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    Default Re: How to Break Up with Someone You Live With?

    When you lease expires, move. Don't take him with you.

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    It definitely sounds like y'all need to break up, to me. Since you are ending things, I wouldn't make it uglier by telling him about the dancing unless you feel the need to "come clean." Or if you need a reason to make him accept the breakup. He will definitely consider you dancing behind his back a big ol' ho bag betrayal and will probably talk shit about you. So again, I just wouldn't let him know if possible.

    Since I'm assuming both of your names are on your current lease, that can make things messy. Can he afford to live alone? If not, does he have friends or family he can move in with? I'm guessing since you are more financially stable, you could swing the rent solo. Does your lease end any time soon? That would make things easier legally, at least. If it comes down to it, you may end up having to pay double rent. Your half (or more, if he goes bananas and tries to fuck over your rental history by not paying any rent himself...) plus rent at your new place. For that reason, I would recommend making sure you have a financial cushion or a friendly couch to crash on for a week or two while you regroup.

    I think he will probably react with more anger than you would like, but to best preserve any fondness of each other, I would recommend you just trying to empathize and make decisions that don't fuck him over completely, since he is at a financial disadvantage. FWIW, you aren't a bad person for wanting a guy who can get his money straight. I am more financially responsible than my boyfriend, and it has led to several arguments. Thankfully, he has taken the initiative to improve, but a lot of people don't, and it ruins lives. You can't have an adult relationship with someone who can't take care of himself.

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    Tmi tmi tmi
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    It might have been your idea for him to move, but it was ultimately his decision to do so--you can't blame yourself for a decision another adult made. I would probably sit him down and tell him that while you love him, you aren't fulfilled being in a relationship anymore and want to break up so that you can have more space and freedom. This is a really normal reason for a college-aged relationship to end, and even though he might be hurt or angry, I think deep down he will understand why you need it.

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    Well from experience I can tell you that you don't wanna be with someone who's that bad with money, at least not for a long term relationship. ANd the other bbs might try to kill me with fire for this but a man should be a man, you shouldn't have to be worrying about pulling his weight. He needs to either be a provider or encourage you in your endeavors to provide for yourself. Shape up or ship out.
    Now, conversely, I can understand why stripping would be an issue because he didn't go into the relationship knowing that you were doing that, and you're doing it behind his back. From what you said, it sounds like you have a good chunk of money saved, so maybe you can go into non nude camming or phone sex? Something with no contact, as that seems to be the real issue that he has with dancing. Just my 2 cents.

    tl;dr If you're not happy in this relationship and its feeling like you're hitting a dead end....well, if it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck...

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