Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 25 of 29

Thread: Do you say that you're a dancer?

  1. #1
    Featured Member lilylilylily's Avatar
    Joined
    Mar 2015
    Posts
    1,171
    Thanks
    7,496
    Thanked 2,800 Times in 937 Posts
    My Mood
    Angelic

    Default Do you say that you're a dancer?

    What do you say when you go to the dentist, doctor, hairdresser, etc.. when they ask what you do for a living? I don't tell them i dance cuz it's personal and wish I could tell them its none of their business lol. What do you tell them?

  2. #2
    Featured Member wednesday86's Avatar
    Joined
    Mar 2014
    Posts
    1,911
    Thanks
    2,498
    Thanked 6,402 Times in 1,573 Posts

    Default Re: Do you say that you're a dancer?

    it depends on my mood, but I always tell hairdressers so they get the point that I have to look good for work and they better not screw my hair up. Edited to add: otherwise I just tell them I'm a stay at home mom, or I run ebay from home. Sometimes I'll tell them I'm a bartender. But usually "stay at home mom" steers them into talking about my kid and not my job.

  3. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to wednesday86 For This Useful Post:


  4. #3
    God/dess Selina M's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2013
    Location
    Omicron Persei 8
    Posts
    4,508
    Thanks
    12,529
    Thanked 13,934 Times in 3,720 Posts

    Default Re: Do you say that you're a dancer?

    I usually say bartender. Too much crap happens when I tell people dancer, they either treat me like a zoo animal and play 20 questions, or they start overcharging/nickel and diming me since they assume we all hemorrhage money and are idiots.
    "People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."

    "You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave."

  5. The Following 11 Users Say Thank You to Selina M For This Useful Post:


  6. #4
    Member
    Joined
    Jul 2015
    Posts
    21
    Thanks
    89
    Thanked 18 Times in 8 Posts

    Default Re: Do you say that you're a dancer?

    Model

  7. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to spankme For This Useful Post:


  8. #5
    Member
    Joined
    Jan 2014
    Posts
    55
    Thanks
    11
    Thanked 47 Times in 20 Posts

    Default Re: Do you say that you're a dancer?

    Also go the bartender route. I have bartended so I can hold a convo about the industry. Only my close friends or family know what I do. I find it can be very isolating. Also I used to be more honest about being a dancer but I find females especially really look down on you once they know that....sadly.

  9. The Following User Says Thank You to Jessie'sGirl For This Useful Post:


  10. #6
    God/dess tempest666's Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2008
    Location
    Hamburg, Pennsylvania
    Posts
    10,607
    Thanks
    2,705
    Thanked 13,685 Times in 4,414 Posts
    Blog Entries
    5
    My Mood
    In Love

    Default Re: Do you say that you're a dancer?

    I tell them I'm in black market organ trafficking.
    "Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
    Tempest

  11. The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to tempest666 For This Useful Post:


  12. #7
    Senior Member AlysonRose's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2014
    Location
    USA!
    Posts
    134
    Thanks
    148
    Thanked 127 Times in 58 Posts

    Default Re: Do you say that you're a dancer?

    Hairdresser yes because in my experience most hair dressers could careless and probably would dance if they could. Dentist what's the point? And Dr i haven't been asked the one visit I've had since being a dancer.

  13. The Following User Says Thank You to AlysonRose For This Useful Post:


  14. #8
    Featured Member wednesday86's Avatar
    Joined
    Mar 2014
    Posts
    1,911
    Thanks
    2,498
    Thanked 6,402 Times in 1,573 Posts

    Default Re: Do you say that you're a dancer?

    Quote Originally Posted by AlysonRose View Post
    Hairdresser yes because in my experience most hair dressers could careless and probably would dance if they could. Dentist what's the point? And Dr i haven't been asked the one visit I've had since being a dancer.
    I swear half the girls I work with daylight as hairdressers or at least are in some kind of beauty school program.

  15. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to wednesday86 For This Useful Post:


  16. #9
    Featured Member EastCoastDancer01's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2014
    Location
    USA
    Posts
    1,046
    Thanks
    4,135
    Thanked 2,799 Times in 862 Posts

    Default Re: Do you say that you're a dancer?

    No. I either say that I bartend (typical) or that I do data entry work at home from my laptop. Most of the time I go with the latter because a lot of times when I say I bartend, people will ask me what bar I work at.

  17. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to EastCoastDancer01 For This Useful Post:


  18. #10
    Featured Member lilylilylily's Avatar
    Joined
    Mar 2015
    Posts
    1,171
    Thanks
    7,496
    Thanked 2,800 Times in 937 Posts
    My Mood
    Angelic

    Default Re: Do you say that you're a dancer?

