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    So I am a super introverted type person.When I am infront of the cam all I want to do is just sit there. I do smile,lick my lips,play with my shirt some/ show off my body. I don't put audio on because idk how to strike a convo with anyone really and its just seems strange to me with it on due to idk what to say .But I do type back when someone wants to talk to me. I was camming for 4 months or so. then I stopped due to depression and anxiety. I couldn't make myself get out of bed and do anything. But I really want to try and do this so I can work from home. any ideas on what I can do in front of the cam?I know I do need to get out of my shell though lol.

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    Talking is essential in any sales job. Read books on self-confidence, books on how to do sales. Anything written by Zig Ziglar

    "How to win friends & influence people" by Dale Carnegie should be the first book you read. It is the bible for any successful business person in the world. If you can't afford to buy them online or at book store, many are free at the library. Don't like reading then rent on line "books on tape", it is well worth the investment.

    Next book "The Secret" or watch the movie of it. All of these cost less than $20 or even $10 each if you can't find it for free, in which you will make back in the first hour on cam when put into practice.

    Sales skills can be learned. Read up on how to flirt.

    Camming is a straight up commission based sales job, only you are the product. Every sales book will tell you in the end what you are selling is YOU! Personality, charm, charisma.

    There are many free acting groups & classes, pretend how to be someone else. Take an improv class, I did years ago, before even camming. Best thing I ever did. None in your area, I am sure there are youtube videos on how to act & improv.

    Lighten up. What you think, gets put out into the world & comes right back to you. Positivity, hope, fun, laughter & sexy works on cam. Desparate, scared, anxiety DON"T. Men don't spend money for those things, but the haters on cam will do it to fuck you up. Don't let them win.

    Every top actor or sales person, takes classes, seminars,read books on sales, coaching, self improvement, motivation on a regular basis for their entire career. Are you? None of them focus on the negative, but work on themselves constantly to be better at their jobs & life. Most importantly you got to love yourself. Soon, you will figure out those emotions you are feeling now, are a waste of time.

    Why waste time on things that don't make you happy, feel loved or make you money? Instead of dwelling your problems or issues, read a book to work on getting rid of them. Write 5 things a day you are grateful for and another about what you like about yourself. Come up with new ones everyday. 5 to 10 minutes a day isn't much to ask for yourself.


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    FYI Apparently there is an Extroverted Happy fun person inside of you dying to get out otherwise you would not have chosen this job.

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    I'm one the most introverted ppl lol.. I hate socializing! But on cam for some reason I can connect....and I actually care to be social.. In my personal life it's not that I really have problems socializing but I just don't care for it.. I guess I enjoy my own company a little too much which can be a good thing because some ppl can't stand to be without friends and family. I think You need to find your alter ego/ disaccosiate from who you are in real life. Now some ppl might disagree and say to be yourself.. And I am just a different part of me. Try different things maybe play up the shy thing and turn on your audio!!
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    I can understand your dilemma somewhat. I'm a very introverted person too, however I have been working in customer service for more than 5 years so I learned how to fake it long before I decided to start camming. The good thing about camming versus a regular job though is that you have way more control over your work environment, hours etc. I struggle with mental illness too and I've learned that if I'm having a bad mental health day, I should not log on. Now I'm not talking about a little bit of anxiety before getting on cam- that you can push through. But if you're feeling seriously depressed, or the thought of getting on cam is giving you an anxiety attack, it's not worth it. It's going to show on cam, you're probably not going to make much and then you'll just feel even worse. Take care of yourself and make sure when you get on cam you are feeling relaxed yet energetic and confident. Do what you need to make that happen- for me, I have a medical marijuana card for my mental illness so I will usually smoke a little about an hour before I log on, then get ready and dance around while blasting some upbeat music. By the time I'm all dressed I'm usually ready to go

    Now here's the big question: are you getting any help for your depression and anxiety? Are you in therapy, on meds, in any support groups? If not, I think it would be a good idea for you to look into it. The ONLY way that I am able to handle camming at this time is because I've been on antidepressants for 5 months and I'm in an intensive therapy program. If I had tried to do this job before I was actively working on my mental illness I'm sure I would have given up within the first week. Talking to your primary doctor would be a great first step if you're not currently getting help.

