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    Sad It's raining so hard.

    I volunteered at an hospice in 2012, loved it so much I worked hard to get CNA/HHA and worked in shitty nursing homes to get the experience to come back as an employee which is now in 2015.

    I have worked in the hospice for 5 months now. I thought I made a friend and thought she was amazing and told her everything about my life....everything. Things started going south, why am I getting in trouble for everything? This girl texts me to come in and see a patient on my time off because she is imminent and the family would love it. The family did love it but I got in trouble for crossing boundaries. I didn't say to the supervisor that she told me to because I naively believed maybe she didn't know either even though she has been her 8 years.

    I am great at what I do, the families and patients love me but nurses and other aides started to hate me for my playful spirit. I am now basically ostracized from everyone and I hide in rooms and cry because I am the doormat little bitch that lets them all walk over me. I stood up for myself and gotten yelled down for it. I won't be that doormat any more though.

    I am am keeping my mouth shut and eyes forward but I am breaking down crying so much.


    to top it off. DCF was called by the emergency room because my teenage son had a emotional breakdown and was suicidal. He did come home that night but even though he and the whole family denies abuse the dr still called dcf because my very tall son has stretch marks that are horizontal on his back from a major growth spurt.

    i am terrified of this one girl coming after me because I told management the truth and I am scared of losing my son over stretch marks. I am hating my life because everyone is being so mean at work and I don't want to be that pussy that hides and cries it all out.


    I want want to hide and go back to just full time camming. Atleast then I can tell every asshole to fuck off. I really do love hospice philosophy though and wish there was more than just the one in my county.

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    Default Re: It's raining so hard.

    I wish I had more advice but I don't. I'm so sorry though Those other employees are probably just bitter and hate their jobs, so they resent that anybody could be enjoying it. Don't let them get you down. I'm sure the patients and their families are delighted to see someone that still has some spark left.
    "People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."

    "You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave."

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    Take a break from Hospice. People are capable of amazing cruelty b/c they are either weak or just nasty-crazy. I am thanking my lucky stars that one of my nasty loser co-workers is leaving my workplace in a few days.....she dumps all her negativity on people at work instead of fixing her problems. There are lots of weak people like that in the world.

    I've noticed once you ignore bullies at work or start giving them a taste of their own cruelty, they often shut the f*ck up. Aside from that, buddy up to a superior & look for a chance to dick one of those people over. They often suspect others of thinking the way they do (manipulative and brown-nosy) so if you appear to be doing that they will often lay off.....to avoid you "dropping the other shoe."

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    Thank you! That really does help **hug**

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    Quote Originally Posted by Evaluv View Post
    I thought I made a friend and thought she was amazing and told her everything about my life....everything. Things started going south, why am I getting in trouble for everything?
    Is this person you're talking about a coworker or is it a patient?

    Unfortunately backstabbing is so common in healthcare especially in nursing services. You just don't know who to trust, and people who are seemingly nice to you and seem like they'll help you out can go around and stab you in the back.

    Every unit in a facility has it's own culture and if you're new or if your coworkers are obviously miserable working there, they will go to the unit manager or supervisor for every little thing they can find. Sometimes the managers are also just shit or are bullies and the floor is poorly run. You'll see a lot of obviously burned out workers, but they can't do anything else or can't leave the field so they're stuck there and have to be bitter to everyone else.

    Some units are just like that and are really toxic environments. I understand you want to defend yourself, but sometimes you just have to leave for your own mental sanity. I'm not familiar with hospice setup or how big your facility is. If you can pick up hours on another floor to avoid your old unit I highly suggest this, because you'll know the system already like documentation stuff, but you can go to another floor and no one will know you and they'll usually leave you alone. If the place is too small that is indeed unfortunate.

    I always notice there's always the one bad floor that sucks and no one likes to work there, and I've worked in several other floors and the environment would be totally different and the people would be better. Also sometimes its just the whole place that sucks when it's run by corporate with high turnover or are all about profits.

