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    Hi this is my first post on the SW message board ( I am more of a lurker on here). Anyways I have been webcamming for a few years now, for about two of them I had a regular I would see on Skype once a week. We ended up having a falling out, due to him wanting to meet me.

    I exchanged a few harsh words with him, when he tried to guilt trip me into meeting him and we parted ways. I blocked him on email and Skype and thought I would never hear from him again.

    Recently he found me on a site I rarely use and sent me a long message apologizing for his actions. He told me he couldn't live without me and that he would never try to force me into anything I was uncomfortable with and that he would pay me double for my time.

    I wanted to ask you ladies, if you have ever taken back a customer who drove you crazy in the past ? Did it work out ? Or did you regret it? I am very apprehensive and would love some advice. None of my friends know I webcam and I don't have anyone I can really talk to about this stuff.

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    Unblock him on skype and tell him if you want. Don't communicate with him on the site he found you.

    I would tell him okay, but do again, and you are gone forever. I'm a two strike kinda gal. Fuck up once, ban. Beg for forgiveness, I'll unban, but they will be on a thin line.





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    ^^ I would do the same. He will be good for guilt money at least for a while. Just go into it knowing that eventually you will have to perma ban him.

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    I always give a second chance to people to prove themselves but never the 3rd one, if he will behave good now u at least have something to earn, if he misbehaves then u know u took the right decision to block him the 1st time so u wont doubt urself if u did good or wrong cutting him off of ur life (business). People who dont prove themselves at the 2nd chance given are not worth to stay in ur life (business), u much better without them. Make sure u make him pay big to make up for the loss . Good luck.

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    I wouldn't even replay, honestly. He was trouble before, and trouble should be dumped in the trash. I was herassed in the past by a regular, like bad. He even sent me weird shit at my old address. I did the mistake to believe he changed, then he fucked things even worse. I cut any contact, had to even change my number cause he managed somehow to find out and now I'm fine.
    Right now, your guy hopes he will get close to you again, so he can try to "build" a relationship. It's in his words, he can't live without you, next week he'll say he can't breath without your love. Seriously, money is not worth that stress.

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    ^^^ It turned out that every time i gave a second chance it was not worth giving it actually, yes if somebody fucks it up once they will do it again & normally is worse the 2nd time. Several experiences like this here.

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    I would block him. There is plenty of no drama money elsewhere. Whatever he is paying is probably not worth the stress of putting up with him creeping you.

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    I've taken back a few but it usually doesn't end well once we've fallen out. At first I'm thinking maybe it's worth it to "make double" and the 2nd he acts up, again, block him. However, his response to you told him that you WILL have issues in the future. He's stated "I can't live without you." and his "offering double" pay. This is a means for control. He's using his money to bait you into doing what he wants you to do and his not being able to live without you shows he's attached/addicted to you.

    Men who are in these stages are usually not thinking clearly and are far too gone. These are signs that he will act up again-be it making you feel guilty again, threatening to stop buying shows, etc. Men who have their heart and money invested in a virtual model are usually the worst kinds because eventually, they always want more. As soon as you take that hope away, their reality crashes through and that's when they usually retract their money as well. I've been through it a dozen times over the years.

    At the end of the day, it's you OP that should always be 100% in control of the situation. 2 years weekly is amazing but the shelf life of a customer varies and your sanity is more important. I feel your customer feels you owe him for his "dedication" and has expectations that aren't in your job description. You performed for his money, which is a fair exchange, and that is ALL you should ever be held accountable for. Everything else is mixing real life with fantasy and that's where things can get dangerous.




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    I agree about the guys who think they are in love. It is always really bizarre to me when a regular announces his undying love towards me. It is usually a sign that the relationship wont last much longer. It is weird but I feel the most compromised in those situations.
    It feels so unnatural to me, to lead a guy on in this way. I much prefer just masturbating with some one else. I started webcamming because I really like masturbating. I didn't realize all of the extra stuff it entails but I cant complain because it can be a pretty sweet gig.

    Thank you Ladies for all of your advice, I think I will probably not give him a second chance. I remember being a wreck before I would go on to Skype with him because I couldn't stand him. I guess money sometimes makes you forget your disdain for some one else.
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    I always am up front when it comes to meeting. I will tell guys first thing that camming is pure fantasy for me and that I never want to meet anyone from my site. I think some guys take this as a challenge. They think if they throw enough money at a girl she will submit to them eventually and when it doesn't happen they get very abusive.
    Luckily like you said these guys are the minority and not the majority. I think most devoted regulars have an expiration date .

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    ^^^ What i tell them when they start to piss me off is "Baby, u did not come on a dating site, right? It's a cam site, i am a cam girl, i am here to make u happy NOW so enjoy me virtually". I had my share of bad experiences with these guys so now i make sure i let them feel "it's business, dont get involved!".
    I rather have my peace than more money and trouble, on long term the price is too high simply dealing with all complications that come from these guys than what it's worth in cash.

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    I will sometimes tell guys who really want to meet me that I have an Okcupid account and they should hit on me, on there and not my camming site.
    I agree about it being more trouble than it is worth. I have lost a lot of money because I refuse to put up with that kind of behavior.
    It is funny I feel like, it is a lot easier to replace a regular than it is for a regular to replace a cam girl. I have had quite a few men beg me for forgiveness once I banned them. I seldom respond to their pleas. As much as it sucks losing a guy who spends a lot of money on you, there is always another guy right around the corner
    Last edited by Ladycat; 08-19-2015 at 02:04 PM.

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