    I would always say I waitress because I used to, but that always led to more questions. I will probably use data entry from now on or some kind of office work where I can easily change the subject after.

  19. The Following User Says Thank You to lilylilylily For This Useful Post:


  20. #11
    Featured Member Danni's Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2005
    Location
    Champagne room
    Posts
    768
    Thanks
    335
    Thanked 624 Times in 291 Posts
    My Mood
    Daring

    Default Re: Do you say that you're a dancer?

    nope nope and nope. Like someone already said...don't feel like playing 20 questions and dealing with the severe reaction either positive or negative. I say bartender because technically I have been bartending for the last 10 years on and off. And if they ask where I say a private club or at my friend's bar that's like 40 mins away in a college town so they wouldn't ever venture that way.
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
    Quote Originally Posted by Kisa7513 View Post
    You can only make so much selling dances, but when you really get into a guys head and heart, you get into his wallet.

  21. #12
    Veteran Member fishielicious's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2014
    Posts
    212
    Thanks
    206
    Thanked 326 Times in 142 Posts

    Default Re: Do you say that you're a dancer?

    My hairdresser knows because she is awesome and wants to help me make my hair the best for my job. She's always coming up with new ideas for how I could make it look best in the club. I think she's more invested in my hair than I am.

    I used to tell everyone but as I just mentioned in another thread, I got broken of that habit really quickly by bad backlash. More people in my life know that I would like, now, but I typically just tell randos that I'm a TA (as that was my old job) or a waitress (I cocktailed before I started dancing), and I'm about to start a part-time gig bartending on Friday, so I've just started telling people that.

  22. #13
    God/dess
    Joined
    Jul 2011
    Location
    Down Under
    Posts
    2,078
    Thanks
    4,898
    Thanked 2,463 Times in 1,135 Posts
    My Mood
    Cheeky

    Default Re: Do you say that you're a dancer?

    Quote Originally Posted by lilylilylily View Post
    What do you say when you go to the dentist, doctor, hairdresser, etc.. when they ask what you do for a living? I don't tell them i dance cuz it's personal and wish I could tell them its none of their business lol. What do you tell them?
    ^Argh, I hate chatty people who you can't escape from lol! I know it's polite to engage and build rapport, but it makes me uncomfortable and I usually say that I'm a "student", work in "hospitality" or that I'm "in between jobs right now" etc.

    Honestly, it's none of their business and even if I were "public" about how I earn a living I still wouldn't disclose my profession for the fear of offending someone or making them uncomfortable lol.
    “Give a girl the right shoes and she can conquer the world” -Marilyn Monroe

    "True sexiness has many facets-confidence, strength, intelligence, and humor. It isn’t just about trying to look sexy; it’s an art and one becomes skillful in it when she realizes that there are all these conflicting elements that all come together to make something magical"-Dita Von Teese

  23. #14
    Featured Member
    Joined
    Nov 2012
    Location
    Canada
    Posts
    1,733
    Thanks
    6,163
    Thanked 4,086 Times in 1,309 Posts

    Default Re: Do you say that you're a dancer?

    I'm a full-time student so I simply say it's my main job lol

  24. #15
    Veteran Member littlelizard's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2014
    Posts
    368
    Thanks
    359
    Thanked 470 Times in 194 Posts

    Default Re: Do you say that you're a dancer?

    I'm a student too, so I'll say that. Sometimes I say I'm a stripper, but mostly I'll say waitress, because that's my pre-stripping job.

  25. #16
    Moderator charlie61's Avatar
    Joined
    Apr 2008
    Posts
    13,467
    Thanks
    10,869
    Thanked 20,995 Times in 6,795 Posts

    Default Re: Do you say that you're a dancer?

    99.99% of the time, when I tell someone I dance / have danced, I end up regretting it. I'm learning to swallow my pride and lie / avoid the truth. Saves me lots of headaches and lots of wondering whether someone did _________ because they know about my job (I can rule that out as a possibility). If someone doesn't absolutely need to know, I don't tell them.

    ...I'm still working on this though. I have a huge chip on my shoulder about my job (since it's a big part of my adult life), and I feel super resentful that I 'have' to hide it, especially when I see an opportunity to change someone's mind about stereotypes and whatnot. But it's in my own self interest to hide it. I go back and forth on my resolve to keep it a secret.

    I say that I'm a student, instead, or that I spend most of my time volunteering, or other half-truths.

  26. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to charlie61 For This Useful Post:


  27. #17
    Featured Member
    Joined
    Sep 2013
    Posts
    877
    Thanks
    173
    Thanked 704 Times in 291 Posts

    Default Re: Do you say that you're a dancer?

