Hi all,
I was going to give an update when a little more time had passed but I saw some more replies to my thread so here I go.
The short of it is that my husband has responded seemingly well to the ultimatum that was issued about 3 weeks ago. The ultimatum was as follows:
1. Quit the strippers and spend the effort on his family
2. Get professional help
3. I contact an attorney and find out what my options are
If he goes out again, and does not seek some sort of professional help within 24 hours, then that triggers option 3.
To be clear, he had spent $5.5K up in July -- not $5.5K/year. I went back over this year's finances and he's really on an every two week schedule, I think I was giving him the benefit of the doubt in some of my other posts. And also to be clear, I stopped talking to a friend that I was most definitely not fucking nor sexting with simply because my husband was not comfortable with it. I still think this is a bit insane, particularly given the hypocrisy in leash length here, but that's what he needs to feel secure so that's a sacrifice worth making. I need to see the same courtesy extended to me.
I can say that I've been enjoying the fruit of his efforts -- I love having him more engaged not only with me but the kids too. He's been trying focus on his other, more family-friendly hobbies and cut down a bit on the drinking at home. I married him for many reasons, and I still see all of those. With that said, he's going out with friends tomorrow night, and I'll admit I'm afraid of the disappointment I'll feel if he makes the wrong decisions.
Lastly, you guys are awesome, and another benefit of this community has been that all of the talk about pancake butts on some other thread got me back on Bret Contreras' weightlifting ass program. It's really my way of giving back to society![]()



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