    I've been there many times and I'm experiencing this right now on my current floor. So far it's been hell on earth, not so much the work but the kind of people I have the misfortune to work with. I know other floors are not as bad so I'm waiting for a transfer, and I've also been talking to another place that sounds like they'll hire me and they're actually going to pay me more. I see no issue with running away from a unit or floor because you don't need to put up with that kind of crap, maybe I just have a low tolerance. Maybe management should consider cleaning up the floor if they can't keep people.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Starling View Post
    Is this person you're talking about a coworker or is it a patient?

    Unfortunately backstabbing is so common in healthcare especially in nursing services. You just don't know who to trust, and people who are seemingly nice to you and seem like they'll help you out can go around and stab you in the back.

    Every unit in a facility has it's own culture and if you're new or if your coworkers are obviously miserable working there, they will go to the unit manager or supervisor for every little thing they can find. Sometimes the managers are also just shit or are bullies and the floor is poorly run. You'll see a lot of obviously burned out workers, but they can't do anything else or can't leave the field so they're stuck there and have to be bitter to everyone else.

    Some units are just like that and are really toxic environments. I understand you want to defend yourself, but sometimes you just have to leave for your own mental sanity. I'm not familiar with hospice setup or how big your facility is. If you can pick up hours on another floor to avoid your old unit I highly suggest this, because you'll know the system already like documentation stuff, but you can go to another floor and no one will know you and they'll usually leave you alone. If the place is too small that is indeed unfortunate.

    I always notice there's always the one bad floor that sucks and no one likes to work there, and I've worked in several other floors and the environment would be totally different and the people would be better. Also sometimes its just the whole place that sucks when it's run by corporate with high turnover or are all about profits.

    I've been there many times and I'm experiencing this right now on my current floor. So far it's been hell on earth, not so much the work but the kind of people I have the misfortune to work with. I know other floors are not as bad so I'm waiting for a transfer, and I've also been talking to another place that sounds like they'll hire me and they're actually going to pay me more. I see no issue with running away from a unit or floor because you don't need to put up with that kind of crap, maybe I just have a low tolerance. Maybe management should consider cleaning up the floor if they can't keep people.

    It is such a toxic unit and it is small, I hope maybe I can transfer to another facility or maybe go to patients homes instead. I am so freaked out over it all and being ostracized is so horrible.

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    Yeah I wouldn't feel bad about leaving that place if I were you. You know what happens when they're short. It's so amazing how some directors, unit managers and supervisors will look for any little thing to write people up for, and then they turn around and beg for people to come in when they're short on weekends, holidays, etc. They ask for so much and would rather work you to death and give little to no thanks in return.

    If there is a sister facility and all the documentation and the system is the same, call HR or the scheduler and tell them you want to pick up hours there instead. Usually they let you, but it depends on the company.

    My friend who is doing home health says that people from the hospitals and nursing homes flock to home/community health for that reason, just because those environments can be awful to work in. And the way things are going, things are changing toward that direction so hopefully there will be a lot of job opportunities for you.

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    Wow. When you mentioned that you go to another room to cry totally reminded me of how I was when I first started my day job! I was the new hire (as were the others at the time), but I was so hated and disrespected due to me being younger and lacking the experience that they had. They had 20+ years on me, so they shoved me on the phones, and acted as though I'm just some dumb young girl. I would sneak in the bathroom and just cry. I too didn't want to be "that girl," but sometimes those emotions just get built up. It's hard working with people who resent you. What I did was just stop caring. I stopped caring what they thought of me, and I stopped trying to get along with them. They would bitch about being so busy, and I would constantly offer to help, but they turned me down every time. I just eventually said, "fuck you. Fuck this." I understand that your situation is different, but our situations are similar due to the fact that we have toxic coworkers.

    All I can say is to try and ignore them (I know, easier said than done), and if it gets bad enough, look for a new job. You seem to love the industry you're in, so a new work environment may do you well. For me, my experience here (and my experience at the last office I worked in) totally burned me out in my industry. If you liove what you do, do not let them ruin it for you and look for somewhere else to work. Life is too short, and you spend so much of your life at work. Do you really want to be miserable at your job every day? You may love what you do, but if your coworkers are making it so bad that you have to sneak off and cry about it, it's just not worth it. :/

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