    One time when I was getting my nails done she asked me what I did. At first I didn't want to tell her but I did in the end and then she said she was a dancer too!! It was too funny

  28. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to newb2 For This Useful Post:


  29. #18
    God/dess whirlerz's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2004
    Location
    Midwest
    Posts
    27,134
    Thanks
    55,898
    Thanked 26,028 Times in 13,271 Posts
    Blog Entries
    1
    My Mood
    Aggressive

    Default Re: Do you say that you're a dancer?

    I just say freelance artist, convention worker, or any combo of those & more. I usually change the subject right quick too.


    MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP

    -Eartha Kitt

  30. #19
    Veteran Member Daniellaa's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2015
    Posts
    293
    Thanks
    206
    Thanked 686 Times in 230 Posts

    Default Re: Do you say that you're a dancer?

    The chick who does my hair knows what I do cuz we have mutual friends and have hung out a few times and everybody knows what I do. I've never been asked by a doctor or anybody like that so I don't know what I would do. Im so honest about what I do but I feel like in that situation I might lie and say im in school or something and im not even sure why. People never really ask me what I do for a living I think because im pretty young and just because of they way I look I don't think I look like someone who would actually have a real job lol.

  31. #20
    Senior Member
    Joined
    Dec 2013
    Posts
    137
    Thanks
    3
    Thanked 69 Times in 31 Posts

    Default Re: Do you say that you're a dancer?

    I tell people my morning job, restaraunt hostess, and always add that I dance on the side. I have never felt secretive with this information to anyone EXCEPT my coworkers and managers at the restaraunt.

  32. #21
    Member
    Joined
    Oct 2014
    Posts
    54
    Thanks
    600
    Thanked 94 Times in 35 Posts
    My Mood
    Devilish

    Default Re: Do you say that you're a dancer?

    I say I'm a nanny or babysitter. It can explain all the cash and it's boring enough people don't ask much follow-up questions!

  33. #22
    Veteran Member jadey23's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2012
    Location
    Los Angeles
    Posts
    329
    Thanks
    468
    Thanked 494 Times in 169 Posts
    My Mood
    Sleepy

    Default Re: Do you say that you're a dancer?

    Bartender, student. I name a bar that I used to work at but its really far from where I live now.

    One time I brought in a ton of singles to the bank and the teller jokingly asked me what I do (she overstepped w that one) -- I told her my family owns a vending machine company lol
    Unsophisticated in the finest sense of the word.

  34. The Following User Says Thank You to jadey23 For This Useful Post:


  35. #23
    Veteran Member
    Joined
    Nov 2009
    Posts
    223
    Thanks
    291
    Thanked 384 Times in 160 Posts

    Default Re: Do you say that you're a dancer?

    I rarely tell people I dance. I hate the million questions that often precede it, and women that try to peg you down or men who want to sleep with you purely so they can have had sex with a stripper.

    I told the doctors a few times to get medical certs so i didn't get fined for missing my shifts and most of them have been ok about it, kinda interested but not judgemental.

  36. #24
    Veteran Member
    Joined
    Sep 2014
    Posts
    491
    Thanks
    193
    Thanked 826 Times in 287 Posts

    Default Re: Do you say that you're a dancer?

    Never. It just makes life harder.
    Dress to kill the wallet.

  37. #25
    Newbie
    Joined
    May 2015
    Posts
    14
    Thanks
    6
    Thanked 11 Times in 7 Posts

    Default Re: Do you say that you're a dancer?

    My cerologist knows. Lol.
    I haven't even told my therapist, thought I'm gonna when I get a new one, because I think that's the only way to properly explain my dissociation and not have it looked at like "oooh, Psych major".
    Other than that, there's no reason. I'm a full time student, have another job in an office, and I'm now a teacher at my pole studio. I've got lotsa stuff to talk about.
    It's shitty that I get to talk about my pole dancing but not the fact that I dance. I've slipped up a few times at my day job and been like "ooh, it's gonna be nice? Thats it! not going to work". That's not a thing for civies. oops.

Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast

Similar Threads

  1. Replies: 10
    Last Post: 09-15-2015, 03:51 AM
  2. Private Party Exotic Dancer, GoGo Dancer, Female Bartenders
    By Jazmine Kelly in forum Dancing Jobs
    Replies: 0
    Last Post: 05-30-2013, 02:54 AM
  3. Do White Dancer Make More Cash$$ That Blk.dancer??
    By MADAM LIZZ in forum Stripping (was Stripping General)
    Replies: 69
    Last Post: 07-08-2006, 03:36 AM
  4. sometimes i feel stupid being a dancer when non-dancer staff at the club makes more
    By miabella in forum Stripping (was Stripping General)
    Replies: 12
    Last Post: 02-12-2006, 02:19 PM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •