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    I'm still very new but I cant help but feel very lonely doing this job. I guess because I have no one to talk to about since no one knows what I do. The few that know anything think I'm just a bodyrub girl doing incalls in a hotel. I don't know if I'm just Pmsing or what but I feel very lonely the last couple days plus my constant paranoia having any issues with LE is a huge stress over my head. I've only had 4 clients so far I'm so far kind of liking the job but my constant stress about LE issues and having no one to talk to about anything is making it kind of hard to relax. My agency says they thoroughly screen so not to worry but I'm so new to this I cant help but worry. I may be happier indy and being a low volume provider but I cant afford to go indy right now, I'm backed up with bills as I mentioned in other posts. I'm only working twice a week for the full days because I'm so scared the more I do it the more chances I have of having problems. I don't even stay over the hotel the whole night because it just feels lonely. It may just be new girl jitters. Weird I'm usually a loner which is why I don't know why I'm feeling like this. I MUST be PMSing, lol. Any input?

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    IMO the isolation is the worst part of escorting. But you have to learn to deal with solitude. It is to protect yourself. During your time in the biz many people (some on purpose some on accident) will cause you a lot of trouble once they get entangled into your life. The only person you can really trust is yourself.

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    I love escorting so to me the loneliness is worth it. My best friend is an escort too but when I first started it didn't make a difference. I was living at my incall location and working six days a week except for nights. It was the only way for me to work at the time. For the first week or two it was a lot of fun but then I started to get extremely lonely. I would hate coming "home" and would cry every night. I would beg her to spend time with me. I've always been a loner as well. I'm totally fine now. I look forward to trips alone. It's like a getaway for me. I'm super paranoid about LE too. I still haven't figured out how to stop that. What do you do in between calls? I usually read, get on my laptop or count my money and tell myself it's all worth it. I'll think about what I want to do when I get back home as well. How I want to treat myself, my savings growing, etc. I've always liked the idea about writing about my job. Like a diary or whatever. I guess with time you'll be able to tell if it's a good fit for you. Good luck

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    I think the biz is really tough because of the isolation. In normal jobs, it's easy to have co-worker friends to make the job more entertaining/fun but with escorting it feels like women are more closed off to that type of work friendship and keep to themselves to protect their money. I've been escorting for years and in adult entertainment jobs for 8 years and there are days I wish I could vent to someone, talk about my day, or share something funny about an appointment I had without having to keep my thoughts to myself. Just recently, I've begun talking to a newbie provider who's really hilarious and I've been helping her out in order to help her grow her business. She is what ladies would consider my competition because we have the same stats, look, and decent reviews. However I can give less than 2 fucks about considering someone competition. Men love variety and trying out new ladies so clients are bound to see you at some point and she agrees with me on this. I think it's great for ladies to be open to friendships in the industry.....you don't have to share your personal details/information but it's nice to have a non-judgmental person to talk with who is also in the business to make the job more entertaining and easy to do.

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    I've been a regular customer to a fair number of providers over the years and can certainly say that your feelings have been expressed to me many times in conversation. This mix of being thankful for the earning potential and certain lifestyle perks, but also an isolation from friends and family in sharing a very large part of their lives is real. Also, how difficult it is to have a significant other - sometimes not wanting one, sometimes wanting one, but regardless facing challenges that a boxer, lawyer, chef, mine worker, secretary, janitor, etc., wouldn't relate. If the world were fair, a person should be more embarrassed to say they're a bureaucrat than a provider. I'm not telling any provider anything they don't know, I'm just simply saying the you are most definitely not alone in your feelings. As someone who values the work of providers and really values providers as fellow travelers in the human struggle, I'm saddened that the profession isolates in ways that really are unfair. It starts with moralists and social justice warriors keeping sex work illegal and making it law that a woman's choice is not respected. I like to think advocates for legalizing sex work are carrying a light for social change (much like what has occurred in the gay rights movement). One day I hope to see a realistic depiction of a sex worker on a sitcom, in movies, and that bigotry against a persons career choice is slapped down by people in the way now that some people will jump in defense of gays. Fingers crossed, it's unfair you're isolated and feel isolated. I hope you build a safe network and can compartmentalize in a way that the emotional impacts are minimized. Sorry for the soapbox mixed in.
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    Problem is a very good INDEPENDENT sex worker earns more than a lawyer these days and has more time than anyone which is the biggest luxury in my eyes.
    I have talked to doctors and several other academics and was shocked about their earnings.
    For me it is a lifestyle and also a way to be independent while doing my own thing (building a company and traveling).
    I believe that many authorities are very aware of the power women could obtain in society by charging for sexual services without being judged.That is why they program people to believe 90% of sex work is illegal and abusive. This isn't the truth and made up by the media. Most women start out with cheap rates because they don't know what they could really charge. And if it was legal, these poor women wouldn't be trafficked by men bc they could do in their own country.
    Women's sexuality is still OWNED by men, that is why we have to feel guilty for it.
    Because that is a way for them to make money out of us. If we wouldn't be judged, young girls wouldn't look for porn producers or pimps to guide them because they could ask their mothers.
    Well, I might be going too far. But there's something to it, if you're honest.


    I find it funny when guys who are angry bc I don't lower my rates for them, call me a poor, desperate person….while I might be making 5 times their income.
    It's jealousy. Men want to see us desperate and victimized as they have learned to see women from the beginning of their lives.
    This is the best job I have ever done. Best earning, best people I have met, best way I have been treated at work. And I have a very good education. But
    WHY THE FUCK would you like to do something else apart from building some companies and investing which can make you a couple of millions if done the right way.
    It's funny how deluded men's reality on sex workers is although they are fucking fascinated by us.

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    First off, I'd lie to say that I'm so very thankful for this board and all you ladies (and gentlemen!). As lonely as escorting is, coming here and sharing similar experiences helps me to feel less isolated and far more empowered in my decision to be a sex worker. So, thank you all!

    Hobbies are a great way to feel less lonely! I'm a writer/artist which is my top priority these days (I'm working on a novel. One of my main characters is a sex worker!) Anywho, escorting makes it possible to focus my energies on my future endeavors as opposed to working my ass off, not having time to write or live life, and for what? A paycheck to paycheck lifestyle? No, thank you!

    Have you considered recounting your experiences into a blog? I've been considering it for quite some time now.

    The main thing is to STAY BUSY! If you're busy, you won't have time to focus on the negative.

    If all else fails, do what gypsy1 does... count your money! It'll put it all in perspective for you!

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    Also, as for LE:

    I won't lie and tell you that I don't get nervous from time to time, but at the end of the day, I'm realistic. No one wants to get busted, but we're working in a (mostly) illegal industry. Anything can happen. My best advice is to prepare yourself the best you can!

    *Have you properly screened you client? This will reduce a lot of your stress!
    *Do you know any tricks of the trade to help avoid a sting? (Things like grabbing his butt gently during an initial greeting hug to gauge his reaction?)
    *Do you have enough stashed away for bail in case you DO get busted?

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