Recently my mother has come to live with me because her ex-husband kicked her out and he wants a divorce. Although I've been living in my apartment for 4 years and paying rent, the lease is under my mothers name. My mother has been sleeping on my couch for the past few weeks and insists that she can't help pay rent or any of the bills. This is the second time she has to sleep on my couch this year because her ex-husband kicked her out. I feel very used because while I'm out there shaking my ass for dollar bills, my mother is working at a minimum wage job and not contributing. My mother is older, but she's not ugly. She could very well be a sex worker if she wanted to. But instead I feel like she's living off of me. I know some people might think "oh she's your mother, she gave birth to you, you should help her out." However, she didn't raise me. I lived with my grandparents until I was 14. Finally when I moved in with my mother, things didn't go well to say the very least. She was very abusive and constantly put her "boyfriends" in front of me. So I have a lot of resentment towards her. Obviously I'm not happy that she's saying with my rent free and not contributing. Today she tipped the scale and made the snarkiest comment to me, "I see that you're using my purse, when are you giving it back to me?" She left her purse at my apartment after the first time her ex-husband kicked her out 8 months ago and didn't miss it until she saw me using it. She knew she had left some of her things at my place, but didn't bother picking it up, so it's not like she needed this purse. This is when I go off on her. I tell her that I'm going to cancel the cable because she's not helping out with the bills and I can't watch T.V. anyways because she's sleeping on my couch. Then I feel her that her that she can have her purse back and I'll take back the blankets and pillows she's sleeping on. She says ok fine and goes off to work. I feel bad for being so petty and taking away the things she needs (blankets and pillow) and the thing she loves (cable), but she is really pissing me off and I feel like I'm being used. I'm a strong believer in karma and what you put out into the world is what you get back, but at the same time I don't want her to think that she can just run all over me and expect me to take care of her. Ugh sorry for the rant, what should I do?



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