    And then as far as striking up conversations.. just say hi to people, ask what they are up to, if they say they just got off work ask them about their job, talk about where they're from/where you're from (of course you can be vague or make up a fake location), talk about your day, find ANYTHING that you might have in common with them to get the conversation rolling, act really interested in whatever they have to say (IF they are paying customers or seem like good potential customers, of course) and remember the whole time that it's all about the $$$. One thing I still struggle with is figuring out what to say when people in my room are just sitting there silently and not responding when I try to engage them... that's awkward as fuck, and something I'm still working on, so hopefully I can get some good ideas from this thread as well.

    Anyway sorry for the long post, hope any of that was helpful

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    I am very introverted myself & i just came to the point where i understand it's all on me for not making what i wanna make on cam & not like i was thinking until now that is the others who affect my ability to succeed. Having a wake up call here, i got to watch some videos on youtube (teal swan is amazing) where it explains these things very well & it hit home to me on a very personal level.

    My problem is, when i started camming many years ago i was working private based site(s) where only people who joined paid videochat were able to see me in an intimate situation & i was comfortable with that, pleasing a guy at a time. When free chat came up i could not just work it with same success cause i knew i was watched by many people & am not comfortable with this due to my introvert personality. More of, when gold shows were introduced on SM for me things got worse cause GS's require even more hustle which i am not comfy or able working it. That's why i could never dance or model even if i had the looks.

    So i put the blame on changing industry & all thinking that's the reason i cant keep up with how the business change but in fact it's me, i cant do it, i cant perform knowing there are many people watching me, people i am not aware of (the invisible guests on SM for example), i always think there might be somebody that knows me & watches me in an 'indecent' posture.
    This barrier will never go away in my case cause i am introverted & shy when it comes to intimacy so i'll say this job is not the right one for me now, before when no free chat available i could handle it better but not now, i mean i can still do it in the way it feels ok to me & can still make money in private/ exclusive but i cant hustle my room like others do, cant please the crowds.

    I too wish to know if there are cases when an introvert switches to extrovert, if it's even possible, after eventually sorting out personal issues? Because in my case it's rejection & confidence issues, i am not afraid to admit these things because they part of me as a person & cam girl. I too wanna find answers

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    Quote Originally Posted by KatM View Post
    I am very introverted myself & i just came to the point where i understand it's all on me for not making what i wanna make on cam & not like i was thinking until now that is the others who affect my ability to succeed. Having a wake up call here, i got to watch some videos on youtube (teal swan is amazing) where it explains these things very well & it hit home to me on a very personal level.

    My problem is, when i started camming many years ago i was working private based site(s) where only people who joined paid videochat were able to see me in an intimate situation & i was comfortable with that, pleasing a guy at a time. When free chat came up i could not just work it with same success cause i knew i was watched by many people & am not comfortable with this due to my introvert personality. More of, when gold shows were introduced on SM for me things got worse cause GS's require even more hustle which i am not comfy or able working it. That's why i could never dance or model even if i had the looks.

    So i put the blame on changing industry & all thinking that's the reason i cant keep up with how the business change but in fact it's me, i cant do it, i cant perform knowing there are many people watching me, people i am not aware of (the invisible guests on SM for example), i always think there might be somebody that knows me & watches me in an 'indecent' posture.
    This barrier will never go away in my case cause i am introverted & shy when it comes to intimacy so i'll say this job is not the right one for me now, before when no free chat available i could handle it better but not now, i mean i can still do it in the way it feels ok to me & can still make money in private/ exclusive but i cant hustle my room like others do, cant please the crowds.

