show for it other than I could be independent inbetween. But now

    I have my husband, he cooks every meal, handles the kids, cleans the house and has spent many nights painting things pink for my setup. I offered to work and switch things I didn't feel forced or used as a stepping stone. And it works. Heck he even runs to the adult store to get me things as I need them for shows. The lady gets a kick out of making him feel the toys because she knows that is the only thing that weird him out. Lol

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    My husband and I have been together since I was 16, I became a stripper at 18 and he was totally cool with it. Then came camming, which he was supportive of. At this stage I'm confident nothing I could do for work would upset him. He understands it is work and he enjoys the flexibility and freedom sex work allows me.

    Some of my friends in the industry date the most horrible, insecure guys who usually end up being abusive and constantly shame them for their work and try to force them to quit. It's fucked up and makes me really appreciate having someone who has my back, regardless of my career.

    I remember having hard nights at the club and being so relieved to be going home to a guy with a good heart who would cuddle me and make me feel better.

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    My primary partner knows, any other longer-term partners I have usually know. Between them and my roommate - a gay dude, who is way more chill with the idea of me squirting and screaming 20 feet away than any others I can think of - I have the best support system ever. I have a long time friend who came out to me as a H addict not long ago so we've also swapped stories that only the other would be comfy being told as well.

    When I talk about work, it's usually either a sort of stream of consciousness discussing figures or ridiculous lag/uncomfortable fetish (race/rapeplay and such) problems. That or my love of my regs, because I like to try and remember they're not just wallets. They're human beings. With wallets. Both of which I love.

    My roommate asked me the other day if I'd want to retire from being on the front end and move towards being an admin, running the sites. I said hell to the NO. I might move further and further indy, but most of the fun I have from this job is figuring out what works, what doesn't, and putting a monetary value to compare how I do when I'm gushy or faking or etc. Where else can we do that? As my friend with the addiction said, it's like I have experience enough for 20 separate jobs.

    In fact, as literally ALL my friends are male, I've gotten a few "wish I could do that, but I'm not comfy enough with my body". Explained that if you're okay with men jacking it to you, you'll feel like (even more of) a God.

    Support systems are important. If you're a professional, no matter what job you do, the good ones will respect your job. If not, they're toxic anyways. Great filtration system.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Luna66 View Post
    I have someone who started as a fuck buddy but we both have a lot of feelings for each other and are basically in a relationship although not officially and our situation is very complicated because of other people. He recently told me he gets jealous about what I do. He said he's learnt to cope with it, but whenever I bring it up, he finds it hard. I told him i'll stop bringing it up. I do wonder if we end up being in a proper, monogamous relationship one day if he'll ask me to change careers for him, which I would never do. We'll see I suppose. It's actually really nice to hear so many of you have supportive partners, I hope i'll get there one day!
    1) You're not having sex with these folks.
    2) They might see a blurry, 2D pic of you magnifying the degree of connection you feel with them. You're connecting with this guy on the most intimate physical and emotional level.
    All this to mean that I don't know that not bringing it up is the best solution. If you ever do have a long-term thing with him, it might work for now but it'll make it that much harder later. Make it clear that it is your WORK, and as with any job, you do your best to have a positive relationship with it (i.e, having fun while working, getting along with the people you work with, etc).

    My primary has been in the room once or twice while I was actually working, just out of curiosity. Had to kick him out because it was ruining my groove, but it wouldn't hurt to do one of the following that we've done:
    - He pops into FC to talk to me. We haven't talked about it, but I think it actually helps because he can subconsciously realize that I'm a certain kind of alter ego on cam. I bring out the sides of my personality that make me the most money, and having so much of your interaction be defined by money means that you're not having anywhere near the kind of intimacy that your guy might be jealous of.
    - We've filmed a couple clips - both vanilla and fetish (tickling, for example, was hilarious - so was making the ghettoest home-made GoPro evarr) which have not yet and probably won't hit the net. He gets a sense of how much you're thinking $$$ rather than the creepy 50 year old dude who hasn't left his basement in 2 years and jacking it to a clip of you sneezing. It's a job and he'll get to experience your thought process.

    **This goes for any of y'all with partners that want to be supportive but are having difficulty with jealousy. My primary and I went from monogamy to polyamory after 2 years, so I've got a lot of experience with this. Sometimes the best thing is not to continue talking about it after you've hit a wall. Before they get a complex about it, demonstrate the point you want to make by involving them.


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    My bf has been supportive since the day he met me, THANK GOD. He doesn't get jealous, but I do think he might lurk my room to make sure everything is cool...which is awkward lol

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    My primary partner knows since I started because we were already together,the secondary knows from the first week we met because I was never ashamed of what I do so I told him. Both are cool with it.They dont have a lot of knowledge about this work because none of them wanted to get involved in any way and I like it that way because it is my job and I like to keep things separate .

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    My husband was fine with my go at stripping and was open to me being a "masseuse" as long as it was hands only, so camming was actually a step down in terms of personal involvement. I don't think I would have tried it before meeting someone so supportive, though. I wouldn't have wanted to go it alone. I really respect the brave girls who take on this work living alone.
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    I started this after I was married and while he knows of course, he doesn't like it at all. We have separate houses so I agreed not to cam in his home. That does effect my potential earnings a lot though because I'm there about 4 days a week.

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    I met my fiancé while I was doing massages. He was ok with that but didn't want any details. I am moving away from massages and heading more into webcamming. He has been very supportive. He let me take over the 2nd bedroom. He is understanding of me sleeping at strange times and not going out at times so that I can cam.

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    It started as kind of a joke for me since almost immediately after getting married, my hubs and I fell on hard times. But the more I thought about it, the more it made sense for me, so I did and bunch of research, started signing up for sites, buying equipment etc, and was honest about my goings on with him from the start. He is super supportive and says that as long as he can watch my videos for free, he doesn't care who pays for it! And our sex life has never been hotter, especially with the large influx of toys and outfits!

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