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    Default Already made an enemy at new club?

    Soo I started at a new club about a week ago. I've been dancing a little over a year and have never had any enemies or even small arguments with another girl.

    Well tonight, at the end of the last song of my stage set, one of the customers said he wanted to go do some dances. I said okay, grabbed my ones and lingerie and walked over to him. Well, as I'm coming over, the next girl comes on stage and it just so happens he's the first guy she approaches. She immediately goes over and starts dancing in his lap (I don't think this was intentional, it seemed she was just doing her set). I sat down at the table right by the stage for him since he had told me he was ready, but wasn't actually at her stage or talking to him. I got the impression he didn't want to rudely walk away from her as she was dancing in his lap, but was obviously ready to go since he had literally just told me that.

    He then looks over and calls me down to sit at the girl's rack with him. I told him I didn't think that was allowed, but he assured me girls did this all the time. Earlier in the night, I had actually seen a few dancers chilling and tipping at other girls' stages, plus this guy was apparently a well-known regular, so I assumed he was correct.

    Well, as soon as I sit down at her rack the bouncer comes over and tells me I can't do that. I felt bad/embarrassed and walked away to grab a drink. As soon as she gets off stage, I walk over to apologize and explain that I was confused by what he said and wasn't trying to be malicious towards her. She in turn gets really pissed, and flat out accuses me of trying to steal her customer. Her response exactly "Honey I've been dancing for 19 years. I know the difference between when a bitch is trying to wait and steal my customer versus what you're saying you were doing." I then said "No, that's not it at all, you can ask him yourself - it was a misunderstanding and I'm sorry." She then said "You're making this a far bigger deal than it is. You should have waited until I was in the dressing room to apologize, instead you apologize in front of the customer and drag him into it. Now you're causing a scene."

    At this point I was just annoyed. I said "Actually you're the one causing the scene by bitching at me when I was trying to say sorry. Forget I even apologized, I take it back" and walked away. She muttered something but I didn't hear.

    I actually felt terrible at first because I shouldn't have trusted what a customer said over basic stripper etiquette, I realize this was a dumb bitch move. At the same time it was an honest mistake and I felt she was unnecessarily bitchy. Should I just avoid her in the future? Was I completely in the wrong?

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    I would just let it roll off your back really. Don't discuss the issue with other girls bc it just looks like drama. I think she'll get over it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Prettyglitter View Post
    I would just let it roll off your back really. Don't discuss the issue with other girls bc it just looks like drama. I think she'll get over it.
    Thanks, I definitely won't discuss it with other girls. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't being a bitch from other girls' perspectives

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    I don't think so because you did apologize. I've had girls walk up to customers I was with while I was talking or dancing with them and they definitely didn't give me an apology so...
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    Default Re: Already made an enemy at new club?

    Don't sweat it unless she continues to make scenes, complain, & otherwise be nasty to you. Yes what you did was kind of a bitch move -- but it stemmed from a misunderstanding, & in your defence, I have worked in clubs where the conduct of customers+dancers at another girl's rail was viewed a bit more leniently. Plus, you tried to smooth things over. Not much more you can do abt it now, sounds like you've cleared up your understanding of that club's rules & all you can do now is move forward from it.

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    Default Re: Already made an enemy at new club?

    F*ck that hoe.

    You tried to apologize which is noble cause most broads in the club don't have common decency to admit their wrong doings.

    And why the hell was she even dancing in his lap when she should have been on the stage? The club where I work lap dancing on the main floor is a huge no no.

    She should have been lucky you didn't pull him for VIP cause then she wouldn't have had as much stage money.

    And I'm not a fan of pulling dudes from the stage for vip but hey if it's super slow or I haven't made payout and its 3 hours in, then everyone on the main floor is fair game.

    When I was new I'd apologize for my mishaps so no one would retaliate over some dumb misunderstanding. But now I only apologize if it's major and the girl is level headed. Otherwise I just apologize inside my head and hope the apology is transmitted through ESP.
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    Default Re: Already made an enemy at new club?

    I don't think you did anything wrong. He wanted you to dance for him, she didn't know and was trying to get a sale, but she needed to not lose her shit. However, I would not have apologized directly to her; I think that opened a can of worms; and I think that bouncer was full of shit, if other girls had been sitting at the rack.

    Just avoid her in future, let her be a bitch and let her shitty attitude reflect into a shitty night for her. Girls are usually bitchy bc they aren't doing very well and want to lash out.
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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    F*ck that hoe.

    You tried to apologize which is noble cause most broads in the club don't have common decency to admit their wrong doings.

    And why the hell was she even dancing in his lap when she should have been on the stage? The club where I work lap dancing on the main floor is a huge no no.

    I'm not a fan of pulling dudes from the stage for vip but hey if it's super slow or I haven't made payout and its 3 hours in, then everyone on the main floor is fair game.

    When I was new I'd apologize for my mishaps so no one would retaliate over some dumb misunderstanding. But now I only apologize if it's major and the girl is level headed. Otherwise I just apologize inside my head and hope the apology is transmitted through ESP.
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    Just avoid her in future, let her be a bitch and let her shitty attitude reflect into a shitty night for her. Girls are usually bitchy bc they aren't doing very well and want to lash out.
    THIS^^ She bitches @ you for apologizing?? when she's trying to nab the guy by dancing in his lap
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    Default Re: Already made an enemy at new club?

    FWIW I do think it would have been better to take the apology into the DR, rather than catching her right after she comes off stage (presumably while on the floor), but this dancer also made a mountain out a molehill so I wouldn't worry about it.

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    Default Re: Already made an enemy at new club?

    New club, new Drama. be glad you didnt have a house mother scold you too!

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