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    Default "I figured you were new because you talk a lot."

    I heard this from one customer and realized that some girls just go up to guys and start grinding on them to get them to dance. I tried this after he said that to me and it was a complete fail then again.. he says "My wife was an ex dancer so I know how the game is played." If your not going to buy dances then why are you here??
    I have had a lot of success with just talking up the customers. What works for you? I honestly don't make up personality's. My manager says that this is acting.. I am majoring in theatre and I find it easier to be myself.. apparently i'm the "nice stripper" I am very talkative but I feel as if I overwhelm some customers because they shew me away sometimes other then that if I can relate to it goes well.

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    Default Re: "I figured you were new because you talk a lot."

    Oh pfft, ignore guys like that. He just wants to feel like he's important and "knows the game". Give me a break.

    I talk a lot sometimes, but I also put on a dumb blonde act and it's usually just dumb shit that makes them laugh. It depends what you're talking about. Most men do not like smart strippers. Then again, I have a few regulars who pay me to talk to them because they like that I'm educated and well spoken. It's a matter of picking your customers correctly, I guess.
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    Default Re: "I figured you were new because you talk a lot."

    That guy sounds like a cheap douche that probably wouldn't spend anyways but there's some truth to it. Try not to talk longer than 5 minutes or so. If the conversation is really flowing "I would love to keep spending time with you but I need to make $$. Let's go to VIP so we can have more privacy." Don't ever let them think they can have your attention for free! I'm trying to help a new girl at my club with this issue right now. I did the same when I started....talked to guys for free who I knew had no money...kept talking to guys even after they rejected dances....No! Train them that they have to pay to play.

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    Default Re: "I figured you were new because you talk a lot."

    I do notice that new dancers tend to spend much more time talking on the floor than more seasoned hustlers, but I agree with the other ladies that this customer is a waste of time.

    As soon as a customer starts analyzing the hustle or otherwise presenting it as 'him vs. the other customers' where he knows better (usually because of a stripper girlfriend, though who knows how often that's just fantasy or that's what he called a dancer he regularly visited at the club) and "gets it," it's a red flag. He has no intention of spending, and over time, you will notice that they are not the only type of customer that go to the club without wanting to spend money on the dancers.

    As for the whole acting vs. being yourself debate… Well, I don't think of it as changing my personality so much as tailoring my approach, so maybe that frame of mind will help you too. As you've noticed, one approach cannot appeal to all customers. All well and good in a busy club with enough new customers regularly coming in, but the wider appeal you have, the less you have to work to find the customers that you naturally have rapport with. It's ok to alter your approach based on who you're with -- take being talkative for example. Some customers will totally dig it. Others, not so much. If you notice that someone is giving you one word answers, nodding or giving otherwise noncommittal responses to your statements, or even just looking around while you're talking, those are good indicators that this customer is not into talkative dancers and you'd be wise to tone it down a bit.

    Customers give you so much information about what kind of night they want to have -- from what they're drinking, to their body language, what they talk about, and sometimes they even explicitly say it -- so why wouldn't you take advantage of that information and tailor your approach accordingly? Work smarter, not harder! Not only is it better for your $$$ but it's just good customer service.

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    Default Re: "I figured you were new because you talk a lot."

    Some girls make a lot of money talking to the guys...they're usually regulars who will keep coming back to spend money on her and they're just lonely or something so they like having someone to talk with in addition to the whole stripper experience. But for me personally I don't like chatting with the customers and I'm really not good at it anyways so if someone gets too talkative with me I'm on to the next one! I do well moving around from one the other really fast and I usually just try to hit up a lot of the guys who are in their 20s or early 30s they usually don't have as much money as the older ones but theyre not going to try to talk my face off or get to know my personality or give a lot of thought into what kind of "game" im playing with them. They're just trying to have fun and I work well with that. That may not work for everyone but you just have to find your own style and what you're good at and go with it. I don't usually spend nearly as much time with my customers as most of the girls and I really don't even have regulars but I still end up making as much or more money than them at the end of the night because I have my own game plan that works for me

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    Default Re: "I figured you were new because you talk a lot."

    OP, your going to meet a lot of guys, that will remind you this guys attitude. Stay away from those guys. I hate the guys that think they are too proud to pay for it. There will also be guys that wont give you money but will want dinner, they are timewasters too.

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    Default Re: "I figured you were new because you talk a lot."

    Any time a guy says they know the game or start trying to give you pointers on how to do your job, just walk away.


    Or start playing with their mind XD

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    Default Re: "I figured you were new because you talk a lot."

    Listen hun, some guys are super insecure and enjoy saying whatever they think will make a woman feel insecure, too. He said that to try and make you feel bad about yourself, plain and simple. Every dancer has a different personality and different approach and you will need several different tactics for different types of customers. But you already know this and you probably are able to guess when a guy is less interested in conversation. Believe in yourself and don't let anyone's shitty attitude get you down.

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    Default Re: "I figured you were new because you talk a lot."

    My, what a gentleman! *sarcasm* I HATE rude assholes like that! I would have been like "uh okay, goodbye!" and moved right on to the next one. These are precisely the kinds of guys you want to avoid.

    He needs to stay at home with his ex dancer wife if he's "too good" for dances. Imagine how shitty he must feel about himself to have to act like he's "better" and "knows more" about dancing than a girl who is brand freaking new! can we say "LOSER!"

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    Default Re: "I figured you were new because you talk a lot."

    I'd be embarrassed if this was my husband. What a FUCKING tool. *Gag*

    As soon as someone says some shit like that, just walk away. That's a time waster. Also, guys who claim they're friends with the manager.

    Basically, someone who "thinks he knows it all bc he is friends/fucking someone in the business", is a time waster.

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