    I too wish to know if there are cases when an introvert switches to extrovert, if it's even possible, after eventually sorting out personal issues? Because in my case it's rejection & confidence issues, i am not afraid to admit these things because they part of me as a person & cam girl. I too wanna find answers
    Change your mindset, it isn't about all the guys in the room. You only need one to take you private or exclusive. Don't try to talk to all of them at once, but pretend they are just one guy. No need to be intimate in free chat. One need to seduce one guy into clicking that button, instead of waiting around in the old days for a show to come in. Now, you make get the chance to make them come in.

    Doesn't matter if there is one guy in free chat or 1000, only need ONE to click that button. I don't care how many people are in my free chat, only need ONE! Cause when one guy bites, others will join in or wait till you get back in free chat to be that ONE for you.

    Greet that one as if you are the only girl who can make him cum so hard that he can't get enough of you & comes back for more. Every guy who logs on wants to be the guy who you light up for & brings him pleasure When you say "hi, so happy you are here, can't wait to play with you. Make you cum harder than you ever came before". They all think you are talking to ONLY Them-ONE!

    Once you make money off of that One, you move onto the next One. If there are 4 to 10 guys in paid chat, he just One to me. He is the ONE who just can't get enough of me & will pay whatever it takes for my attention.

    Hope that helps.

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    Thank you soo much Sam, ur input is highly appreciated & valuable to me, u explain things soo well, that's what i & others need here, TO UNDERSTAND how & why & u have the communication skills to not just throw a statement but explain the statement.

    This is the only way i can work my room actually, i work classic chat, i talk to each of them individually (i type, i dont talk cause when i do, for some reason they leave my room, they either dont like my accent or voice, cant tell). Everyone feels special in my company & i am happy for this & i do a great job i must say, they rate me good & give nice comments, i am a 5 star model & i put up a great performance, work my niche pretty well & have success with it, was just the frustration of not understanding myself, why i cant do this or that like some others can?! So i looked for external reasons but then looking inside myself i found the answers, with the help of people like you here, related videos on youtube & support of other cam girls in the groups i am part of.

    I can say now that even i consciously found the answers that fit me in order to cope with the situation, my subconscious knew the pure truth, it was something else that bothered me, i just needed guidance from knowledgeable people to understand these all.

    To the original poster now, i am able to tell u now that for introverts is more difficult to find their ways on cam than for people who are the opposite, extroverts. Also, no matter how smart, knowledgeable or educated you are, there are things u might not know about urself & u need professional help to get to the source of problems & sort things out within urself. I wish u good luck in finding ur ways camming


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    I am an introvert who became an extrovert. Now I love, being an extrovert. We all have both sides in all of us. We all play different roles with different people in different situations. No one is strictly one thing, you just tell yourself that you are. By facing each fear a little bit at a time instead of letting it consume you builds character & confidence.

    "Nothing ventured, nothing gained" Even in failure we learn great lessons that lead to success. Anxiety is fear of failing, there is no such thing. Winners try over & over again until they win. Riding a bike is scary until you fall & get back up & try again until you get it. Soon you are riding, sailing along with out worrying at all about it. Cause muscle memory takes over and you don't think about how to balance, peddle or use the handle bar brakes. You do it all with muscle memory. Flirting can be learned.

    What you put out in the world comes back to you. Read "the Secret" If you think there is no money & can't hustle in free chat then you won't. I think, "it my money in their pockets, not theirs & they are going to give it all to me."

    I get to say the most outrageous things, exactly what I an thinking & they love it. When you worry about what other's think of you, you are actually making yourself out to be way more important than you are. You are worrying about what other people think for about 2 seconds before they move onto the next thing on their mind. Not going to let what another person for 2 seconds thinks to run my life. My life & income vastly improved once I did that.

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    Very true indeed Sam, i am into LOA & have read/ watched "The secret" & lots of related videos. I am happy for u turning into an extrovert. What i wish to add is, we are not born extrovert or introvert, we become one of these because the life experiences we have during our life's journey. To switch from intro to extrovert takes lots of practice, support, healing, a complete change in mind set & this is not going to happen over night, it's a long process, i am happy u succeeded, working on it myself & i wish for the others to find their ways as well. Hugs!
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    Just for fun, say the most outrageous nonsense in free chat. "Puddin pop, pop goes the weasel, tie a yellow ribbon around the tree, I like tea." See what happens... That will wake them up & start a convo.

    "Men are simple. They want two things, a beer & to see something naked. Now, if that something naked brings them a beer even better" Jeff Foxworthy. These guys are just horny men, if they are quite & don't type, it is because they are shy too.

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    I also used to be somewhat of an introvert but I found that it was because of depression and anxiety that encouraged introverted tendencies. When I'm consistently happy, I'm a total extrovert. Mood plays a big part in how you act. It doesn't mean that introverts are sad people. I just think mood/overall outlook on life will play a big part in how you act in certain situations that make it seem like you are an introvert/extrovert.
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    I am also introverted. In CB and Cam4 I dont act as an introvert as the crowd there wants a lively interaction type of shows. On streamate and flirt I act shy and introverted. And I think I attrack introverted people too and they also pay good somedays better

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    I'm a massive introvert and I find that knowing sales and a bit of human psychology, some sexual biology, etc really helps. There is an extrovert-mode to everyone where you can give the illusion of being the "shy but fun girlfriend" or the "party girl" or the "bored uni girl looking for guys" or whatever you like. Practise with video or in front of a mirror. Don't try and copy anyone, just imagine you're really comfortable with someone and talk and refine it and hone it.

    You will be fucking exhausted after a day of keeping your energy up. But hopefully you'll make enough in a day that you can have the next day off and veg out watching anime and eating chicken (or whatever suits you personally).
    I don't mind talking so much as being spoken to. And I don't mind being spoken to all that much, when the one speaking has a brain.

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    Haha...I don't think so. I just do it for the money

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    Talking is essential in any sales job. Read books on self-confidence, books on how to do sales. Anything written by Zig Ziglar

    "How to win friends & influence people" by Dale Carnegie should be the first book you read. It is the bible for any successful business person in the world. If you can't afford to buy them online or at book store, many are free at the library. Don't like reading then rent on line "books on tape", it is well worth the investment.

    Next book "The Secret" or watch the movie of it. All of these cost less than $20 or even $10 each if you can't find it for free, in which you will make back in the first hour on cam when put into practice.

    Sales skills can be learned. Read up on how to flirt.

    Camming is a straight up commission based sales job, only you are the product. Every sales book will tell you in the end what you are selling is YOU! Personality, charm, charisma.

    There are many free acting groups & classes, pretend how to be someone else. Take an improv class, I did years ago, before even camming. Best thing I ever did. None in your area, I am sure there are youtube videos on how to act & improv.

    Lighten up. What you think, gets put out into the world & comes right back to you. Positivity, hope, fun, laughter & sexy works on cam. Desparate, scared, anxiety DON"T. Men don't spend money for those things, but the haters on cam will do it to fuck you up. Don't let them win.

    Every top actor or sales person, takes classes, seminars,read books on sales, coaching, self improvement, motivation on a regular basis for their entire career. Are you? None of them focus on the negative, but work on themselves constantly to be better at their jobs & life. Most importantly you got to love yourself. Soon, you will figure out those emotions you are feeling now, are a waste of time.

    Why waste time on things that don't make you happy, feel loved or make you money? Instead of dwelling your problems or issues, read a book to work on getting rid of them. Write 5 things a day you are grateful for and another about what you like about yourself. Come up with new ones everyday. 5 to 10 minutes a day isn't much to ask for yourself.


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